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First date - is this not a bit weird of him??

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Lilifer · 14/06/2024 21:33

I joined an old fashioned dating agency a month ago and was sent a match last week. The way it works is that if you like the look of the profile of the guy you let the agency know, and they then contact the man to let him know to contact you, and they give him your number,

So far so good, man, let's call him John rang me on Tuesday to see if I would like to meet up. I suggested we meet up in a city that's half way between us both, (we both live rurally) initially I suggested coffee but he said he would like to go for lunch so I said that's fine, pick a restaurant and let me know which one and I'll see you there at 2pm Saturday.

I waited to hear back which restaurant he was choosing. Yesterday he messaged me to ask where I would be parking so that he could choose a place that's within walking distance of where I parked. (Which I thought was considerate of him.) I told him where I was parking and heard nothing back until just now when he messaged me to say that if it's ok, he'll contact me at 2-ish tomorrow to let me know where he is.

Aibu to find that bizarre and more than a little annoying? He's had 3 days to figure out a restaurant, it's not that hard to settle on a place. And we were meant to be meeting at 2 so what's with the "I'll message you at 2ish" about?? So I'm meant to drive an hour to get to the city , and park and then wait to be given my instructions ... 🤨 I'm a bit unimpressed to be honest.

He did say a couple days ago when we chatted on phone that as he lives rurally an hour from this city he's not too familiar with the restaurants but we all know how to google these days, it's not that hard.

I just think it's weird. I was already a bit nervous of this date as it's my first time getting out there since my divorce and now this has kind of thrown me and I don't know what to respond to him .. can anyone advise?

OP posts:
Frasers · 15/06/2024 13:46

FeetupTvon · 15/06/2024 13:38

Says someone whom used the word ‘meh.’

Least I read the thread.

alrightluv · 15/06/2024 13:46

Keep us posted right up until the ring 💍 🤣

FeetupTvon · 15/06/2024 13:38

Frasers · 15/06/2024 13:22

lol, read the thread before posting, will prevent you from posting nonsense.

Says someone whom used the word ‘meh.’

Muffin101 · 15/06/2024 13:25

Best of luck! Enjoy your date 😊

Frasers · 15/06/2024 13:22

FeetupTvon · 15/06/2024 13:21

He wants to check you out in the car park. If he’s impressed with what he sees you will get a call.

lol, read the thread before posting, will prevent you from posting nonsense.

FeetupTvon · 15/06/2024 13:21

He wants to check you out in the car park. If he’s impressed with what he sees you will get a call.

RedYellowPinkGreenPurpleOrangeBlue · 15/06/2024 13:05

Bababa2456 · 15/06/2024 11:31

I hope your brain doesn't melt when you go into some restaurants or pubs and find that lunch is served from 12-2pm @FunZebra

Honestly, I despair at some posters here.

You do you, but for most people, and the catering industry, lunch is anywhere from 12-2pm.

LOL exactly! 2pm to 3pm is 'breakfast.' Some people say the daftest things! 😆

It's like the posters who say it's fine for someone to mow their lawn or trim their hedges at 7.45am, and it's 'not that early' and THEY are up at 5.45am every day, which is a 'perfectly normal time to get up for most people.' 😆

somethingwickedlivesnextdoor · 15/06/2024 12:52

Afternoon tea sounds nice!! Enjoy!

EveryOtherNameTaken · 15/06/2024 12:39

Please come back and let us know how it went!

SheilaWilde · 15/06/2024 12:29

A wandering around a market and afternoon tea sounds lovely.

Zone2NorthLondon · 15/06/2024 12:25

Afternoon tea,always nice
Now don’t go expecting him to pick up the whole tab. You both go halves. None of this he has to pay nonsense

Mrsredlipstick · 15/06/2024 12:06

My BFF worked for the agency in Kensington. They did full checks including bank statements.
What they do now I don't know.
Good luck op.

BirthdayRainbow · 15/06/2024 12:04

Afternoon tea sounds lovely.

Alwaystired2023 · 15/06/2024 12:02

Ah sounds great OP let us know how you get on!

wearemodernidiots · 15/06/2024 11:59

Hope the date goes well :)

ThinWomansBrain · 15/06/2024 11:57

I don't understand what makes you incapable of choosing a restaurant.

MasterBeth · 15/06/2024 11:56

Bababa2456 · 15/06/2024 11:31

I hope your brain doesn't melt when you go into some restaurants or pubs and find that lunch is served from 12-2pm @FunZebra

Honestly, I despair at some posters here.

You do you, but for most people, and the catering industry, lunch is anywhere from 12-2pm.

Do you still live in the 20th century? I find it very easy to buy lunch at 2pm.

purpleclaire · 15/06/2024 11:53

Have a lovely time - hope to hear more about it later.

MasterBeth · 15/06/2024 11:52

Wigtopia · 15/06/2024 08:20

Totally missing the point of the thread here BUT… am I the only one who thinks 14:00 is really late for lunch?! 😆

How on earth can 2pm be "really late for lunch."

I would think 1pm is bang-on median lunch time. How can an hour either way make much of a difference?

TigerWhiskers · 15/06/2024 11:50

Lovely. Have fun

Lavenderfowl · 15/06/2024 11:48

Have a lovely time @Lilifer it sounds to
me like he’s also a bit nervous so just have fun with no huge expectations of what it all means!

Drandthemedics · 15/06/2024 11:36

aww afternoon tea, I think that’s lovely

Hesma · 15/06/2024 11:34

Why is it all up to him? You choose somewhere and tell him when and where to meet you

Bababa2456 · 15/06/2024 11:31

FunZebra · 15/06/2024 10:22

I'd not have been at all happy with 2pm. That's not lunch , that's approaching afternoon tea time!

It's completely unacceptable to give you the venue when he was already there.

Lunch is anywhere from 12- 2pm (inclusive.)

Not for everyone. Like the OP, I don’t eat until 2pm or 3pm. Technically that’s breakfast.

(hope your brain isn’t melting at the revelation that not everyone is the same.)

I hope your brain doesn't melt when you go into some restaurants or pubs and find that lunch is served from 12-2pm @FunZebra

Honestly, I despair at some posters here.

You do you, but for most people, and the catering industry, lunch is anywhere from 12-2pm.

Gwenhwyfar · 15/06/2024 11:27

Frasers · 14/06/2024 21:45

Meh, I am not sure it’s a bad start, I hate booking places in cities I don’t know. I’ve no idea and am busy. So I think wanting to go and wander round and find the right place, which thus clearly is. Is fine.

Yes, I also don't like reservations. For just two people and mid afternoon you should be able to just walk in.