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To want to stop playing roulette? Please help

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Achangeisacoming · 15/06/2024 00:41

I've name changed for this as I'm so ashamed

My DH likes a very occasional bet on the footie so has a Sky Bet account....it is very occasional. He is so disciplined and careful, sets a limit, never exceeds it.

About 4 years ago he showed me the Roulette game... just betting pennies. I was quite taken with it and played a pound and thought it was fun....I was hooked

Fast forward 4 years....ive spent £££ playing. Every Friday and Saturday....it's a ritual ....glass of wine and roulette. I've just added it up and I've spent £300 agsin this month....I feel sick typing this. This is the same every month. My savings have dwindled by £1800 over the last year as I've upped how much I've been spending so my savings have been propping me up.

I want to stop. Every weekend I try and stick to £5 on a Friday and £5 on a Saturday, that's affordable, ...but I always put more in as I'm always chasing my losses.

I just want to stop and never play again. Please tell me what a total idiot I'm being. I've just spent another £35 on it and lost every penny. I don't want to do this any more. Help!! Thanks

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maudelovesharold · 15/06/2024 01:07

Why won’t you get your dh to help you by blocking your easy route to gambling? If you know you have an addiction - to anything - one of the best things you can do towards beating it, is to remove the temptation. A recovering alcoholic wouldn’t buy bottles of drink and sit looking at them all night, or a recovering drug addict have a stash of drugs in the cupboard, just so they can test their willpower.

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Achangeisacoming · 15/06/2024 01:05

@ErrolTheDragon ....I think that's what i needed to hear. A gambling addiction....that frightens the life out of me. I've been kidding myself...that can't be me...but it probably is. I think if i could just leave it for a month and see how much more money I have in the bank, it'd really make me think twice and stop. I hate how accessible gambling is 😔

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ErrolTheDragon · 15/06/2024 01:04

I want to stop. Every weekend I try and stick to £5 on a Friday and £5 on a Saturday, that's affordable, ...but I always put more in as I'm always chasing my losses.

It's obvious that if you want to stop then you need to stop. Break the 'ritual', don't do it at all. You know you don't stick to £5, so don't start.
Find something else to do at these times that you enjoy that doesn't involve any sort of gambling.

PinkyFlamingo · 15/06/2024 01:02

Achangeisacoming · 15/06/2024 00:57

I know what it is and how to make deposits. It sounds like an obvious solution but I'd rather have the resolve to step away than get DH to change passwords....it wouldn't feel like I'd conquered it iyswim.

But you don't have the resolve. You have an addiction.

Username1010 · 15/06/2024 01:00

Quite honestly you are minimising your gambling addiction. You need outside support from people who have quit.

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Achangeisacoming · 15/06/2024 00:57

I know what it is and how to make deposits. It sounds like an obvious solution but I'd rather have the resolve to step away than get DH to change passwords....it wouldn't feel like I'd conquered it iyswim.

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ErrolTheDragon · 15/06/2024 00:55

If you know you should stop, want to stop but can't, it sounds like you've unfortunately got a gambling addiction.

Tell your DH you need him to delete it/prevent you having access to it.
If he won't, or if you find yourself still finding a way to gamble, then it may be time for gamblers anonymous.

Rattai · 15/06/2024 00:52

Can your husband put a password on it??

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Achangeisacoming · 15/06/2024 00:50

Problem is the account is on DHs phone. He won't delete it as he expects me to reign it in....he knows exactly how much I'm betting and has a face like a cats arse in disapproval, as to be expected, but just says have some discipline!! I need to just stop myself.

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hg167 · 15/06/2024 00:44

You need to put a ban on your account - I went down a similar hole (though with betting on games and casino style games, not roulette) it got to a point where it wasn’t fun and I was losing a lot of money.

Start with putting a ban on your account/changing your deposit limit - it can be hard, but by putting the restriction on there it does get easier as you can’t just bypass this, you’ve got this!