To ask how to potty train a resistant 3 year old?

Could you use this to your advantage? So tell him that he needs to wee on the potty before he goes out otherwise he might end up with wet pants while he is out and then you'd just have to come home again?

Why shouldn't you reward the effort of your child weeing in a potty rather than on the floor, not to mention having to take time out from playing to go? I see it as encouragement, I think the jokey use of the word bribery just makes it sound negative.

I was the queen of bribery encouragement in my desperation. Ds's reward was a huge toy combine. It was incredibly impressive but sadly had absolutely no impact on my incredibly stubborn (and later to be diagnosed as autistic) child. We tried at least 3 or 4 times to potty train before he cracked it, it was an awful experience right up there with sleeping and weaning.

OP I think you have to expect lots of accidents and just battle on as best you can. It's even more stressful when you have such a small window of time but you can only do what you (and he) can do. But if 'encouragement' works for him then i say embrace it whole heartedly.

Sometimes the hows and whys just don’t work in a child’s brain. There are plenty of opportunities to teach being instrinsically motivated. When there’s stubbornness involved it isnt always the time.
but hey what would I know, degree in childhood development and 20+ years of experience potty training both my own and hundreds of others🤷‍♀️
have a lovely day 💐

Just be more stubborn than him. No more nappies, just pants and let him get wet. Put blankets on sofas etc but it’s now big toilet not potty. No negotiation, kids are like terrorists don’t negotiate with either. This is how it’s going to be. You take him to toilet every 10 mins. Praise him but stay calm and no reaction to wetting, just matter of fact. I would let him be wet for a minute each time so he feels how uncomfortable it is. If he can hold it he can be potty trained. It sounds like you let him rule the roost a bit much. He must go outside or he kicks off? So what tell him off rather than give him what he wants all the time. Who’s the parent?

Just let him have accidents. We had several months of accidents before we cracked it.

Go cold turkey - no nappies except for sleeping. He might still have accidents when he starts school but hopefully not too many a day! We had 3 a day until 3 years 7 months, and after that something clicked and she mostly stopped.

This is what we did.
Stay home, the child needs to be able to feel the wet.
Reward was a smartie.
Gradually the child gets into a routine. We found weeing on toilet was likely before the bathtime, when first up in the mornings and about an hour after a meal.

We did lie a nappy underneath child in the car for a few months in case of accidents, after they were trained.

Chocolate

Ds started nursery at 2 years, 4 months. Also not uk. Also ‘ they need to be trained before hand’

As soon as he turned 2, I started so we had 3+ months before September start. Babybjorn toilet seat and step, best for boys not peeing over the top. Plus nursery has no potty’s just small toilets so makes it easier for them.

Take him every hour to the toilet the first 3 days. If he sits he gets a chocolate, if he wees another one. If he goes, then take to toilet again about 90mins later to try. Then back to hourly until he goes. Might need every 30 mins if he pees a lot to start with.

Just let him play indoors with pants and T-shirt on so just one layer. I never did naked training, as he couldn’t be naked outside or at nursery.

ds showed no signs of being ‘ready’ at 2 when I started and was dry within a few days. So highly recommend starting early with next. If I trained Ds at 3+ he would have been too argumentative

Ha, get away with you. Not going to outline what this groundwork is then supermum?

Does it have to be a potty? Can you get a padded seat that rests on top of the usual toilet seat, making it smaller and more comfortable, and a step up to it?

Then just very casually say, 'I know you don't like the potty and you are quite a big boy now so when you're ready, let me know and you cnn use the grown up loo instead. You get one chocolate button for a wee and two for a poo. tell me when your tummy needs to go, so I can help you not have an accident.

Then see what happens.

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Sorry I can see looking back that you don't have a garden.

Thinking of our local area, I would take DS outside into the bit of grass behind our house without pants, it's not totally private but it's not really public either. Or I'd take him to a quiet local park or field or something, or maybe see if I can confide in a local friend who doesn't mind us hanging out in her garden. Or with the lightweight type shorts - I'm thinking pyjama shorts kind of thing so it's very very light cotton and feels similar to being naked, as well as being easy to get on and off. Usually pretty cheap to buy and if he does have accidents in them you can just rinse them out and leave to dry in the sun rather than putting through a whole wash cycle.

You say you can't let him run around naked - not at all? Is there nowhere this would be usual for toddlers where you live? Do you have a garden?

What about very minimal clothing like swimming trunks, or very thin cotton shorts (no pants) in a colour (e.g. light grey, light-mid blue) where it will be immediately obvious if he starts weeing - that could work?

I think I'd try this for a few days, and avoid situations where it would be disastrous (public transport, shops) but go for walks, outdoor places like parks, in own car for VERY short stretches perhaps with a towel under him in the car seat, and try and catch as many as you can.

If you can get to a point where he's having fewer accidents you could look at some of the cloth nappy type reusable training pants. They feel like pants, they are a tiny bit thicker to protect clothing/environment a bit but they will let them feel wet. They catch a dribble of wee if they can stop themselves. If they are more prone to just continue weeing once they have started, then they are no use. But these might afford him enough grace to avoid embarrassment at school.

Agree with others, commit to no nappies at all during the day and ditch pull up pants. You will have lots of cleaning up to do but he will eventually get it. Shame nursery aren’t being more supportive.