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Friend poked my hip and said ‘beep beep’

64 replies

Lizbob1 · 16/06/2024 02:08

I was standing in a bar wearing a nice pair of trousers with a top and talking to a friend when she suddenly poked the side of my hip twice (my flesh was exposed as my top had ridden up ever so slightly) and said ‘beep beep’. I think it was meant as a sly dig about my hip fat/exposed flesh but AIBU? It made me feel very self conscious and a bit violated. Bit maybe I overreacted?

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MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 16/06/2024 09:30

Yes you are overreacting

Bestyearever2024 · 16/06/2024 09:25

I actually disagree with many PP, OP

A 'friend' poking my skin/fat which was poking out of my clothes/where my clothing had ridden up and making a strange noise to attract attention to the skin/fat.....is fucking rude

Very rude indeed

graceinspace999 · 16/06/2024 09:23

Catnipcupcakes · 16/06/2024 02:40

What does ‘beep beep’ mean?

Get out of the way or I’ll run you over with my imaginary car 😂

AstonMartha · 16/06/2024 09:21

Surely you asked what she meant?

Iwantmyoldnameback · 16/06/2024 09:21

ArseholeCatIsABlackAndWhiteCat · 16/06/2024 09:13

Why didn't you ask HER? We're not mind readers or know her personally so can't tell if she was being playful,making fat digs,warning you your top was up or identifying as a truck.

This - no need to be aggressive or defensive just ask "what does that mean?'

StikItToTheMan · 16/06/2024 09:20

I have a bad habit of saying 'beep beep' for 'move please'.

It started with the dc when they were toddlers. Then it naturally phased out.

Then when we got a puppy 2 years ago for some reason I started saying it to her and it's now a firmly ingrained command so we can't change it 😂 She knows 'beep beep' means move and will immediately get down from her place on the sofa/move from where she's standing.

Due to that it's still an often used phrase around the home and sometimes it just slips out to a person when what I mean is 'excuse me please' 😂😂

sadmum27 · 16/06/2024 09:18

Do you like your friend?

HappierTimesAhead · 16/06/2024 09:16

I think it's a weird thing to do and a weird choice of words BUT not that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things. I have done a lot of weird stuff in my time that I would now cringe about. I find social situations bring out the worst in me.

whyhavetheygotsomany · 16/06/2024 09:15

She was just being silly

ArseholeCatIsABlackAndWhiteCat · 16/06/2024 09:13

Why didn't you ask HER? We're not mind readers or know her personally so can't tell if she was being playful,making fat digs,warning you your top was up or identifying as a truck.

JoanOgden · 16/06/2024 08:46

I'd be annoyed by this tbh and can't imagine any of my friends doing it

OptimismvsRealism · 16/06/2024 08:45

She poked you in your fat and everyone here thinks that's fine???????

I'd want to headbutt her.

CammyChameleon · 16/06/2024 08:42

One time at an old job (when I was still an idiot teenager) my boss was walking backwards a few steps, and I impulsively made the beep...beep...beep noise that large trucks make when they're reversing to warn you that they can't see you.

I didn't mean to make a fat joke, I just thought "lol she's reversing and can't see me, like a truck" and thankfully she did laugh it off after asking "Are you comparing me to a truck?!" and watching me splutter in horror.

It's now one of those embarrassing memories that play in my brain when I'm trying to sleep at 3am.

ThreeDimensional · 16/06/2024 08:35

I don't really agree with previous posters. I think it's super weird of your friend. Poking you? Seriously? And the "beep beep" is just ambiguous and a bizarre thing to say.

TheRealSlimShandy · 16/06/2024 08:30

She was either

  1. trying to get past you
  2. alerting you to the fact that your top had ridden up

I don’t see why either of those are a reason to be offended.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 16/06/2024 08:30

Are you sure it was your friend who said 'beep, beep' could it have been a release of pressure from your bottom when prodded?

ThePoshUns · 16/06/2024 08:29

Violated? God help you in getting through life.

Luxell934 · 16/06/2024 08:28

🤣🤣🤣

Was trying to get past you?

BitOutOfPractice · 16/06/2024 08:27

Bit maybe I overreacted?

How did you react?

Johnhasalongmoustache · 16/06/2024 08:26

Not sure the OP will be back

WonderingWanda · 16/06/2024 08:26

Surely beep beep means move over or move out the way? Not sure how you've extrapolated that she was fat shaming you from that unless you were already feeling quite self conscious in the outfit.

Maytorain · 16/06/2024 08:25

I say beep beep all the time to my young children, as a way to say, excuse me I’m coming through. (Like a car would beep)

UtterlyOtterly · 16/06/2024 08:22

You honestly felt violated?

Gently OP, you need to work on your resilience. I would not have given it a moment's thought.

maudelovesharold · 16/06/2024 08:21

I would have taken ‘beep beep’ as a friendly warning that you had some flesh exposed when you might not realise. And I would have been really grateful if someone thought to hold my shirt down to stop it riding up when I was taking a jumper off!

Roseyjane · 16/06/2024 08:12

Violated? Seriously?