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DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

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DontShow · 15/06/2024 06:39

Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress
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NoraBattysCurlers · 15/06/2024 15:42

Do posters really think this thread is for real?

What does one wear to 'a school ball, at a private school to boot, and amongst the most expensive in the country'?

Its main goal is to have everyone mock Anita Rani for a laugh.

astarsheis · 15/06/2024 15:42

I agree with you...she does look amazing. Classy not and I don't think even particularly sexy.
I'm not a fan of the look even on celebs. Was it Rihanna did it first a few years ago when pregnant?
You will find something much classier and sexier other out there than that particular look.

AppleStruddle123 · 15/06/2024 15:41

The cut of this dress does now favours for AR.

it makes her look like she has no waist, rectangular and like boobs pushed up on a shelf.

it’s not sexy IMHO and she looks uncomfortable herself!

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 15/06/2024 15:39

Naw, jist naw🤔

BoreOfWhabylon · 15/06/2024 15:39

housethatbuiltme · 15/06/2024 15:38

I think these kind where you wear flesh coloured but obviously seen knickers underneath look tacky and I'm not prudish at all. I'm all for skimpy and sexy, hell go out in actual lingerie if you want but this just looks a bit crap like we can all see your spanks.

RampantIvy · 15/06/2024 15:38

DontShow · 15/06/2024 07:47

It's a school ball, at a private school to boot, and amongst the most expensive in the country. There will be glamour.

It sounds like you have more money than sense. Why not engage a personal shopper instead?

AppleStruddle123 · 15/06/2024 15:37

Its2024happynewyear · 15/06/2024 15:32

Are we sure the OP isn't winding us up?

Her defensive repostes suggest not!

Bananabreadandstrawberries · 15/06/2024 15:37

Longma · 15/06/2024 15:32

Would you be happy if your dh decided to wear a transparent suit to the ball> maybe a matching set for the both of you!

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plimbow · 15/06/2024 15:35

Google shows that AR is no stranger to a revealing frock. This one misses the mark though.

Bananabreadandstrawberries · 15/06/2024 15:34

DontShow · 15/06/2024 06:39

Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

Hahahahaha-! Sorry, no. She looks ridiculous.
Good figure does not mean you have to go around in underwear. Amongst other school parents no less. Your poor husband and your poor son/daughter!

You’ll be the talk of the school parents - and then once the students see the photos your son/daughter will get teased mercilessly.

AppleStruddle123 · 15/06/2024 15:33

It’s an attention seeking dress for all the wrong reasons.

Think Bianca West, Kanye’s new idiot girlfriend/wife.

Its trying in a vapid way to be sexually daring:shocking but it looks grim to me.

Choose something genuinely stylish!!

I would just be embarrassed, feel like the school bike in that!

AstonUniversityPotholeDepartment · 15/06/2024 15:33

Wow, Anita Rani looks terribly ill at ease in that picture.

Longma · 15/06/2024 15:32

DontShow · 15/06/2024 12:32

Now the judgy-pants can really come out because I mentioned the male gaze!

Would you be happy if your dh decided to wear a transparent suit to the ball> maybe a matching set for the both of you!

Its2024happynewyear · 15/06/2024 15:32

Are we sure the OP isn't winding us up?

PuddlesPityParty · 15/06/2024 15:30

Tbh regardless of thoughts on the sheer dress - that style is on its way out so I’m afraid you’re late to the game OP!

RampantIvy · 15/06/2024 15:29

I think the comments on this thread are probably pretty representative of the comments that other parents would say to each other if you did go to the ball in it.

It's inappropriate and too attention seeking and just not a nice dress.

I think you have totally missed the point @Anotherparkingthread. This isn't about ageism, it's about reading the room and dressing appropriately. The OP would be remembered for all the wrong reasons.

HolyZarquonsSingingSeals · 15/06/2024 15:22

If you do wear a similar dress, and I wouldn't recommend it, I hope you will look happier in it than Anita Rani looks in the photograph. Her expression says 'omg I so wish I hadn't started this!'

LlynTegid · 15/06/2024 15:22

Whilst it should be 100% your choice, why should you just follow some awful fashion?

MiniBattenburg · 15/06/2024 15:17

You're going to look desperate and attention seeking, all eyes will be on you for all the wrong reasons.
Go for it. 🍿

L0bstersLass · 15/06/2024 15:17

DontShow · 15/06/2024 07:47

It's a school ball, at a private school to boot, and amongst the most expensive in the country. There will be glamour.

That dress is not suitable for a ball. Neither is it glamorous.
Anita Rani is a beautiful woman. In that dress she is giving off "look at me, I'm recently divorced and doing what I want to" vibes.
It's not a good look on her or anyone else.

CandidHedgehog · 15/06/2024 15:16

juicejuic · 15/06/2024 15:12

No I wouldn't.

I think what you are missing here is that these sort of couture dresses are for red carpet events - they are literally about wearing and parading the couture and attracting attention for the purposes of career promotion.

These are not dresses meant for real life or even sometimes sitting down in - just have a look at some of the stuff that peole wear to the Met Ball.

It doesn't matter whether you have the figure for it. What matters is are you attending a red carpet event to be photographed to promote yourself?

If not, then it's a hard no.

And the people who wear them on the red carpet often change as soon as they get inside. No one actually wears a lot of red carpet couture - they pose in it then get out of it asap.

There was an article once in which an A list actress was followed getting ready for the Oscars. She travelled there kneeling on the floor of the limo because the dress wasn’t designed for sitting down in and had a second dress to wear inside.

Wishihadanalgorithm · 15/06/2024 15:16

I say wear a dress like Anita Rani’s if you like.

I would imagine people would be nice to your face but slag you off behind your back. At the very least you’d be called tacky and tasteless and a try too hard.

The school ball may be glamorous - this dress isn’t though. It’s a dress designed to make people talk and get attention on the red carpet.

No matter how good you think you look, people will talk and it won’t be complimentary.

juicejuic · 15/06/2024 15:12

No I wouldn't.

I think what you are missing here is that these sort of couture dresses are for red carpet events - they are literally about wearing and parading the couture and attracting attention for the purposes of career promotion.

These are not dresses meant for real life or even sometimes sitting down in - just have a look at some of the stuff that peole wear to the Met Ball.

It doesn't matter whether you have the figure for it. What matters is are you attending a red carpet event to be photographed to promote yourself?

If not, then it's a hard no.

crumblingschools · 15/06/2024 15:10

It’s nothing to do with age for me. Not sure why anyone, male or female, wants to strut around in their underwear and throw a bit of net/lace over it and think they look classy.