Colleague has sent me a dick pic

This. Just take the piss out of him and he’s unlikely to do it again

I think when men send unsolicited DPs, it's often a quick filter: 'They'll either sleep with me or block me, some you win, some you lose, but I'll know either way'. But at work, it's different because you can't avoid all contact: Probably never entered his mind that actually the downside is losing his job, in most businesses now HR wouldn't dare NOT sack someone for doing this.
Realistically, can you carry on working with this guy?

Cyberflashing" has been illegal in the UK since 31.1.24.,

It's been illegal in England and Wales since then.

It's been illegal in Scotland since 2010

@Iambetteroffsingle "Cyberflashing" has been illegal in the UK since 31.1.24., and I knew this despite not closely following the news so I bet he does too. I suspect he tried to work around it by having his hard-on covered in clothes, but it was still obviously an erect penis. An unsolicited dick pic.

I'm a firm believer in "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing". By ignoring bad behaviour it's not really attempting to end it. I can give an example of that. When I was 18, in my first job, an older, married with kids, male colleague would grope my bum as he went past, day in day out. I thought that by ignoring it he would stop but he didn't. It was only when it became obvious I had to report to my manager that he was spoken to and finally stopped.

Anyway, you are in an excellent situation as you are leaving the company soon, so what are you concerned about? I bet this isn't his first rodeo either, and as someone else said, cyber flashing can be the start of worse sexual behaviour, so please seriously consider reporting him. If nothing else, perhaps speak with HR, explaining the situation, and ask their opinion? Hell, I'd be asking the Police too, but I'm so over this shit.

Oh for the love of God

Have you skipped over all the other countless posts that say "Don;t do daft laughy emojis / dont say Oh that looks like a penis but SO much smaller / don;t share it "

This is not a laughing matter or a humiliation retalitation.

The OP isn't at school , she's a profesional adult and will deal with this in the manner of a professional adult .

Print it out poster size and stick it in the office for everyone to see.

Women owe it to women to stop men being able to continue behaving this way.

He’s already jeopardised his career through his own actions. Tell HR and they can deal with him. For all you know, there’s been other allegations but no concrete proof.

Have a read on the psychology of men that send dick pics - the prize isn’t you being flattered / impressed it’s getting a reaction & knowing they have head space.
Think of it as a modern flasher - don’t think anyone anywhere/ ever has said they met their DH in a park with his pants around his ankles wearing a Mac …

OP doesn’t owe anyone anything.

If you don’t want to report then just respond ‘That is not appropriate.’ No emojis or anything else. Then don’t engage with him on anything other than what is strictly work related and essential, and keep things minimal.

If you never have to speak to or email him about work then just cut off all contact.

The fact that women still feel bad about calling out the disgusting behaviour of predatory fucking creeps like him depresses the life out of me

Even my 14 year old at the time had the sense to approach someone who could deal with this type of behaviour.

Report it to HR. Message him that you find his reply inappropriate, which has made working with him more difficult. Be honest with mutual friends and say that unfortunately due to a message you received from him, you find it better to keep contact strictly professional.

The fact that women still feel bad about calling out the disgusting behaviour of predatory fucking creeps like him depresses the life out of me. Not having a go at you, OP, I get how you feel. But please at least block him and never speak to him again. Awkwardness is the least he deserves.

And who the fuck are the 5% of YABU voters who think this is in any way OK? Jesus suffering Christ.

I would just leave it on read and never talk to him again

In your shoes I'd respond with 'that's wholly inappropriate, send me anything else like this and I'm taking it straight to hr. Don't contact me again, unless it's strictly work related.

I'd also keep the message so he can't decide to take offence at your lack of interest and start to make things difficult for you at work. You've warned him so anything else inappropriate, even in conversation would see me going straight to hr.

Why would you get a reputation as a troublemaker? Your colleague has brought this entirely on himself.
His career is not your problem. .

Don't send a laughing emoji FFS! Block and report him - if it impacts his career, that's entirely on him. Jesus Christ, what a fucking creep.

Why are men so thick? To even try it with the tan mark thing thinking it’s so slick it’s pathetic.

And he's counting on that being the case.

Report to HR.

Are you currently in CS? I would hate to think this guy has access to people's personal information and depending on role/department vulnerable people's information! He will also have broken the CS code so regardless of if it was sent in work time or not it will be taken seriously.

Honestly OP you need to report this.

I'm assuming you are in your 30s if he is 41?

This IS sexual harassment. He will be doing this to other people. Duick pic aside he is a misogynist. Please help protect the other women around you.

Imagine if this was sent to a 22 year old new hire and he was their boss?

He needs to be reported and reprimanded.

I don’t understand, why is he talking about his tan if all it is is his penis? That makes no sense.

Absolutely report this, it may be a one off or he could have done this a number of times and everyone just puts up with his bad behaviour. What message does it send if you don't act? If this is accepted will his behaviour escalate in the future? Perhaps not with you but with someone else. If you have a new job there is nothing to loose. Screenshot it and show your manager or HR. At what point should his career be impacted? When he sends ten pictures or fifty or when his behaviour escalates? Because if this is ok what else will he try to get away with?