DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

My kids went to private school for a short time.

A woman turned up to pick up her child/stepchild. She was wearing a skirt that only just covered her back side, her top only just held in her breasts, wearing high heels and holding on to her man.

Another woman turned up at an event for the school where only a few parents were invited into a set room, wearing a long dress that barely covered her large breasts.

Both women are obviously free to wear what they want but both outfits were clearly inappropriate for the occasion / time.

It is not judging them for what they were wearing or what they looked like but for not having the sense for knowing when it is not appropriate.

And bog off with the hive mind shit.

Nobody has suggested wearing it to a wedding?

How can a parent wear a sheer dress to an event at a school their children go to? Do you not care about how your kids would feel if they got teased over it (trust me, parents would go home and tell their kids that so and so’s mum was wearing a see through dress). I’d never want to humiliate my kids because of my big ego.

So you are saying it’s better to let a woman make a fool of herself in public and possibly alienate people she is going to have to deal with for years rather than answer a question she has specifically asked? Because being truthful might sound judgmental?

Interesting perspective.

Anita Rani is stunning.
But!....Her outfit reminds me of a bathing suit with a net curtain thrown over it for good measure.

Also a tad attention seeking?
But!... In this instance she is wearing it in a purposeful manner iykwim - as a kind of two -fingers to my Ex / I am still relationship-worthy-gorgeous/ Hey! Look how good I look type of thing. So you could see why she chose this outfit.

Which would ask me why you would choose to wear it to a wedding?...I thought it was only awful Mothers of the Bride or Groom who try to upstage the brides dress on the wedding day?

Quickly runs away .

To which I realise to late that you want to wear it to a Ball and not a wedding - so I would suggest wear whatever floats your boat. 😊
Sheepishly slinks away!

Funny how mumsnetters wouldn't dream of judging another woman, first impressions and feelings not apparently being a thing amongst the Hive Mind - but say you fancy wearing a sheer dress to show off your banging figure, in your 40s no less, and you have people falling over themselves to tell you that everyone will either be laughing at you, thinking you look cheap and easy, or (for the men) wondering what you're like in bed.

Yeah Im with you, but it is what it is

But it IS like a work networking event. Its half the reason why people get their children into schools like that, for connections for themselves and their DC

I'm sure you have a lovely figure but this is not appropriate for a parent ball at your child's school.

Best case scenario, parent and teacher eyebrows are raised about your lack of judgement and understanding of unspoken social rules of the group (i.e. it 'others' you a bit).

Worst case scenario, it could end in embarrassment and/or friendship difficulties for your DC because of the way their parents have come to view you.

Obviously you can make your own choices but I think you have to do it with your eyes open to those outcomes, fair or not.

“AIBU?”
”Yes.”
”well… well I’m NOT and you’re all mean and not feminists.”

wear the horrible dress if you like but it’s inappropriate and tacky.

wearing this at 46 ! Mutton dressed as lamb, and also tacky and not one bit classy

The red dress is a lot better than the net curtain.

Do you know, that actually makes more sense than a mid forties woman wanting to wear a sheer dress at a school ball (which just doesn’t ring true to me at all).

So my opinion is I didn’t think the dress on Anita was at all flattering. She could have worn something far more stunning and attractive.

Oh have a break will you!
I doubt she turned up to meet her children's teachers in that dress.
Cop on.

You'd wear that to a school ball?

Fucking hell.

My friend wore needle and thread dress to the school ball last summer omg she looked fabulous without it all hanging out.

I was looking at Marchesa yesterday, now there's a designer who turns incredible fabrics into dresses of dreams.

So I have to say a hard no @DontShow

"Marchesa Notte Gowns" https://www.marchesa.com/en-gb/collections/long-dresses

The dress is lovely and I'm sure you have a wonderful figure to fit it, but it's not appropriate for a ball; it's more of a showbiz party type of dress.

It’s not an either / or. They can be and are both unsuitable for a school ball though I find this one slightly less so - it looks like it would cover the model’s legs if she stands still rather than letting it all hang out like the see through dress.

It’s definitely a ‘look at meeeee’ style. On a red carpet you can kind of understand it but a non celebrity school ball it’s just, why?!

Weird and unnecessary 🤷🏼‍♀️

Read the room @DontShow

I’m 40’s, divorced and have a decent figure. But I wouldn’t wear that dress. It shouts look at me. Classy is best for a ball I think.

I think your language and turn of phrase will be more of an issue at such an event that what you look like.

This isnt about a dress at all is it?

Your choice on what to wear, not my style but then my style isnt what most people would wear either! Think "elegant goth" if there is such a thing lol

Its about the fact that your husband would happily ogle a good looking woman in the gossip mags in a sexy sheer dress but doesnt want his wife to wear that same outfit because its not classy enough. He is a fucking hypocrite, plain and simple.

If its ok on her then it should be ok on you and if its not ok on you can he explain why he thinks its ok on her?

Taste is a hard thing to admit to not having.
The curtain is not going down well as tasteful.
When you add in the event and the fact of private schools are full of people who value the educational value of the school.
Most will be judge the dress on anyone whom wore it as tacky, vulgar and just not done.

Do you want that to be how you are seen, because your never going to be able to over write that , you will always be the tasteless dress woman.