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First date - is this not a bit weird of him??

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Lilifer · 14/06/2024 21:33

I joined an old fashioned dating agency a month ago and was sent a match last week. The way it works is that if you like the look of the profile of the guy you let the agency know, and they then contact the man to let him know to contact you, and they give him your number,

So far so good, man, let's call him John rang me on Tuesday to see if I would like to meet up. I suggested we meet up in a city that's half way between us both, (we both live rurally) initially I suggested coffee but he said he would like to go for lunch so I said that's fine, pick a restaurant and let me know which one and I'll see you there at 2pm Saturday.

I waited to hear back which restaurant he was choosing. Yesterday he messaged me to ask where I would be parking so that he could choose a place that's within walking distance of where I parked. (Which I thought was considerate of him.) I told him where I was parking and heard nothing back until just now when he messaged me to say that if it's ok, he'll contact me at 2-ish tomorrow to let me know where he is.

Aibu to find that bizarre and more than a little annoying? He's had 3 days to figure out a restaurant, it's not that hard to settle on a place. And we were meant to be meeting at 2 so what's with the "I'll message you at 2ish" about?? So I'm meant to drive an hour to get to the city , and park and then wait to be given my instructions ... 🤨 I'm a bit unimpressed to be honest.

He did say a couple days ago when we chatted on phone that as he lives rurally an hour from this city he's not too familiar with the restaurants but we all know how to google these days, it's not that hard.

I just think it's weird. I was already a bit nervous of this date as it's my first time getting out there since my divorce and now this has kind of thrown me and I don't know what to respond to him .. can anyone advise?

OP posts:
FunZebra · 15/06/2024 20:28

RedYellowPinkGreenPurpleOrangeBlue · 15/06/2024 13:05

LOL exactly! 2pm to 3pm is 'breakfast.' Some people say the daftest things! 😆

It's like the posters who say it's fine for someone to mow their lawn or trim their hedges at 7.45am, and it's 'not that early' and THEY are up at 5.45am every day, which is a 'perfectly normal time to get up for most people.' 😆

Breakfast literally meaning to break your (overnight) fast: first meal of the day. I have mine after 2pm. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 15/06/2024 20:26

@Gemmy96, or, if you're on the mobile app, you click on the funnel by the OP's first post and that way you also get to see all the posts from the OP but no-one else's.

AnneKipankitoo · 15/06/2024 20:25

Afternoon tea has lasted a loooong time!

TravelInsuranceQ · 15/06/2024 20:25

Gemmy96 · 15/06/2024 20:22

There are nine pages of comments. I'm not reading all that

Just read the ones from the OP then, it's very very simple - just click on "See all"
Happy to help.....

Gemmy96 · 15/06/2024 20:22

TravelInsuranceQ · 15/06/2024 20:21

It's easy to be paranoid when you haven't read the updates.... 🙄

There are nine pages of comments. I'm not reading all that

TravelInsuranceQ · 15/06/2024 20:21

Gemmy96 · 15/06/2024 20:15

It's odd and, maybe me being paranoid, I'd worry he was doing this to stop me from telling friends/family where I was meeting him in advance

It's easy to be paranoid when you haven't read the updates.... 🙄

FawnFrenchieMum · 15/06/2024 20:20

Here for the update! Hoping it went well!

Gemmy96 · 15/06/2024 20:15

It's odd and, maybe me being paranoid, I'd worry he was doing this to stop me from telling friends/family where I was meeting him in advance

Flamingogirl08 · 15/06/2024 20:09

Yeah I need to know what happened now!

countrysidelife2024 · 15/06/2024 20:04

Did it go well :)

MrsPositivity1 · 15/06/2024 20:02

Hope it went well

Whylurkwhenicanjoinin · 15/06/2024 19:52

Im invested too, waiting with baited breath!

Bababa2456 · 15/06/2024 19:47

grangoose · 15/06/2024 19:22

So you suggested coffee in the morning, he said lunch but didn't choose a place and now says tea in a hotel? Is he hoping to stretch it out and, avoiding supper, then offer to get a room? :) I'd be very wary.

What a spoil sport you are.

NotARealWookiie · 15/06/2024 19:42

Particularly interested to hear about the pastries and quality of tea cup in the afternoon tea OP. Do update us when you get a chance!

FormerlySpeckledyHen · 15/06/2024 19:37

I think they have gone for a long walk by the river and stopped off for drinks and dinner.

AhBiscuits · 15/06/2024 19:33

I need to know how this went 😁

PriOn1 · 15/06/2024 19:26

This afternoon tea is lasting a long time! Hopefully that means it’s going well.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 15/06/2024 19:23

grangoose · 15/06/2024 19:22

So you suggested coffee in the morning, he said lunch but didn't choose a place and now says tea in a hotel? Is he hoping to stretch it out and, avoiding supper, then offer to get a room? :) I'd be very wary.

He did book something, afternoon tea at a fancy hotel for 2.00pm

grangoose · 15/06/2024 19:22

So you suggested coffee in the morning, he said lunch but didn't choose a place and now says tea in a hotel? Is he hoping to stretch it out and, avoiding supper, then offer to get a room? :) I'd be very wary.

buntymcfun · 15/06/2024 19:22

Invested!!!

Mrsredlipstick · 15/06/2024 19:20

F

MasterOfCake · 15/06/2024 19:19

Is anyone else hoping that as OP hasn’t returned for an update, she’s still out on her date…?

CoolShoeshine · 15/06/2024 19:13

Has the afternoon tea turned into dinner...?
Hoping for a good update op!!

Augustus40 · 15/06/2024 19:11

Sadly for many men their time management skills and social wherewithal can be poor.

MamaSleep · 15/06/2024 19:06

Hope it went well, OP

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