Colleague has sent me a dick pic

Agree to either report or send a clear message stating neutrally that you find this inappropriate, screenshot and block.

Ignore him from now on.

I avoid using WhatsApp at all for chatting or work now as there seem to be loads of creeps who exploit the more informal setting to "test the water". Often married. If it needs to be said it can normally be said in work e-mail. Life is peaceful.

“Inappropriate”

Thats all you need to reply with.

How can you see his tan if he’s dressed?

I would and I have. HR investigated and while they never confirmed or denied as much to me, there was a strong suggestion that I was not the only person he'd tried it with.

He ended up resigning "for health reasons" while suspended pending the outcome of the investigation. Jumped before he was pushed, and good riddance to the pathetic dick-brained turnip.

You should report it. Not in an ‘I want retribution’ way, but to have the incident logged (incase he has a habit of doing this) and so HR can decide whether to give him some training on behaviour in the workplace etc. You can say you don’t want it escalated, but you do want it on file. It’s inappropriate and unprofessional behaviour.

@SecretsInSongs "I reported an incident of sexual harassment from a work colleague about 15 years ago. Not a dick pick but something else. So yes, I would. Too many men get away with this shit because women are trained to be kind and let it go. Fuck that."

Agree.

Why not?

He will be doing it (or worse) to others. He'll keep doing it to you if you don't shut it down. Any damage to his career is both deserved and self inflicted.

I think you're crazy not to report. He's the one who should be keeping away from people having drinks not you.

I know you don't want to, but please report him to HR.

It's disgusting behaviour. Don't dismiss it, its not a little jokey thing.

I would tell very one.

He has done it to others.

Either reply with "inappropriate" or dont text me again or totally ignore. Anything further and report to HR.

I reported an incident of sexual harassment from a work colleague about 15 years ago. Not a dick pick but something else. So yes, I would. Too many men get away with this shit because women are trained to be kind and let it go. Fuck that.

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Let’s keep it professional at work in the future, thanks.

He is getting off on making you feel uncomfortable. It’s a power game. He will be watching for you squirming. No woman wants an unsolicited dick pick. Men know this, they’re not stupid.

I think if he’s capable of mansplaining such a ‘explanation’, then he’s exactly the type to send one. 🤮

Yes, I do agree. Even taking this in the best possible light, he's been stupid and unprofessional. No doubt.

@Allfur and @SecretsInSongs I really don't think so. As I said, he's not the sort of man to ever send a dick pic, or be disrespectful to people. However, it is interesting to get a glimpse of how other people think. At least to me.

Don't report, everyone saying report, easy for them to say but would they actually do it?

Don't reply, it will blow over, hopefully he'll get the picture that it's far from cool behaviour when you go cold. I'd be civil in person, if that.

Yes, I could see that being a thing too.

I suppose without knowing the man, it's hard to tell whether he's getting a thrill from shocking someone with his Mighty Man Penis, or just overly optimistic and misguided as to what the OPs reaction would be.

OP remember you are still likely to be in shock so there is no need to do anything or make any decisions right now. Sometimes we need more info before we can pick the best outcome of a situation.

Save the photo. Silence is the best response - it's so powerful. Take plenty of time to think things through. It might be that your workplace has a confidential employee support line that you can call to help find the right answer for you.

This is not ok…..act accordingly.

Assuming he's had radio silence I imagine he's already starting to squirm. I'd not be surprised if he's been back in touch asking for opinion or moving the conversation back to small talk.

I'd message back “why would you send me that? I'm disappointed in you." Block. And let him squirm.
Don't back out of anything you want to go to, you've done nothing wrong. He will either back out himself, try to act like nothing ever happened (while panicking inside) or try to talk to you about it to do damage control. I would tell him in this case you have nothing to discuss with him.
Oh and save the photo just in case.

Oh no don’t do this op! He’ll take it as encouragement. Don’t give it any acknowledgment that you noticed it.

Personally I’d screen shot in case it escalates and completely ignore. Go cold at work.

if he walked up to you in the office wearing thin shorts and a visible erection, pointed at it and said, look at my tan, or similar, you'd accept it was sexual harassment. If someone did it to you in a pub you'd accept it was sexual harassment. Doing it via message doesn't negate it, the only difference is you have clear proof.