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Too old and fat for new tattoos?

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Tattoothoughts · 16/06/2024 19:21

I’ve always loved art and tattoos and wanted several, but stopped when younger out of respect for my parents who absolutely hated them and were quite vocal about it. Then, in my 20s, I got two small tattoos in discrete locations and my parents were ok about it, but not exactly fans, and I got the standard “well, if you like them…” passive aggressive comments. But now, my much younger sister, who has a very “I don’t give a fuck” attitude, is covered in them, including one on her neck!! My parents haven’t batted an eyelid. So, I feel like I also want to say “fuck it” and get the art I’ve always desired. But, I’m 37, plus-sized (18-20), with two kids and a very average lifestyle (I could be considered boring, but I’m happy). So WIBU and weird to get some more tats? I’d love a half sleeve or maybe something on a thigh. I dress on the slightly alternative, gothy side, so my tattoos would be in a similar vein. Is this an early midlife crisis?!

OP posts:
BookArt · 16/06/2024 21:40

Life is short, do what YOU want!!

DramaAlpaca · 16/06/2024 20:43

I'll admit that I thoroughly dislike tattoos.

But OP, you're 37, plenty old enough to decide on what you want to do with your own body. You know now that it doesn't matter what your parents think. It's nothing to do with a midlife crisis, more about realising that yes you can do what you want with your own body. You want to do it, so do it!

Penguinfeet24 · 16/06/2024 20:42

Never too old or fat! I'm 45, size 18 and I just got a new one on my arm which ended up being massive and I love it! Now planning the next one! When anyone says 'what do you think you'll look like at 70 with that on you?' I say exactly what I look like now, but older! '. Your life, your body, have what you like, when you like - you only get one life.

LondonFox · 16/06/2024 20:42

Unless you are decomposing corpse in a pool of oil, you are not to old or fat for it.

That being said, think about a job you do, future career and implications of visible tatoos and message they have.

DracoDormiensNumquamTittilandum · 16/06/2024 20:38

Get the tattoos! I'm older than you and not a sylph but I love mine and I'm going to get more!! Go for it

MistressoftheDarkSide · 16/06/2024 20:37

Another here saying go for it.

I only have one small tattoo on my upper arm but always wanted more - alas, finances don't allow at present, but I really want a replica of one my late DP had on his chest - a sort of burning heart design which I'd like his portrait in as well. At 55 I think I'm allowed to do that, and sod everyone else. He had loads of tattoos and they reflected his unique personality and style - every one had a meaning.

As he would have said - wave your freak flag high ❤️‍🔥

Unforgettablefire · 16/06/2024 20:37

37 too old? Bloody hell no way some people haven't even got their first at that age! Go for it 😁

Lovemusic82 · 16/06/2024 20:34

Never too old or too fat 😉

Im 42, I have some pretty awful body art from when I was in my late teens, if I had the money I would have something to cover them, maybe a sleeve or bigger brighter tattoos (mine have faded).

Those moaning that they look awful….that’s your personal choice, OP likes them so she should get them.

BigPussyEnergy · 16/06/2024 20:30

I got my first for my 50th birthday and I don’t give a fuck what anyone thinks tbh. Now or in 20 years time. I definitely want more too.

I think they look awesome on someone curvy and quirky and it sounds like you’ll have something unusual and personal. I kind of wish mine was a bit less generic but I was so eager to get one done that I couldn’t wait to come up with something else!

PurpleWhiteGreen123 · 16/06/2024 20:29

I want one.
I'm 46 and plus sized.
Just divorced, my ex hated tattoos on women and I always wanted one, but out of "respect" I held back.
My ex's nephew is in his early 20s and has some awesome tatts, but my ex thought they were ugly.
Yes, I'm going through a midlife crisis, doing stuff I was never allowed to during my marriage, but if I don't do them now, I will forever have regrets.
Life is short. Find a reputable artist and go for it!

EverythingYouDoIsaBalloon · 16/06/2024 20:28

Go for it OP!

theowlwhisperer · 16/06/2024 20:23

you won't look any younger, your skin won't look any younger without tattoo. Even if you were 80 years old, you wouldn't be too old for goodness sakes.

Too fat? It's up to you. If you are planning on trying a new lifestyle and genuinely intend to lose weight, I might wait, your skin will take a beating. If you are not too worried about the skin getting a bit crunched up, again, go for it.

We are all getting older. It's tiresome when people shout "midlife crisis" when you have to wait a bit to have time/ money/ or chance to do something, anything.

Summerflames · 16/06/2024 20:18

I got my tatt at 36. Planning on more now I'm 38. Just need to decide what I want.

My sister asked me if it was a mid-life crisis 😅 I told her no, it's a glow-up.

Juicyj1993 · 16/06/2024 20:11

Do it. Get them.

thefamous5 · 16/06/2024 20:06

I'm 39 and a size 24...I have nine tattoos and planning at least two more this year.

Go for it!

UnpackingBooksFromBoxes · 16/06/2024 20:00

I’m 52 and have been thinking about it for over 10 years. Two weeks ago I got my first tattoo. I adore it. I’m thrilled with it and I’m even surprised how much I love it. Two hours £175 well spent in my opinion. I have always worried what my parents (76) would say, but they were fine. I won’t be getting any more though.

NotMyCircusNotMyProblem · 16/06/2024 19:57

Tramp stamps... that's what my mother called them 😂

I have 4 of them... soon to be 5.
If it makes you happy, go for it 👍

Tattoothoughts · 16/06/2024 19:56

Thank you @TheWoofers and @Pocketfullofdogtreats for your responses. I really respect both of you for admitting they’re not your thing but still being supportive of those who do like them. I do wonder if my parents feel a bit like this now DSis has so many, and they’ve realised they’re really not that bad. Maybe I should have just got the big tats when I was younger?

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IDontFeelItAnymore · 16/06/2024 19:55

Kitkatcatflap · 16/06/2024 19:27

Midlife crisis - not a fan

Knowing who you are and what you want and being unafraid to pursue it as you get older - I'm a huge fan.

IDontFeelItAnymore · 16/06/2024 19:54

I didn't get my first tattoo until my mid-30s and I was a size 18 then. Now I've got four. Just do whatever it is you want to do. Nobody else is really interested enough in others to think deeply about your choices tbh.

Tattoothoughts · 16/06/2024 19:52

theeyeofdoe · 16/06/2024 19:32

They look awful on everyone old, young, fat, thin at the time of getting them and look even worse 20 years later.
It’s your body though, if you want to get a horrible neck tattoo get one.

Sorry, I’m not sure of your opinions of tattoos there? 🤔

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BouleDeSuif · 16/06/2024 19:50

Do it! I'm 42, fat and have 4 and will be getting another.

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 16/06/2024 19:46

Life is short, do whatever makes you happy.

Tattooedcoffeeaddict · 16/06/2024 19:45

Please do it! Life is not only too short for regrets but in the grand scheme of time we are only on the planet for less than a split second anyway! Make it a good split second and all that 😁

You are never too old to get tattooed! They are a major passion of mine and I plan to be getting them until I die. Just maybe in shorter and shorter sittings because they really do get more painful the older you get!

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 16/06/2024 19:45

Blimey, I was expecting you to say you're in your 60s!
I hate tattoos. My dch know I hate tattoos. I persuaded DD when she was a teenager not to get one. She is now 30 and she's recently got two discreet ones that aren't on show to anyone but herself, and you know what? I'm proud of her, for making up her own mind as an adult.
Get your tattoos if they're what you want - your parents can make their own decisions for themselves.

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