Things you miss from before having kids

@Smellslikechikenoutthere Alton Towers do a late night Halloween Evening. It;s such fun.

I think just putting yourself first is the main thing I miss, and sleep.

I made myself some chips the other night and forgot they were in the oven (I turned it off) they sat there for 2 days until the next time I made dinner, that just sums up having young kids for me you put everyone's lifejacket on but forget your own etc etc!

Honestly I think every parent craves it hun it's not just you and don't feel guilty to crave your old life now and then having children is a huge change!! I mean I love my children absolutely adore them, they are my world but some days I just think mehhhh wish I could just bugger off on a plane for a week 🤣🤷🏼‍♀️ when your a mum too sometimes life becomes robotic cleaning, cooking and washing repeat! I wish I could have a sh*t in peace but that won't happen for a while 🤣 my kids are 13,11,8 and 1 I'll be 50 when my youngest is 18 and I tell you what I don't care how old I am I'm doing everything I haven't done since I was 19 when I had my first child 😊. It is funny though because I know damn well when they all fly the best eventually I will miss them and won't really know what too do with myself 🤣🙈 can't really win hey?

Caribbean holidays
My waist

When they were younger - sleep

Having a halfway decent relationship with my husband where I don’t feel angry and resentful about 75% of the time because so much shit seems to be landing in my lap.

Haha I love this post! I literally day dream about my life when the kids have grown up and what I will do:

Reading in peace and more often as barely get anytime these days!

Having sex and being loud and not having to be quiet and it always being a quickie!

Being able to go away abroad multiple times a year.

Only having to clean up after myself

Being able to make my home look more attractive and have nicer things in it without thinking I can't have that as I have children

Being able to go out on the weekends and meet friends for coffee and lunch or even nights out!

Not feeling guilty for buying myself something nice and then feeling bad and having to get the kids something too yet they are well and truly looked after and have everything they need🙈🤣

Having a nicer car as I know the interior wouldn't get ruined by spilt food or drinks and shoes on chairs.

Soo your post is basically everything I think about but I wanted too add these 🤣

My two are 13 and 15
I do all on the list ( except the sex) - I'm single.
It gets easier!

I miss all the things but also the ability to be poorly in peace!

I miss being able to go out without either taking the kids or waiting for my husband to come home so I can go out. However, they are 7 and 9 this year so we are getting closer to being able to nip to the shop or go for a run when I want to.

I miss being able to actually sleep in late sometimes. Years of waking up with the kids mean that once it hits 7am I can't even snooze. Good for when I want to get up and get stuff done but sometimes I want to actually he asleep at 8am. Not sure if this will ever come back 😕

It's difficult to remember what life was like, I left Uni at 22 and had my eldest at 28 so there wasn't a huge amount of years of living a real adult life.

It was quieter but I quite liked the background noise children make (when they aren't being too loud and annoying!!)

I’ve got all that back now apart from the one about only pleasing myself with food! If I could make one chore disappear… and I don’t really do any of the cooking but I do the online shopping and breakfasts and weekend lunches (dh will do this too if he’s about at the weekends), it’s just relentless!
I do miss evenings to ourselves but mostly the older 2 will be out or working or with their boyfriends and it’s just ds at home with us. I’d love to be able to just ‘be’ of an evening instead of playing a game or hearing a joke or helping with homework or watching shit tv 😂
BUT I can lie in, go out, drink a few boozy ones on a Saturday night, have weekends away with friends (mind you I did this even when they were very small!), have holidays away just with dh, read a book in an afternoon, loads of stuff just for me. I’ve always spent money on myself and never felt guilty for it.
And I do get so much joy from spending time with my kids, they are a lot of fun and get on with each other. They’re brilliant company.
It does get easier op and anyone else wondering if it will.

Travelling. My children have severe allergies. We don't go abroad yet. It wouldn't be a holiday as I'd be anxious every time they ate.

Yep. DS is 5 and yesterday I may have said to DH "I hate parenting at the moment, 80% of the time." I just want to be left alone to go to the toilet, gulp down a cup of tea, have a shower or indeed sleep past 6 on a Sunday. It's nearly as demanding as breastfeeding a newborn. He just follows us around, demanding stuff. Weekends are meant to be enjoyable!

My perineum

My size 12 or 14 figure

Walking around London going to museums all day Saturday

Going out on Saturday night without a care in the world

Before DD I had lovely long hair and nice skin. When I look back at photos I want to cry. I have no problems with getting older, but the speed of which it happened has bothered me. I lost so much hair post partum and my hairline has never recovered.

I used to take really long luxurious baths and play loads of video games. My energy levels are now at quick shower and doom scrolling.

I miss DH and I just deciding at 9pm to go for a walk and get snacks and being out the door in 30 seconds.

i miss taking time with my make up and outfits. Comfort is key now.

i miss not having a drooping long belly. I can’t blame it solely on pregnancy but C section and two abdominal surgeries in 3 years really did a number on me and my belly looks like it’s melted now.

my vision! It got so much worse during pregnancy and never recovered.

I miss my sex life. It almost has to be scheduled now because I can’t fully relax once DD is in bed - I expect her to wake up. So we have to wait for opportunities when we work from home and she’s at nursery.

Totally understand. It’s funny written down but in real life it isn’t.

If parenting was an actual job I’d have resigned this week!

I just miss being me and not being ‘mum’. My almost 6 year old is so active and he’s untireable. It’s like whatever I do it’s never enough and it makes me feel shit.
I have my dissertation due in in 2 weeks and my son will just not leave me be for 5 minutes 😩

Id like to pee in peace too, without my child shouting through the door “Are you having a poo mummy?”

I really miss only one thing; being able to slam the door of my flat and just...go. Just go out, without having to first sort out pram, kid, sun cream, toys, wipes, changes of clothes etc 😅

Mine are young teens and I miss

1. sex - without having to be very discreet, and keep one ear open. And as a pp said, feeling like a sexual being.
2. not worrying - I’m always a bit anxious about something. Ds is autistic and I’m sure I always will.
3. Spontaneous travelling - autism makes this trickier.

So many of the other things have returned, and it’s lovely being able to enjoy some of them with the dc.

But I also miss my little children. So much! Don’t get me wrong because I love my teens too. I’d just like to have my babies, toddlers and young school age dc as well. Fortunately dh wouldn’t let me keep going. And anyway I don’t want more dc, just my own ones in all their loveliness.

1. Sleeping when I want and waking up naturally
2. Freedom to do what I want when I want
3. As you say, rainy weekends as an excuse to sit on the sofa and binge-watch
4. parkruns (now clash with swimming lessons)
5. Running four times a week, and having sufficient fitness for it to feel like I am near my peak and it feeling like an achievement
6. Regular running events, ie half-marathons
7. Related to the two above - getting joy from my own achievements, rather than my DC's... Don't get me wrong, it is great revelling in their achievements and effort, but it sometimes does make me miss my own
8. Not having to cook if I don't feel like it (I used to love cooking; I now can't stand it!)
9. Cheap holidays

The thing is, you never appreciate the things you have when you have them.

And, although having children is a huge source of worry, I do find that it puts most other worries I had before children into perspective.

Full night of sleep. Ohhhh I miss it so much.

Oh please don't feel guilty!!
It's a nice idea and I know what you meant!
It just made me think. Thats all x

Peace . Both peace and quiet and lack of fighting.

Having a car that didn't have to be so family friendly.

Not feeling like a sheepdog or referee rounding everyone up and stopping fighting

Probably not much else. Although I miss only having one child, as it was much easier to do everything with one. It was cheaper too.