We're trying to sell our house. We have viewings this afternoon. DH is tidying garden, I'm cleaning indoors.
DH is (I very strongly suspect) ADHD. He has a lot of traits and also quite a few family members are diagnosed. He always leaves stuff lying around all over the house. I genuinely don't think he does it out of laziness exactly, it's more like his mind is already on the next thing. Left to his own devices he would live like that all week then have a massive tidy and cleanup once a week and the cycle would start again. I ABSOLUTELY can't live like that. I find it hugely stressful to have to move stuff to get to other stuff, or to be able to sit down / use the table / climb over his shoes etc so I am constantly going around after him picking up his shit and "nagging"
This morning I pointed out about 15 of his items that he'd left all over the house in annoying places - even the kids havent left shit lying around. Just him.
He sort of laughed and said ok ok and put a few bits away, but just moved a couple of his backpacks to the bottom of the stairs (presumably to take up next time he goes) but that's not helpful to me. They're more in the way than they were while on the dining chairs because now I have to move them to hoover the stairs.
So I picked them up and calmly walked them outside and put them on the lawn that he's mowing. 100% to make a point. But I wasn't particularly angry or anything.
He lost his mind! Told me I just did it to be annoying and I'm always on at him and now he's not talking to me!
Now I'm not that bothered that's he's annoyed really, that was sort of the point. But WIBU? I don't think I was. I'm of the view that he doesn't listen when I tell him, so maybe he would if I showed him. But then I think maybe the difference is that I did it on purpose...