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Can you give me some good phrases to use on these kids?

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2024ccz · 16/06/2024 00:04

Kids are year 5 I think. Everytime I pick up my child they will walk with me and my children and say random silly things such as on Friday one said I told him my daughters birthday is October (it’s actually August!). I have no idea who these kids are and I can 100% say I have never had a conversation with this boy! I ignored him and just smiled and focused on my kids. They kept walking with us I kept smiling. I know it sounds ridiculous that I’m bothered but you imagine putting up with this for past year on almost weekly basis.

There was a TA walking along behind us too. How would you react? My DD had no idea who they are but said she sees them in after school club sometimes. Would you speak to the school? I’m thinking not as I will sound crazy! I’m thinking next time I’ll politely say something but what?

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MissingMoominMamma · 16/06/2024 00:47

Sorry kids- don’t want to be rude, but this is our catch-up time, so we can’t walk with you today.

If you do that often enough, they might get the message.

SNMummy2024 · 16/06/2024 00:40

Can't you just say something like 'bugger off you annoying little sods'

Yes I'm quite mean but kids today are entitled gobby little brats, stick it to them lol

PippyLongTits · 16/06/2024 00:21

If they walk with you, stop walking for a minute and let them go on their way. Stop and tie your shoe, look in your bag for something, ask your kid if they remembered their jumper/calculator/PE kit and double back for it.

StarOf · 16/06/2024 00:20

Could you walk a different way to see if they continue to follow you?

purpleme12 · 16/06/2024 00:19

2024ccz · 16/06/2024 00:17

Why not? I also don’t think I should, but curious why you think I shouldn’t either.

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Going by this information on here, what would be the point?
They haven't technically done anything wrong have they
There's nothing the teacher can do
It's not like they're insulting someone or being aggressive

ShowerOfShites · 16/06/2024 00:18

You can't speak to the teacher if you haven't spoken to the kids.

I get that they're annoying and yes, they probably are making fun of you but if you really want them to stop, tell them firmly to walk ahead or something.

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2024ccz · 16/06/2024 00:18

Sorry everyone I have to get to sleep soon. But I will check responses tomorrow and hopefully next Friday don’t be same issue! Goodnight x

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purpleme12 · 16/06/2024 00:15

No I don't think you should talk to the teacher

Why not? I also don’t think I should, but curious why you think I shouldn’t either.

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2024ccz · 16/06/2024 00:16

Thank you all! I thought I would get weird responses that they’re y5 and I’m being silly. I kind of feel they take the piss out of me and DD.

What can I say to them? I am on the spectrum but very few people know and most of my friends I tell had no idea so I mask it very well.

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TomeTome · 16/06/2024 00:16

Ask them what their names are. Then say, it’s nice to meet you do your parents know where you are?

purpleme12 · 16/06/2024 00:15

No I don't think you should talk to the teacher

purpleme12 · 16/06/2024 00:15

2024ccz · 16/06/2024 00:07

@purpleme12 but am I encouraging them by smiling?

I guess you don't have to smile.
We're not there so hard to say exactly what it's like.
Why don't you try not smiling and see how it goes

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2024ccz · 16/06/2024 00:13

Should I speak to my daughters teacher? I just don’t like that they walk with us and don’t feel comfortable engaging with them as I don’t know them or their parents. I just feel a little like they are taking the piss. I know they’re only young but I do feel there’s no need for this random things.

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2024ccz · 16/06/2024 00:09

@ShowerOfShites thank you! I just feel it’s really odd behaviour. It does make me feel really weirded out. Maybe this is normal? But my kids wouldn’t do this

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vodkaredbullgirl · 16/06/2024 00:08

Ignore

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2024ccz · 16/06/2024 00:07

@purpleme12 but am I encouraging them by smiling?

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ShowerOfShites · 16/06/2024 00:07

Well if it's mostly just Fridays, surely you can ignore them?

Just don't entertain or speak to them and they'll get bored.

purpleme12 · 16/06/2024 00:07

I'm not really sure there's much you can without being rude
I think it sounds like your doing the right thing just giving a non committal response

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2024ccz · 16/06/2024 00:06

In the beginning they would just run along next to us and I thought they were just being friendly and we were walking in same direction like everyone else but now they say random things which annoys me. It’s mostly Fridays I see them. I don’t know their names either.

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