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RosaLinn · 2024-06-15T12:43:22+00:00

MN is most likely not the place that will give some valid statistics, but do people have experiences with angry people? That type that actually need intervention? What is that anger caused by?

SmileyHappyPeopleInTheSun · 15/06/2024 17:40

I also think there's a subtext of them ignoring me as a woman with expertise so I'm also simmering on a societal level.

Seems I was temping fate posting - I'm now mildly angry just had some workmen pull up kick bit of the outside phone/intent box really hard few times and when I open the door to ask wtf they thought they were doing said they'd come to do work on it.

When I insisted they hadn't told me I was wrong - I'm stood in front door of said house clearly the home owner - I didn't shout but had to get very insistent they check address - which they refused to do - wtf - till teen DD came and said same - not sure if it was agism or sexism (two females adding up to one man's voice) - they did and oh they're at wrong house .

Wordsmithery · 15/06/2024 17:24

This thread is turning out quite entertaining 🤣

AngryEngine · 15/06/2024 17:21

I'm currently angry with some architects
I'm frustrated at myself for having engaged them
Cross that they have taken so long to produce such crap, inadequate results.
I also think there's a subtext of them ignoring me as a woman with expertise so I'm also simmering on a societal level.
And there's no enough HRT in the world that will solve that and I'm from Slough.

NeedToChangeName · 15/06/2024 17:18

Could be response to trauma ie heightened emotions and fight or flight response when triggered

Sometimes people choose to allow themselves to shout. They're just bullies

SmileyHappyPeopleInTheSun · 15/06/2024 17:12

@HammockFullOfRats it huge isn't.

I've had issue with vitamin pills in winter for my teens being so big they won't even try and take them and as much as I moan I'd have struggled. Now have to check sizes or do fizzy or chewy ones.

Only time I've had a street altercation was in Skegness - 4 hour train journey with young kids and over an hour wait for a taxi before we even got near keys - and the loud mouth group behind manage to bully others in taxi queue to quit - we got to the front and they tried to queue jump - shouting and pushing one tried to grab my eldest child to drag her out taxi and "accidentally" got a case to the groin - taxi driver said we were clearly at front of the queue and wouldn't take them - they backed off - it was aggression and anger to try and bully their way to an outcome.

Sometime anger is a tool to intimidate and sometimes it's a reasonable response to situation.

ArseholeCatIsABlackAndWhiteCat · 15/06/2024 17:12

I had anger issues, well I still do, I just learned how to manage now and I have healthy coping mechanisms.

It was pain, fear, trauma and bottling it all up.

Ponoka7 · 15/06/2024 17:10

Those that need intervention and can't turn it off and on can be caused by, cognitive disorders (including impulse control), learning etc disorders, trauma, brain injury and sometimes personality disorders. Trauma is a massive umbrella and includes, childhood neglect, DV, grief and addiction.

Modestandatinybitsexy · 15/06/2024 17:05

The thread directly after this is how to get revenge

Where do people with anger management issues come from?

2chocolateoranges · 15/06/2024 17:04

I have an angry relative. This is blamed on childhood trauma ( I suffered the same trauma but was a bit younger) , resentment, frustration, depression anything that they can.

i have gone No contact.

LorraLorraShite · 15/06/2024 17:03

Dartford, in my experience

Nottherealslimshady · 15/06/2024 17:02

Poor parenting. They weren't taught to regulate their emotions properly. Either abusive or permissive parenting .

HammockFullOfRats · 15/06/2024 17:01

SmileyHappyPeopleInTheSun · 15/06/2024 16:56

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/adding-omega-3-supplements-diet-may-help-improve-mood-reduce-aggression

https://redcliffelabs.com/myhealth/diabetes/diabetes-and-anger-how-anger-and-diabetes-are-related/

Diets - like above lack of fish oil - or undiagnosed blood sugar problems - can be signs in older people of dementia and other forms of brain damage - some accidents that cause I think temporal lobe damage can led to anger - https://www.flintrehab.com/temporal-lobe-damage/.

Then things like personality, learned behavior - huge amounts of stress for some people - though cortisol studies seem variable and some people just being dicks/bullies and get off on being angry.

Bloody hell, I wouldn't want to swallow that.

FrippEnos · 15/06/2024 17:01

People being deliberately wound up and other people not believing them.

Southwestten · 15/06/2024 17:00

ILikeALemonWedgeInMyGin · 15/06/2024 13:47

Trauma

It can think of plenty of people with anger issues who haven’t suffered serious trauma such as my ex husband (unless you count his mother being disappointed when he failed the entrance exam for his secondary school 40 years ago as trauma.

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RosaLinn · 15/06/2024 16:57

Auntimabelsbudgie · 15/06/2024 16:37

If you want sensible answers. I think you need to reword your title!

Yeah, let’s see how this goes.

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SmileyHappyPeopleInTheSun · 15/06/2024 16:56

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/adding-omega-3-supplements-diet-may-help-improve-mood-reduce-aggression

https://redcliffelabs.com/myhealth/diabetes/diabetes-and-anger-how-anger-and-diabetes-are-related/

Diets - like above lack of fish oil - or undiagnosed blood sugar problems - can be signs in older people of dementia and other forms of brain damage - some accidents that cause I think temporal lobe damage can led to anger - https://www.flintrehab.com/temporal-lobe-damage/.

Then things like personality, learned behavior - huge amounts of stress for some people - though cortisol studies seem variable and some people just being dicks/bullies and get off on being angry.

Omega-3 acids in fish oil may significantly reduce aggression

Taking omega-3 supplements or consuming it via food sources such as fish, flaxseed, and walnuts, may make aggressive and violent outbursts less likely, a new study suggests.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/adding-omega-3-supplements-diet-may-help-improve-mood-reduce-aggression

Planetmuff · 15/06/2024 16:51

"Anger is fear's bodyguard" is my favourite quote.

Anger originates from fear or frustration I think.

Or Swindon.

DaftyLass · 15/06/2024 16:43

As above, anger is natural, but you need to be taught how to manage it. Some people are taught as children, some are not. Some manage to pick up the skills , some get councillors, some stay reactive.

bryceQ · 15/06/2024 16:38

Anger is a natural emotion. But being able to regulate your emotions and nervous system is a whole different thing. Some people have a very narrow window of tolerance and a hyperarousal state leads to frequent and uncontrollable anger.

Auntimabelsbudgie · 15/06/2024 16:37

If you want sensible answers. I think you need to reword your title!

Auntimabelsbudgie · 15/06/2024 16:36

TitusMoan · 15/06/2024 13:53

I was thinking Croydon

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Preparetoturnright · 15/06/2024 14:33

RosaLinn · 15/06/2024 13:56

Feeling thick now. Are people saying these are the towns that in general produce angry people?

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No, of course they aren't 😂

You asked "where" these people come from - so they are giving you totally random locations.

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RosaLinn · 15/06/2024 13:56

ManilowBarry · 15/06/2024 13:55

I came on to say Grimsby!

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Feeling thick now. Are people saying these are the towns that in general produce angry people?

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ManilowBarry · 15/06/2024 13:55

Thewolvesarerunningagain · 15/06/2024 13:52

Wigan

I came on to say Grimsby!

TitusMoan · 15/06/2024 13:53

Thewolvesarerunningagain · 15/06/2024 13:52

Wigan

I was thinking Croydon