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DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

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DontShow · 15/06/2024 06:39

Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress
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BudgetQ · 15/06/2024 12:29

DontShow · 15/06/2024 12:13

I can't help wondering if any menz who laughed in front of you/other women would have had a different reaction on their own/with other men.

Sorry, but some men like a woman who struts around with not a lot on and think she looks good.

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So you’re in search of male attention?
No wonder your husband isn’t thrilled.

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DontShow · 15/06/2024 12:28

ProjectEdensGate · 15/06/2024 12:26

You've kind of answered your own question on this OP.

Yes, men do like it when women wear fuck all in their line of vision. Yes men like to stare at women wearing fuck all and mentally imagine having sex with them. Your husband will be doing it to various women he sees (whether he admits it out loud or not). Your husband knows if you wear that dress every man in the room will be eyeball fucking you. Your husband does not want other men eyeball fucking HIS wife.

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Double standards then?

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ProjectEdensGate · 15/06/2024 12:26

DontShow · 15/06/2024 12:13

I can't help wondering if any menz who laughed in front of you/other women would have had a different reaction on their own/with other men.

Sorry, but some men like a woman who struts around with not a lot on and think she looks good.

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You've kind of answered your own question on this OP.

Yes, men do like it when women wear fuck all in their line of vision. Yes men like to stare at women wearing fuck all and mentally imagine having sex with them. Your husband will be doing it to various women he sees (whether he admits it out loud or not). Your husband knows if you wear that dress every man in the room will be eyeball fucking you. Your husband does not want other men eyeball fucking HIS wife.

ohdelay · 15/06/2024 12:25

Wear it OP. Get your DH to dress up as Kanye. Accessorise with a dog collar and chain. Job done 😂

UrsulaBelle · 15/06/2024 12:24

OP, I think you should wear it. You seem to be relishing the idea of the attention you would get, so why not? It’s not to my taste at all, but I’m not the one wearing it. You may get laughed at, your husband might be embarrassed to be seen with you, but you’ll certainly be noticed. That seems to be what you want. Go for it!

MissSookieStackhouse · 15/06/2024 12:23

Your DH is right, it’s inappropriate. The dress screams ‘Look at meeeeeeeeee!’ Are you really that desperate for any kind of attention?

Summerose · 15/06/2024 12:22

OP, are you aware of the term "thirsty"? Well, Anita Rani may have gotten a divorce, BUT she looks THIRSTY as hell.

Thirsty = Desperate

Lifeomars · 15/06/2024 12:20

Looks like a stage costume for a musical. She has a good figure but that looks like fancy dress which in a sense red carpet wear is.

Beachballplayer · 15/06/2024 12:19

In the nicest possible way I am not sure that would be the sort of thing you would wear to a private school ball. Red carpet yes school ball no!

Nellieinthebarn · 15/06/2024 12:19

I'm with the DH on this one, even at my slimmest and most attractive I would've left more to the imagination than a see through dress and big knickers, but it's all a matter of personal choice.

Surely there is a middle ground between Princess of Wales and A Bit Desperate Divorcee.

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DontShow · 15/06/2024 12:19

NoDishyRishi · 15/06/2024 12:15

Maybe look at Bianca Censori for some inspiration?

I've actually never seen her in a dress. But I do think she's sexy tbh!

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Allthehorsesintheworld · 15/06/2024 12:17

It looks like a voile curtain over a swimsuit. Don’t know who thought that was a good idea.
There are so many beautiful dresses, well designed and made why would anyone want to wear a nylon curtain.

Muffin101 · 15/06/2024 12:17

DontShow · 15/06/2024 12:13

I can't help wondering if any menz who laughed in front of you/other women would have had a different reaction on their own/with other men.

Sorry, but some men like a woman who struts around with not a lot on and think she looks good.

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Oh well, if the men liked it, that really would change everything…

It’s a very ugly, cheap look imo, BUT if you wanted to wear that at another more appropriate occasion, more power to you, as you like it. A school ball, a posh one at that, isn’t an appropriate occasion, even without pupils there.

CharlotteRumpling · 15/06/2024 12:17

ZoomDoomZoom · 15/06/2024 12:16

People generally know where and what a woman's genitalia looks like, so why do you feel the need to show them? They've gone to have a good time at a ball, why do they need to see your tits and fanny? Does your husband not give you enough attention that you need validation from other men?

That's really absolutely unnecessary.

Iloveshihtzus · 15/06/2024 12:16

NoDishyRishi · 15/06/2024 12:15

Maybe look at Bianca Censori for some inspiration?

😂

Crucible · 15/06/2024 12:16

Sorry OP that dress is not flattering at all, the bumps look like a skin disease. Probably cost a fortune and got her a lot of press. Maybe go with something with a sheer panel across the abdomen. Have a lovely evening

ZoomDoomZoom · 15/06/2024 12:16

People generally know where and what a woman's genitalia looks like, so why do you feel the need to show them? They've gone to have a good time at a ball, why do they need to see your tits and fanny? Does your husband not give you enough attention that you need validation from other men?

NoDishyRishi · 15/06/2024 12:15

Maybe look at Bianca Censori for some inspiration?

ThinWomansBrain · 15/06/2024 12:15

pictoosh · 15/06/2024 11:20

Maybe it looked better animated? While she was moving?

The still makes it seem an odd choice. Again that's only my opinion.

as in when she was really far away?

wearemodernidiots · 15/06/2024 12:15

DontShow · 15/06/2024 12:13

I can't help wondering if any menz who laughed in front of you/other women would have had a different reaction on their own/with other men.

Sorry, but some men like a woman who struts around with not a lot on and think she looks good.

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Yes. They do. In private. Or in a strip club.

Bollindger · 15/06/2024 12:14

How about this?

DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress
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DontShow · 15/06/2024 12:13

Peakyshelby · 15/06/2024 11:19

If you want people to be sniggering behind their glasses at you then go for it. Sorry those dresses are not appropriate for any age, any figure, anyone. It’s just shouts I want the attention on me.

went to a wedding were a guest wore something like this. She strutted around thinking she was the bees knees. Everyone was laughing at her. Sorry I know in perfect world you should be able to wear what you like buts it not a perfect world and people do judge

I can't help wondering if any menz who laughed in front of you/other women would have had a different reaction on their own/with other men.

Sorry, but some men like a woman who struts around with not a lot on and think she looks good.

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BrigadierEtienneGerard · 15/06/2024 12:12

That dress is vile and lacks any sort of style and/or class.
Normally, I'd say wear what you want but in this case listen to your DH. He has more taste in dress than you seem to have.

ThinWomansBrain · 15/06/2024 12:09

Your choice to wear whatever you like
His choice not to want to be seen with you wearing something so tacky.

theowlwhisperer · 15/06/2024 12:07

There's a lot of women here preaching feminism while putting a woman down for wanting to show her femininity just because it's not a way they'd do it.

to be fair, that's not showing your feminity, that's showing how desperate you are at best.

If I had a female partner instead of a DH, I would be not be amused if she wanted to wear such an outfit for a ball, even worst to a school event for our kids! It's embarrassing for them, and for us.

Kate in gold, most people will go "wow".
This dress? most people will go "oh dear..."