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.. in finding Fathers’ Day a little bit naff?

85 replies

iCod · 16/06/2024 16:39

Yeah, so dads are great, loving your dad is great, giving your dad a present is great, but the whole concept of Father’s Day for me is a bit like baby showers - that’s to say a modern invention that doesn’t quite sit right with me.

I don’t do it - dad’s dead now anyway - but we even now don’t give gifts and giant chocolate bars saying DAD.

are you a Father’s Day late adopter ? Or a refusenik? A Marshall Pétain standing firm against a Father’s Day onslaught?

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GalileoHumpkins · 16/06/2024 17:09

Do you do anything for your mum or if you have kids expect them to do something for you? You sound a bit of a curmudgeon with a dad grudge tbh.

AhBiscuits · 16/06/2024 17:07

I sent my dad a card and called him this morning for a chat. We went to a pub for a roast with FIL, DH and the kids, it was lovely. The children enjoyed making cards and choosing things to put in the snack hamper we put together. None of it a huge fuss and enjoyed by all.
I think it's nice 💁

CoastalCalm · 16/06/2024 17:07

It’s not modern at all , and I’ve always celebrated it and so do everyone I know. I lost my Dad in 2022 , just been for a trip to his grave to put flowers on and wish him a happy Father’s Day

Miley1967 · 16/06/2024 17:06

My dad hates any fuss and doesn't even want a card, but it's nice for my kids to show dh that they appreciate him.

ThankFitsFriday · 16/06/2024 17:06

I think both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are becoming a bit over the top.

Both my partner and I have parents that split up many years ago and both sets of parents are remarried so for example for Father’s Day we bought for our dads and step dads, plus I bought a gift for my partner off my DD and a gift off her for her dad, so in total we / I bought 6 gifts and hosted a dinner - it’s becoming expensive. I only buy token gifts, nothing extravagant but it all adds up..

ThiswillDoItsfine · 16/06/2024 17:05

I think it's lovely to show appreciation for somebody. Alot of people will say you should show that all year, but life is busy no matter how hard we try. I think just having that day outside of a birthday is a positive thing, and gives an excuse to say things that may be perceived as OTT at other times.

As for the consumerism, it is your choice obviously, whether you take part in that. You can celebrate the day in what ever way you choose, whether that is a token gift, or just a walk etc.

I've always loved spending father's day with my dear Dad, who passed a few months ago. I enjoyed baking him his favourite cake, a thoughtful gift etc. An extra day to appreciate somebody you love is always a winner in my book.

TheChippendenSpook · 16/06/2024 17:05

It's just the same as Mother's day. Why can't good dads be celebrated just as good mums are, one day a year?

ThiswillDoItsfine · 16/06/2024 17:01

Do you feel the same about Mother's day, Easter, birthdays, Christmas?

SwingTheMonkey · 16/06/2024 17:00

It’s no more naff than Mother’s Day.

x2boys · 16/06/2024 16:57

Well its not that modern Google suggests, we have Been celebrating fathers day since 1910
I don't go all out with it just a token present and card .