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To ask how much writing and drawing your 4 year-old does/did?

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MrsSpoonInBlanketSky · 15/06/2024 17:30

DS just turned 4 last month. He has never shown any interest in drawing, let alone writing. I’ve always made a good selection of materials for these activities available to him but he has rarely chosen to use them independently. I’ve just been trying to encourage him this afternoon to scribble something for Father’s Day tomorrow, yet he was done after two minutes. It’s always been like this.

His nursery are very chilled and have always just said not to worry and that it will come when he is ready. They don’t have any concerns about him. Yet I see others his age sit and colour in pictures neatly for quite long periods and, with school looming in September, I’m now wondering if I ought to be doing more to address this.

What was your child(ren) like at this age and was there a point where it ‘just came’? Or did they need some encouragement/pressure and it would have been better to start this sooner rather than later?

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Merrow · 15/06/2024 19:31

DS1 hated all form of mark making, never did it at home despite copious opportunities, even with his beloved cousins who love all craft things he doesn't join in. He's now in reception and remains uninterested. However, he does it at school when he's required to. His letter formation certainly isn't as good as many, but he's getting there. I've raised it with the school at parents evening and the teachers have said not to push it, that at his age and with his personality it's more likely to make him resistant.

Tbskejue · 15/06/2024 19:26

One of my DC loved colouring etc at 4 while the other at 4 was never really bothered but it didn’t cause any issues when they started school and writing etc

SleepingStandingUp · 15/06/2024 19:23

I have twins aged 4, school September.

A can write their 7 letter name independently. B still reminding of the letters and we get some muddled (babbu instead of daddy). A colours correct colours neatly. B colours whatever colours he wants and not inside the lines. Both can draw a figure identifiable as a humanoid, although A will be more detailed. Both will happily sit with pens and paper to draw, but A will do it for longer. A will do the tasks given at nursery, B would rather be outside building or running.

Nursery is happy both are ready for reception and are age appropriate.

Toasticles · 15/06/2024 19:15

At just turned 4 assuming he can make a face with eyes and mouth and has a go at the first letter from his name, and labels his scribbles orally I would be chilled.