to expect some old timers of MN to be twirling & scuttling around still

wizzofwotz · 2024-06-15T18:27:06+00:00

Haven't been here for probably 15+ years. Went absent, never dipped back in . But today something made me think of the MN support, the laughs, life's highs & lows shared when insomnia kicked after my little DDs were tucked up in bed. DDs are grown and flown the nest. On reflection it was time well spent. Even the cliquey and other shitty bits. Hope you all keep twirling and scuttling around. If you're new keep with it, it will all pan out.

Funkyfizz · 21/06/2024 21:32

Go read the missing lad thread and tell me you prefer it now.

Funkyfizz · 21/06/2024 21:31

Most of the thread derailing was done on troll threads.

MissAmbrosia · 21/06/2024 21:21

Thread derailing was very common. Actually in some cases it was probably a troll who had their efforts completely and much deservedly spoiled by discussions of cake or Peter Andre. Other times, they did gang up on posters they didn't like. It's something you don't really see any more. It's more likely nowadays that the thread gets deleted - which is something that was really rare back in the day and was worthy of note and several TAAT.

Hepzibar · 21/06/2024 21:12

Thepeopleversuswork · 21/06/2024 20:12

I joined in about 2012 and it was VERY clicquey (and I am pretty confident and relaxed about that sort of thing).

Endless back slapping and in jokes from the same four or five people which would run over pages and pages and was incomprehensible to a newbie.

It wasn’t nasty just a bit tedious; you were always trying to decipher someone else’s jokes. A bit like being on the sidelines of a group of A girls at school. I actually prefer it today.

A very good description of 'back in the day' @Thepeopleversuswork

I joined at same time and it absolutely was like being on the sidelines, not quite fitting in, not being 'in on the joke'.

You don't see the 'thread derailing' as much. Or the 'thread killer', that seemed to be very prevalent.

The name dropping is less.

And the 'I'm bonafide - naice ham, cancel the cheque..' posts are less

Much prefer it now

CormorantStrikesBack · 21/06/2024 20:39

Housebuyingfamily · 21/06/2024 19:11

Genuine question for no reason other than interest as I wasn’t around - did there used to be an obviously posh / private school contingent?

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I wouldn’t say private school level of posh. But there was a definite middle class vibe with undertones of lentil weaving. I’m sure some members had their kids at private schools but it wasn’t obvious or a feature of threads.

Funkyfizz · 21/06/2024 20:17

I liked recognising peoples usernames on MN. It was nice to wave and chat with people you 'knew'

Thepeopleversuswork · 21/06/2024 20:12

I joined in about 2012 and it was VERY clicquey (and I am pretty confident and relaxed about that sort of thing).

Endless back slapping and in jokes from the same four or five people which would run over pages and pages and was incomprehensible to a newbie.

It wasn’t nasty just a bit tedious; you were always trying to decipher someone else’s jokes. A bit like being on the sidelines of a group of A girls at school. I actually prefer it today.

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wizzofwotz · 21/06/2024 19:21

@housebuyingfamily I didn't find it like that, but others have said they did. I've been looking at lots of active chat these last few days. Definitely quicker pace, obv more users, so it's probably an even bigger spectrum of opinions shared now from more varied backgrounds.

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ExitPursuedByABare · 21/06/2024 19:18

@RustyBear
I was going to ask the same thing of @LindorDoubleChoc

TheNinthLock · 21/06/2024 19:17

18 years. Many name changes. Kids now young adults.
MM was funnier back in the day. Even the posts by MNHQ were funnier.
More camaraderie.
More of a community.
More genuine support. (Mile for Maude, Pink Peter)
Regular genuinely breathtakingly funny threads (Booble plate)
Now it’s high anxiety, highly argumentative, fake funniness and not very nice.
I pop in occasionally. I always leave disappointed.

Housebuyingfamily · 21/06/2024 19:11

Screamingabdabz · 15/06/2024 20:23

I prefer it now. Fewer Sloane Rangers and in-group out-group mentality. And yes, I’m afraid the price for diversity is more muggles. Which means it’s a bit rougher and no jolly hockey sticks and hilarious boarding school vernacular. That suits me.

