DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

You missed my point.

If an average man (i.e. not someone who was avant-garde) was wearing a see-through suit so we could all see their underwear at a professional event he would be ridiculed and called names that imply that he is perverse.

This sounds more like internalised misogyny than empowerment. I could buy empowerment comes from not giving a shit about what anyone thinks and refusing to feel judged. But not giving a shit only about what women think while caring so much about what men think just sounds like you think men’s opinions are more important and women’s opinions don’t matter.

I think @DontShow and her DH should go together in these outfits. Make their mark as the power couple. They'll certainly make an impression.

Only adjustment needed is more flattering underwear for both.

And if it was black it might be “sexier” the white just blinds you.

There’s no fool like an old fool. Darl you’re pushing close to 50. Pack it in and wear something nice.

Yep I think we can conclude see through clothes over big underwear looks bad on both men and women

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I'm with you on that one. A little bit left to the imagination can be enticing but that leaves too much to the imagination 😂

I'm disappointed the shorts are as big as they are. It looks kind of like a nappy. The look might be better if they were a bit skimpier!

And from the back...

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Found DHs outfit

https://media.boohooman.com/i/boohooman/bmm74440_white_xl?$product_image_main_mobile_3x$&fmt=webp

I say, steady on! She looks good

You want your children’s teachers and friends’ dads to “look at you strutting around without many clothes on and think you look good”.

As I say, happy to be corrected, but that sounds awfully similar to wanting them to look at you and think they want to fuck you. What did you mean, if not that?

What fun you have chez DontShow

Yes. Or a spangly posing pouch under fishnets? There’s the reverse - and there’s a reason men don’t usually turn up to formal school balls in them probably. Just guessing they wouldn’t feel all that empowered? 😁

This is quite hard-hitting in its wording ( gave me a couple of winces here and there!); but nonetheless there are some sober truths in this which I think can also be expressed in the old “age gracefully” advice.

Yes some women of a certain age have aged better than others, but that still doesn’t make them as strong a candidate for certain outfits as a perky-titted, smooth-skinned 16 year old, and trying to tell yourself in midlife that you’ve still got it in the same way is delusional. That’s just life.

We get other benefits they don’t have. We have gravitas. We have wisdom . We have an air. We can still look fantastic but it’s a different variety of fantastic. A butterfly trying to look like a really juicy caterpillar isn’t going to be the best butterfly look ( or perhaps a pickle and a cucumber might be a better analogy … )

Or a cod piece 🐟

Maybe Rani is having fun with that dress and most probably doesn’t care what you think, she’s just happy with that funny ribbed condom dress sorrounded by paps popping the flashes at her (most possibly that was the whole point), she probably went home after, put some comfy pijama, made herself a cuppa and had a ball looking at the Daily Fail headlines next day.

Speedos at a formal ball.

She looks like a sad used condom, not 'amazing'. And what's with this site, touting every older woman with a slim-ish figure as gorgeous? That's the only thing she has going for her. Otherwise it's droopy tits, saggy flabby belly, no waist, a small sad rectangle, an opposite of alluring/sexy/curvy. A younger JLo in a dress like that would still look trashy, but sexy-trashy. This woman looks desperate, she absolutely doesn't have a figure for it.

I'm equating Speedos and the revealing dress. The flip-flops were just mentioned because socks and formal shoes would look ridiculous with the Speedos ☺️

Wow @NonPlayerCharacter ! You’ve really got a “thing” against “ self-serving morality” and the concept of “thinking of others” haven’t you.

Don’t know that I’ve ever seen a poster get so tightly wound … What’s the big issue?

Isn't that the whole point though? T shirts and flip flops on a man don't give off the 'same need', of course not.
So what does? What is the male equivalent of the 'inappropriately revealing dress'? A see through suit? No. That would be read as a joke. A tight t shirt to show off his six pack? No. That would be read as showing off his gym work because he's proud of what he's achieved with his body.
There is no way to reverse this, for the simple reason, there is no male clothing choice that is ever read as a need for sexual attention from women. No choice that would lead to pages of debate as to whether he looked 'desperate'. That's an assumption we make only about women's choices, because women can't be proud of their bodies and want to show them off for their asthetic quality. It always has to be about showing them off to men and their 'need' for sexual attention.

Oh bollocks there would. Society, consequences, thinking of others, all the OTT self-serving moralism. That's not what you get for wearing flip flops to a posh do, that's what you get for wearing a revealing dress.

I know nobody is going to admit it but that doesn't make it any less bollocks.