Colleague has sent me a dick pic

If it were me, I would reply "Well this conversation took a disappointing turn." I wouldn't report it to HR at this point, but would absolutely screenshot the entire conversation in case it doesn't end there.

How does he expect you to react? How does any man expect a woman to react when sending this shit??

Oh yummy??!

Nope

God what a nightmare, ugh how awful of him to put you in this situation

Good job you're leaving

And it's in the workplace.

This issue absolutely vile behaviour.

This needs to be reported. If his career suffers then he might learn not to do this anymore. How many times does he have to be told that women are not impressed by the cucumber stuck down his trousers? Nobody thinks women want this. Putting his own fucked-up desires above that of the woman, and forcing her into anything remotely sexual without consent is a bit rapey. It has to stop.

100% HR on Monday. What a creep.

he is the only one who has put his career in jeopardy, you are not responsible for his gross unprofessionalism and have the right to protect yourself in your work environment.

I would be completely honest and say what you said on here in your first post.

Send him a message saying….

‘WTF? We are work colleagues and you’re sending me pictures like that? What are you thinking? It’s so unbelievably inappropriate. I actually thought you were alright and have enjoyed chatting recently. But if you think I want to see pictures like this you have got me COMPLETELY wrong. You have misjudged this situation entirely. That picture disgusts me. Why do men like you think women want to see that? We don’t.

Let him read it, then block him and ignore him in work. If he tries to speak I would say ‘Does your manager know you send pictures of your erect genitals to young women in the office?’ I don’t think he’ll bother you again.

Dont talk to him again,if he try’s say you found the pic very disrespectful and will report if it happens again…what an idiot…

Very good move! :-)

Predators try to move it onto WhatsApp, to make it seem like you're "friends" and any contact is a mutual flirtation or joint secret. But you're not.

The chief Creeps at an old work site I was on refused to read work e-mail or pretended they didn't see them.

So they would hold up people's work unless women starting WhatsApping them, and then their goal was to introduce some ambiguity or a fake sense of intimacy, and then they could start finding out information about women.

The last WhatsApp I got from a Creep (after I'd detached from the site) wasn't a dick pick but clearly "testing the waters" and trying to turn the conversation "emotional".

(no I didn't want to tell Married Creep my personal issues, and I certainly didn't want to hear his).

I replied back very neutrally, but I should have sent it to a work group with my boss cc'd in.

Report, report, report.

He's done this before, he'll do it again and worse because these things escalate.

If he's CS he won't be in any doubt that he's breaching all sorts of rules but he's relying on his victims to keep quiet. Call his bluff.

It isn't Mr C Horner trying to show you just how horny you make him is it? @Iambetteroffsingle 🤭

I haven't read every post, but in case no one's mentioned it, there's a fantastic Reddit thread from a while ago by a woman in a similar situation.

She sent an email to the guy, on the work system, with the offending photo attached, to "follow up on his message" and tell him it was inappropriate. I think it's an excellent way of dealing with unsolicited pics from colleagues.

Yeah, I admit I didn’t read the whole thread.

You carry on looking for that brain in your head.

Try reading OPs posts. 🙄

He is wearing shorts.

Well I had a similar thing happen to me but he was half named on the toilet and it was completely unsolicited. Plus he was married with young kids. I couldn't believe it. So I did take it to HR and they took it seriously

He's a 41 years old Civil Servant.
He will have done this before, probably to younger women of less seniority.
Report him.

I was going to say similar. It's about power. And he's done it in such a way as to leave some plausible deniability (since he's clothed). Save the pic. Do not reply (especially not one of the ridiculous 'sassy' comebacks).

I think this is the best approach.

He’ll feel stupid and is very unlikely to do it again.

It suits the position you feel comfortable taking and teaches him a lesson.

Have to concur with many previous comments - I get it feels awkward and weird, and you don’t want to make a fuss but it really does need reporting to HR and I hope you can muster the courage to do so on Monday.
Also, block him, regardless of what you actually end up doing.

The sad fact is there's at least one in every workplace.

You can tell from the OP's posts how much this reprobate has unsettled her 😔 It's not fair, and I hope he gets his comeuppance.

"I struggle with boundaries with men but I in no shape or form flirted with him or said anything suggestive"

You haven't.

He's a predator and chances are he has a partner or a wife. He starts exchanging chatty messages so you "think" you're friendly then starts trying to turn it into sexts. Just because he looks like a nice basic mainstream guy doesn't mean he's not predatory.

This is how he operates, he's manipulative. He wants to set you up so it looks like its some mutual thing, but it's not.

Of course people can and do meet and date via work. But then they're mainstream or open about it, they may even ask you out in a group situation with friendly colleagues. They don't try to keep things sneaky and secret.

I reported a dick pic to HR about 10 years ago. It was an erection beneath some trunks, but part on show. My colleague was more senior to me, well liked, “one of the lads”, married, kids, etc.
I confided in a trusted female colleague and he had form, according to rumours, but no one had come forward to complain. I was hesitant, would I be believed etc and thought sod that, so
I took the plunge and reported him. Best thing I ever did at work and I would do it again in a heartbeat because I would rather have the potential of temporary fall out than a lifetime of regret at not reporting it.

There was no drama in the end, he resigned and moved on quickly. The worry I had was temporary, the regret would’ve been forever. HR were brilliant.

He should be worried. I realise you might not feel comfortable doing so (which is why these reptiles get away with this stuff), but I'd call him the fuck out on it. Reply telling him that his actions are that of a depraved sex pest, and does he think he's fucking clever? I'd tell him I was planning to tell everyone at work what he'd did - the scummy bastard deserves to be shamed to the max.

Laughing emoji and block. Anything else is licence for him to escalate. I personally wouldn’t report to HR as it’s hassle for you and sadly, will definitely have repercussions with other colleagues. It shouldn’t but always does. But would screenshot and report at the next sign of inappropriate comms