Genuine question for no reason other than interest as I wasn’t around - did there used to be an obviously posh / private school contingent?

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wizzofwotz · 21/06/2024 18:37

MissAmbrosia · 21/06/2024 18:32

The cliques were sometimes funny but sometimes extremely frustrating. It was part of the vibe then. Someone would post something serious and then a whole gang would arrive and post drivel to derail the thread.

Indeed sometimes it was like wading through custard oh, I agree.

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MissAmbrosia · 21/06/2024 18:32

The cliques were sometimes funny but sometimes extremely frustrating. It was part of the vibe then. Someone would post something serious and then a whole gang would arrive and post drivel to derail the thread.

RustyBear · 21/06/2024 18:16

LindorDoubleChoc · 19/06/2024 20:47

I joined in about 2006 ish, can't remember exactly. I know it was after DS started nursery and I had a little bit of free time, so then or 2007 sounds about right.

I never minded the royalty. I never expected to just start chatting and people engage with me. I understood I was posting on a well-established website. Their unspoken "rules" are what MN made so unique at the time. Some very insecure people are posting on this thread.

People are weird about "cliques". Cliques are just a few or a group of friends. If they don't want to be friends with you ... leave them alone.

Were you a madam?

Chanc · 21/06/2024 16:19

Because people name changed less there was frequent digging up of previous posts. I used to post about my ds and change a few details to make it less identifying. So one month I said he was 6mths then a few weeks later on a different thread said 8mths . Someone dug this up and started raging about the inconsistency like I was some sort of troll (posting about really mundane topics like pushchair sunshades) and others piled on. Was all a bit weird

McDonnellsfriend789 · 21/06/2024 13:26

LindorDoubleChoc · 19/06/2024 20:47

I joined in about 2006 ish, can't remember exactly. I know it was after DS started nursery and I had a little bit of free time, so then or 2007 sounds about right.

I never minded the royalty. I never expected to just start chatting and people engage with me. I understood I was posting on a well-established website. Their unspoken "rules" are what MN made so unique at the time. Some very insecure people are posting on this thread.

People are weird about "cliques". Cliques are just a few or a group of friends. If they don't want to be friends with you ... leave them alone.

Not really. Random groups of friends will usually be friendly and open to newcomers. And the dynamic will be transparent and friendly.

Cliques are groups of individuals who get kicks from excluding others, and who, to that end, have unwritten “rules” and use “in” jokes or language. You still see it on certain threads on here!

BeaFuddled · 20/06/2024 21:03

Some very insecure people are posting on this thread.

You sound quite insecure when you write " I never expected to just start chatting and people engage with me." That's the whole purpose of an Internet chat forum 😂

I understood I was posting on a well-established website. Exactly - not a group's private sorority.

LindorDoubleChoc · 19/06/2024 20:47

I joined in about 2006 ish, can't remember exactly. I know it was after DS started nursery and I had a little bit of free time, so then or 2007 sounds about right.

I never minded the royalty. I never expected to just start chatting and people engage with me. I understood I was posting on a well-established website. Their unspoken "rules" are what MN made so unique at the time. Some very insecure people are posting on this thread.

People are weird about "cliques". Cliques are just a few or a group of friends. If they don't want to be friends with you ... leave them alone.

periodiclabel · 19/06/2024 20:18

oh, I’m so pleased to hear about Bonsoir! Tell her to get back on here

RustyBear · 19/06/2024 18:54

ErrolTheDragon · 17/06/2024 10:37

Soupy?

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Been here since late 2005, namechanged a few times, but always came back to RustyBear. My Mumsnet ‘claim to fame’ is (badly) photoshopping the Mumsnet t shirt onto Soupy the bat.

Buryyiirwhat · 19/06/2024 18:44

Been here for a long time, dipping in and out, various name changes because -well- people!

ssd · 19/06/2024 18:44

That is good news. I remember Bonsoir well.

sweetsardineface · 19/06/2024 12:38

Good news. Thanks.

LettuceTruss · 19/06/2024 10:40

Bonsoir is alive and kicking, I am reliably informed.

Toastedalmonds · 18/06/2024 23:52

I do so hope Bonsoir is ok, she introduced me to Faulke tights! 💕