.. in finding Fathers’ Day a little bit naff?

Please tell me you were behind the naked dress and horrible swimming costume post 🎊

Don't be such a misery

I don't think any 'holiday' that makes people happy is naff.

Not just the recipient, but the people making the effort.

My children absolutely love to make/choose cards for both mothers and Father's Day, choose some sweets and chocolates, take them breakfast in bed etc.

My dad died when I was a child, so the years that I will be involved with the celebrations are limited to when our children are old enough to do it alone.

I will say though....if I have to make my partner one more drink today I may spit in it 🤣🤣

I'm in my 50s and we always recognised father's day. Not a huge fuss, same as for MD. Card (generally hand drawn) and small present. Present was always a "treat", flowers, nice wine, book.

It was definitely celebrated in the 80s as I was born on Father's Day in 1980 and remember family going on about it!

My dad has cancer and I love celebrating him - he is a wonderful man. We always celebrated it. And DH is a fantastic dad to DS so we celebrate him too

We got DH a carrot cake, had lunch at a place of his choosing and Dd made him a card. Not too much fuss, probably less than he deserves tbh. I don’t think it’s a bad thing to sit down once a year and have a think about what you love about your dad and put it in a card.

My own dad was shite so I think it’s nice to encourage Dd to reflect on their relationship once in a while.

Agree. My parents never engaged with this stuff when I was a child and I don’t ask my own children to either. Eventually it will morph into special food, special decorations, particular expectations from other people being the driver. All marketing and trash for one day.

Ah it's nice to have specisl days to celebrate people, don't be so curmudgeonly

I don't subscribe to it either usually however this year I happen to be in the location where both my parents are buried therefore I went and placed flowers and must admit I shed a tear . My Dad died almost 4 decades ago when I was very young and I thought it quite fitting I am.here. though it wasn't planned to coincide with father's day. I would have felt the same on any other day to be fair.

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To be honest, I am never going to not do something because it's 'naff' anyway. I don't really give a shit about naffness.

I was born in the 60s and yes Father's Day was a thing then. It was declared an 'official' holiday here in the same year as in the US - 1972, though it was celebrated before then too.
If you have Mother's Day you should have Fathers Day. How do you think traditions start anyway?

Yep. Find Mothers’ Day naff too.

Regardless of the origin, isn't it best to treat your mum and your dad equally?

Despite what MN might make you believe, the world is full of hands-on dedicated dads who do an awful lot for their family, and are just a great parent as the mum - sometimes more let's be honest.

Kids celebrate each parent in turn, what's wrong with that.

Do you feel the same about Mother's Day?
The traditional British Mothering Sunday wasn't about celebrating mothers

It doesn’t need to be a commercialised thing.

I got DH a canvas of photos of our third DC to go alongside the two we have of our DDs. I was going to get it anyway but gave it to him for Father’s Day. DD1 wrote in the cards and DD2 made a picture at preschool. DS did footprint art at his baby session.

DF got some money from my DSis and I to buy clothes for his holiday. My DC gave him an updated photo mousemat.

I would do very similar for Mother’s Day. We don’t go on big days out or for meals. DH had bacon butties as a treat today and he normally organises breakfast in bed for me. It’s nice to show our appreciation for each other and from our DC whilst they’re still too young to do it themselves.

Totally naff. We have never "celebrated" it in our family.

I just send my dad a card and phone him to have a chat on the day. There's really no need to do anything naff.

We celebrate mother's day and father's day. Why not?! Parenting is hard work and it's nice to have a day when you are treated and feel appreciated.
My DH works so hard to support our family - we wouldn't we give him a gift and a card and let him choose what we do for the day?
I don't see father's day as being a modern, American thing like baby showers. I'm 50 this year and remember celebrating father's day in the 80s.

I have celebrated Mothers' Day for as long as I can remember. I don't remember Fathers' Day being a thing before I was an adult.

My parents divorced 30 years ago.

My parents are dead now, but when they were alive we only celebrated Mothers' Day.

My Dad was an easy person to love and celebrate every day of the year. His death was devastating to me and my siblings. He was a wonderful man. We didn't need a contrived "special" day to celebrate him, we celebrated him all year. He was in agreement that it was a load of nonsense and sufficiently confident of our love not to need or want tatty tokens.

My mother on the other hand was an abusive narcissist. We celebrated Mothers' Day partly out of habit and partly because there would be hell to pay if we didn't. She needed reassurance of our "love" on Mothers' Day, because she knew in her heart that we didn't love her and that she didn't love us.

My dad's been dead 24 years. My kids dad (ex husband) died 3 years ago accidentally aged 53. The youngest 16 and oldest 26 wanted to go to where his ashes were scattered today so I drove them up with oldests GF and we had lunch and an ice cream. Middle child was at the cinema with her BF. It's all cool with me. I do what makes them happy in the situation. Same on his birthday, anniversary and Christmas

Yeah, it seems a bit daft tbh. The original concept of 'mothering Sunday' doesn't need a male equivalent.
My dearly departed dad did bugger all day to day parenting, lovely as he was. Plus he didn't even know his own birthday, never mind wanting random cards just for happening to be a man with offspring. Lol.

Why is it naff for people to want to celebrate their Father's. A good dad has a major impact on a child's life, and we should recognize that. My dad is sadly gone now, but I loved spoiling him with a little something. My kids equally look forward to getting something special for their dad just to say thank you, we love you, and appreciate everything you do for us.

It doesn't have to be "naff" though, unless you want it to be. You can celebrate it in which ever way you choose surely.

It's what you make of it, the kids give DH a card they made at school. I pop down to my dad with a card and box of chocs or bottle of whiskey and we have a bit of a visit. Similar to mother's day for us really, it's a bit of something nice so I always think why not.

Of course it's naff, like all these commercialised days, eg Mothers Day, Valentine's Day etc. But, bizarrely, some people seem to like it, so I can't blame the companies for wanting to make profits from it.