Friend poked my hip and said ‘beep beep’

Nearly 20 years ago, a friend jokingly called me a fat bustard, she was a good stone heavier than me. Although it was a bit upsetting, it was the spark for me to focus on getting my weight down, and changing my lifestyle. Now at 70, so pleased that I did. Most of my overweight friends of a similar age have mobility issues, diabetes and other weight related issues. I did put a lot back on, but getting close to 70 was a spur to get my weight down again - I want to enjoy as many years of retirement as I can before ailments take my life over. So, yes, it is natural to feel offended, but I would recommend stepping back, check your weight, and if you are over a healthy weight, try to lose a bit. By the way, I have got very close to the healthy bmi band but not quite, that is my next objective.

World's gone mad....😂
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It's a bit odd but I wouldn't get het up about it because you don't know what she actually meant by it. I wouldn't like it either but she may not have meant anything unkind by it.

This is what I would assume if someone did that to me.

I'd do that to let someone know they were exposing flesh when it wasn't intended, just being playful.

You sound like hard work

Maybe don't lose this friend, you might find it hard to make some more

Sounds like someone was trying to get past and she wanted you to move out of the way.
If it’s niggling you then I’d ask her why she did it.
Doesn’t sound like she was trying to have a dig at you.

If i say beep beep to a friend it is to ask then to move out of my way

Well, I might feel "violated" if a stranger did it. But from a friend, I'd consider it a sign of affection - like you might playfully poke a child's tummy if their T shirt had ridden up.

I hate being poked, and I do feel weirdly violated when someone likes me, even a child, but that's my issue. I would have just assumed the person wanted me to move out of the way. No big deal.

That's what I would have assumed. That they wanted to get past or for you to move to one side.

Haven't RTFT but surely "beep beep" just means "move out of the way"?

She meant beep beep like a car horn -making you aware that your top had ridden up. It wasn't a dig about weight. From a stranger I'd think it a bit odd, but from a friend I'd be fine (like I'd be fine if they pointed out I had food in my teeth or smudged make up).

You over thinking this.
Honestly to many people now get offended with things that mean nothing.

I think violated is going a bit far but I wouldn't appreciate being poked in my exposed flab either op. She probably didn't mean anything by it but I'd hate that.

She is jealous of you. If she's done similar things before, consider her as a frenemy. Real friends wouldn't want you to feel bad about yourself.

Stupid question over a stupid thing. If that’s all you have to worry about, think yourself lucky!!

I think they were looking out for you. I've seen boobs exposed in that situation.

Bit maybe I overreacted?

How do we know? You didn't tell us how you reacted? 🤷‍♂️

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Reminds me of when my youngest dc first started nursery and I was shopping without a child sitting in the trolley seat. I bumped trolleys with another one coming round the corner of the aisle and found myself saying “Oops, CRASH!” to the other trolley driver!

I seriously wonder how some people manage to get out of bed in the mornings, get dressed and do a day's work without finding anything and everything offensive.
Thank god I'm in my 60s with about 20 years max before I check out for good 🤣🤣

YABU. You are overreacting and you're reading far too deeply into an incredibly harmless interaction.

Well it depends. Is she known for making sly digs at people including her friends or are you known for taking things over personally and projecting your insecurities on to what other people innocently say?

Why didn't you just ask her instead of asking on here? Much easier than us guessing what she meant.