DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

Because fashion makes fools out of women….

It doesn't show confidence, it shows someone desperate for attention. People cringe, the way they cringe when a MIL wears a ridiculous outfit at a wedding. People will feel sorry for her, or just laugh at her.

Kate in her golden dress doesn't look desperate, she looks stunning. That's the difference.

Well clearly it's in no way appropriate then!

You don't go to a ball with your child's friend's parents and teachers wearing a transparent outfit,

Having been to private school balls many times it would be entirely out of place, ime.

That dress doesn’t even look good on Anita Rani. It or anything similar isn’t suitable for a ball. It’s only suitable for a red carpet event. And even then it’s very try too hard.

You can definitely still do glamour though. There are lots of stunning glam dresses available that would be infinitely nicer than a dress like that.

Desperate for attention again 🤢

@Heronwatcher so true! This dress screams Amanda from Motherland!

However - your DH can shove it with having an opinion on how you 'should' look as it's entirely your business and not his

If my dh wanted to go to a ball in a transparent suit with his underwear showing I would definitely have an opinion on it! I wouldn't be happy about it and wouldn't want to attend with him.

Why is it different the other way round?

Did your spellchecker change fuck to fuxk? Weird* *

also no idea, what the women's hour comment means.

Definitely go for OP. Two fingers to everyone, especially if your husband is dead against it.

Just imagine swanning into the ball in your see through dress with your husband silently fuming at your side as every head turns your way and you can almost hear people collectively thinking “what the Hell is she (not) wearing?!”.

Magnificent! What do they know anyway?

Definitely an opportunity to make everything about you and be the centre of attention and sod anyone else.

The only way to make it better would be to get obnoxiously drunk and have a very loud argument with your husband when he tries to get you to leave, shouting random insults to the people inevitably gawping at you making a spectacle of yourself.

It will be the stuff of legends. You’ll go down in the annals of history at this top private school. They will talk about you for years.

Marvellous 😂😂😂

That type of dress is a real class indicator!

What's your goal, OP?

What image and message would you like to portray about yourself?

If you have the confidence to wear something like that then do.

I would look like a sausage and spend all night hiding behind plants but on someone else I would admire their courage.

There is a difference between a ball and a red carpet ever t.

And even at red carpet events I still don't like the transparent/barely there dresses and outfits. The celebrities who wear proper dresses/outfits look much nicer, more classy, more,elegant imo.

I have been to balls in the past, normally either through work or school contacts. A transparent dress would not have been appropriate for any of those situations.

No do not wear that to a school ball, unless you are going to “get tongues wagging” in which case your DH is right, it’s a bit sad. Think Amanda from motherland “look at meee, I’m still young, I’ve still got it…”

There is a time and a place for statements about girl power- by all means wear something see through for cocktails, clubbing or a hen night but for a ball at a private school you should be going for timeless elegance which you can dance in without having to hitch your visible pants up every 5 minutes. Otherwise I can guarantee you’ll be sat in a corner feeling uncomfortable. Even Anita only chose this for a red carpet where she had to walk about 10 paces and have her photograph taken!

Maybe you could go for the ones that
were worn at the Met Gala earlier this year

Wow Kate looks amazing there!

Hahaha OP you’d be the talk of the entire school if you went to the ball looking so trashy! And your kids would die of shame! It’s not empowering, it’s attention seeking.

Tacky as fuck. It’s an expensive private school, it’ll be designer dresses wall to wall, you wear something see through and I think you’ll be laughed at. It’s inappropriate and yeah, you’re not a Kardashian.

What sort of dress are you looking at?

I think women dress like that as much, if not more, to impress other women tbh. As you say men don’t go to formal events in transparent shirts to show off their pecs or abs.

Just because something is a trend doesn't mean you should follow it. Especially when the trend is see through.

It's just not a nice dress and doesn't even look good on someone as stunning as Anita Rani.

I honestly don’t think that would look good on anyone. I dislike all over fleshy/beigey/browny coloured clothes because it just makes me think of a butchers shop window (not that there are many butchers shops these days). If that had been a strong colour it would have looked much better.
even so, unless you are doing genuine red carpet and expecting press photographers at your event, I would go for something a lot more mainstream. You can still show off your figure, it just doesn’t need to be practically naked.

Im.all.for confidence, but there's better dresses out there. This just looks like pretty little thing dress yuk

I don't think the dress flattered Anita Rani at all. Alex Scott also recently wore one and looked really uncomfortable in all the photos. I think it's one of those things that seems like a better idea than it is in practice. I wouldn't do it.