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DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

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DontShow · 15/06/2024 06:39

Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress
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Bababa2456 · 15/06/2024 20:50

I can't believe this is real.

No parent whose child attended a top public school would believe for one moment that they could go to a ball dressed like that.

I also doubt that a genuine parent of such a child would be so crass as to boast it was one of the 'best' private schools.

Is OP having a little joke with us all?

I say this as someone who's had professional connections with independent schools and friends who've attended them (top ones, of course.)

Barney16 · 15/06/2024 20:38

But she doesn't look amazing. It doesn't do anything for her at all other than generate lots of conversation about why anyone would wear a net curtain over a school leotard.

Despair1 · 15/06/2024 20:35

Blackboxbetty · 15/06/2024 06:50

Nope. It's not your age, or your figure, it's the sheer - literally- attention seeking of it.

Ditto

Cerealkiller4U · 15/06/2024 20:30

DontShow · 15/06/2024 07:47

It's a school ball, at a private school to boot, and amongst the most expensive in the country. There will be glamour.

Then no no no. Not a school ball. No way

highly inappropriate and you might be asked to leave. 😂

willWillSmithsmith · 15/06/2024 20:28

BlossomOfOrange · 15/06/2024 20:03

The ONLY person’s view that matters is yours.

Straight out of the book of quotes by Bianca Censori 😁

Respectisnotoptional · 15/06/2024 20:28

Looks awful, is it classy, absolutely not!

LondonFox · 15/06/2024 20:19

Tbh unless you are below 30 and slim hourglass this dress will not look good on you. Evem thn you can get much better one.
It does not look good on her.

You can 100% wear what you want and not listen to anyone telling you about "oh my it is immoral!"...
But there is like thousand dresses that flatter body and make you look actually sexy and not like defrosted duck left in Aldis.

Namechange357 · 15/06/2024 20:19

It’s awful, and still would be at any age! Have some self respect and wear something classy!

Scirocco · 15/06/2024 20:05

BlossomOfOrange · 15/06/2024 20:03

The ONLY person’s view that matters is yours.

Not when it comes to business/networking/professional events or events at your child's school.

willWillSmithsmith · 15/06/2024 20:04

FKAT · 15/06/2024 18:28

I think making the thread is part of the process. Outraging the frumpy, pearl clutchy 'legs or boobs never both' crowd of MN is practice for the big night.

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I have always loved that dress Scarlet O’hara is wearing. It’s so sumptuous and gorgeous, it makes me want to swoon.

I am a firm believer in legs or boobs (I never actually like boobs on display). My style icon is Audrey Hepburn so my taste is very classic.

BlossomOfOrange · 15/06/2024 20:03

The ONLY person’s view that matters is yours.

waltzingparrot · 15/06/2024 19:59

It's a
Look At Me
Look At Me dress!

She wore a beautiful dress when she did the Portsmouth DDay commemoration programme - she looked very classy.

BigMandyHarris · 15/06/2024 19:58

Firstly, he shouldn’t be dictating what you wear.

Secondly, why the hell would you want to wear something like that?

Silviasilvertoes · 15/06/2024 19:56

DontShow · 15/06/2024 07:47

It's a school ball, at a private school to boot, and amongst the most expensive in the country. There will be glamour.

Oh my. I’ve just read this update. Glamour. Expensive. Private school. School. Where your children are educated. None of that fits with that dress. It makes me cringe just thinking about it. That kind of event needs class and glamour. Not red carpet Instagram bait.

xsquared · 15/06/2024 19:55

DontShow · 15/06/2024 06:39

Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

I don't think Anita Rani looks good at all in that dress. It just looks like a net curtain with bobbles over a a swimsuit. She's usually better dressed than that.

Personally, I don't think it's appropriate for a private school ball as it is a very bold piece, and will certainly attract attention.

However, wear what you want and what makes you feel good.

CryptoFascistMadameCholet · 15/06/2024 19:53

Scirocco · 15/06/2024 19:42

https://www.wolfandbadger.com/uk/red-dress/

I think this could be perfect...

(Maybe not)

It’s good it comes with a free matching thong.

Very thoughtful.

Bababa2456 · 15/06/2024 19:47

Guavafish1 · 15/06/2024 19:45

She looks great
Go for it

😂😂😂

Guavafish1 · 15/06/2024 19:45

She looks great
Go for it

Titsalenabumflop · 15/06/2024 19:43

OMG! That looks ridiculous. I don't care what your age is, or how fantastic your figure is, it's a big NO! I'd far rather look classy and sophisticated than tarty. Less is more and is sexier than showing everything.

Scirocco · 15/06/2024 19:42

https://www.wolfandbadger.com/uk/red-dress/

I think this could be perfect...

(Maybe not)

NonPlayerCharacter · 15/06/2024 19:35

Celebrities at celebrity events can get away with things that mere mortals, even beautiful ones at expensive private school balls, cannot.

She looks fabulous in that picture but she's not a "real" person at a "real" event...her job is, in part, to be seen and create images that just aren't part of "real life".

This doesn't mean you must not wear it, but you should remember that people like her wear dresses like this in a completely different context to more or less anything that you or I would be in, even if we're stunning (and I'm definitely not; you might be, but it's still a different context). It just won't be taken in the same way and you can't convince people otherwise. If you're OK with that, go for it. If not, perhaps a nod to the style; some sheerness on top but otherwise opaque or something?

DaffydownClock · 15/06/2024 19:30

DontShow · 15/06/2024 07:47

It's a school ball, at a private school to boot, and amongst the most expensive in the country. There will be glamour.

In which case why on earth would you go in a see through dress?
It screams of attention-seeking (not in a good way) and looks trashy.

beenwhereyouare · 15/06/2024 19:29

IMHO, the bodice is lovely, but the bottom of the dress is a little cringe. It's really not sexy, and just draws your attention to the crotch area. NOT in a good way.

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