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to think my life is actually quite sad/pathetic?

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PatheticPup · 14/06/2024 18:40

Don’t get me wrong, I understand things could be far worse and am grateful that, though dull, I’m surviving quite well with very little obstacles - but I do think, in the abstract, my life is quite sad.

A typical weekday for me is: 8am - 4:30pm WFH (live alone), might pop to a shop or collect my nephew or niece from school/activity 3 times a week, then back home to have dinner. In bed by 7pm, watching telly with the dog. Asleep by 10pm to do it all again the next day.

Typical weekend is similar but with zero work, more errands/chores & occasional visits to my parents/siblings’ houses for family gatherings. No friends outside of my family & work acquaintances, and no boyfriend either (PCOS has left me on the heavier side - I walk daily with the dog and the weight is falling off post treatment but I’m aware I’m not attractive to most)

Most of the time I think my life is peaceful, but I’m also 27, and have been like this since at least 23/24. Am I missing out? Or am I lucky to live such a peaceful, drama free life?

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Maddie212 · 14/06/2024 18:50

Sounds fine to me. You have family, including young niece and nephew. You have a dog. You have flexible hours, so maybe you could pop to the gym or something.

You could date. You could do a solo hobby on the weekend or join a club. You still have time to have your own family if you want that.

Chickoletta · 14/06/2024 18:50

Depends how happy you are - what other people think doesn’t really matter.

As you asked though, I’m not sure why you would go to bed at 7.00. I don’t think I’d sleep well and I really value my evenings. If you would like more of a social life, there are lots of ways you can go about this. Joining clubs - something related to your dog? Or walking? Sport? Craft? Religion? Politics? Book group? Amateur Theatre? The list is endless really…

mrsbitaly · 14/06/2024 18:48

I don't think anyone can tell you that as it doesn't matter as long as you are content with your life.

Are you lonely? Do you want to date? Do you want to be doing something else with your time?

Or are you happy but concerned with how your life may be perceived?

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PatheticPup · 14/06/2024 18:48

mynameiscalypso · 14/06/2024 18:43

Are you happy? I think most people's lives can be fairly mundane - and your life doesn't sound sad at all! - but if that's what suits you, that's great.

90% of the time, yes, I’m very happy. Especially when the people around me are having relationship problems 🙈 That 10% though hits hard

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Autumcolors · 14/06/2024 18:47

What about joining an activity club. Something you are interested in.
That could also improve your self esteem.
It would give you more social interaction as well.

SeatedattheVirginals · 14/06/2024 18:47

What would you like your life to be like?

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PatheticPup · 14/06/2024 18:47

Dinosaurpoo · 14/06/2024 18:43

I wouldn’t say your life is sad or pathetic. But going to bed around 7 sounds boring to me! Don’t you socialise at all? Go on dates or have hobbies? Exercise?
you could do so much between 7-10. But only if you want to. If you’re happy - crack on. The only opinion that matters when it comes to your life is yours!

No, I don’t socialize. Have social anxiety since I was a child so just never bothered really. Always had friends in school but looking back, it was more circumstantial friendships than actual friendships if you get me.

I think I’m too boring for people to want to chat to anyway 🙈😂

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hattie43 · 14/06/2024 18:44

Peace and serenity is what most people aspire to without or with partners .
Why don't you mix it up , who says you have to go to bed at 7pm . Go out , people watching in a pavement cafe with a coffee is a start . You sound like you could be in a rut . Small changes will spur you on to lead a different life., but that's only if you want it . Absolutely nothing wrong with a peaceful life .

mynameiscalypso · 14/06/2024 18:43

Are you happy? I think most people's lives can be fairly mundane - and your life doesn't sound sad at all! - but if that's what suits you, that's great.

Dinosaurpoo · 14/06/2024 18:43

I wouldn’t say your life is sad or pathetic. But going to bed around 7 sounds boring to me! Don’t you socialise at all? Go on dates or have hobbies? Exercise?
you could do so much between 7-10. But only if you want to. If you’re happy - crack on. The only opinion that matters when it comes to your life is yours!

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