I’m 40. Two young kids. Married to a nice man. He is self employed and the main earner. I am part-time Self employed in a small biz I don’t like anymore, and earning is limited.
I’m very, very sad and have been for a long time. Nobody knows.
I have sacrificed my time and body to have kids, who I love very much. But now I’m 40 I’m desperate to find my own identity and career again. I am skilled in a creative art and want to pursue that for my career… but there is NEVER ANY TIME.
we are refurbishing a house and allllllll my husband’s time (outside of work) is taken up by it. While I am grateful for his hard work, he can’t seem to see how much I am sacrificing taking on 80-90% of the childcare in order to make space for him to work and do the refurb. Deadlines are continually pushed back and back and back….
I have begun to hate him and my business, and desperately want out. I’m actually jealous of my friends who are separated, hard as I know it has been for them in so many ways.
I haven’t told anyone but have become increasingly angry and irritable at H. When we try to talk about anything he is kind & talks a good game seeming to understand… but nothing ever changes.
am I peri menopausal? Has anyone else been through this identity crisis after kids, or at this age? I am just full of sadness and rage.
if I could leave I would, but I know it would destroy the kids lives and our families who believe in us so much. We are the ‘successful ones’ in their eyes.
I feel like my life is disappearing without me getting to make a difference and a mark in the world. I crave some kind of recognition and success on my own terms, and decent money too.
I know this is first world problems, please be gentle with me, I feel so fragile at the moment. I’m usually everyone’s rock, looking after elderly parents and siblings as well as my kids and H, but I can’t stand it any more