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Colleague has sent me a dick pic

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Iambetteroffsingle · 14/06/2024 18:03

Well not a completely full-frontal one, he is clothed on it but it's a picture of his 'hard-on'. (Sorry this is TMI)

I vaguely knew of him before and we went on a team-building weekend activity as a group. Got on well, stayed in touch a bit over the last week via text, just talking about work and holidays mainly.
There's been no flirting or innuendos of any sort, then I opened my phone to this.
The man is 41 FFS.
He's put a caption in the picture talking about his 'tan' but I'm not stupid, I know what a lot of men are like.

If this were out of work I'd block straightaway, but I feel so awkward with working together. We aren't in the same team but have mutual friends. I just don't know what to do.

I was slightly interested before and would've been open to a date or something similar but this has shown me what he thinks of me.

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Mummy2024 · 14/06/2024 18:08

God that's disgusting, he knows exactly what he's doing aswell he's gonna say I sent her a pic of my tan, I talked about my tan she's the one looking at my pants that's not my fault. Litterally a sleeze bag this won't be the first time he's pulled a Stunt like this. I would block him and blank him at work aswell.

Allofaflutter · 14/06/2024 18:08

Hr right away.

TippedOverTheGravyJug · 14/06/2024 18:08

Send the laughing emoji then block and report

HowDidJudithSurvive · 14/06/2024 18:08

I would probably screenshot it then block him. Just avoid him at work as much as possible.

You are well within your rights to report it, just going in the fact that you said you don’t want to.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 14/06/2024 18:08

Iambetteroffsingle · 14/06/2024 18:06

I don't want to jeapordise his career or anything, I just don't want to talk to him again. But maybe he's doing it to others who knows?

He’s jeopardising his own career. HR really should be told.

AskingForAFriend12 · 14/06/2024 18:06

I would block him. Let him feel uncomfortable.

Iambetteroffsingle · 14/06/2024 18:06

I don't want to jeapordise his career or anything, I just don't want to talk to him again. But maybe he's doing it to others who knows?

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Pootles34 · 14/06/2024 18:06

Screenshot it to start with so you have evidence for HR if needed.

What would you like to happen next? Do you want to report him to work, or just have him stop it?

FUBAR77 · 14/06/2024 18:06

Almost seems covert IMO, hiding behind the caption and testing your boundaries. You don’t need to say anything just give the photo a thumbs down and don’t msg again….put the awkwardness back on him and let him worry if you’ll tell colleagues!

Youve done nothing wrong here OP.

Longdueachange · 14/06/2024 18:06

You need to screenshot, block and inform HR straight away.

Garibaldhead · 14/06/2024 18:06

I'd report it to HR.

You shouldn't be put in a position where a colleague makes you feel so uncomfortable.

Needanewnamebeingwatched · 14/06/2024 18:06

It's disrespectful, I would report

Iambetteroffsingle · 14/06/2024 18:04

I hate it when they think women really want to see that 🙄 we were literally having a discussion about a holiday he'd been on. It's vile.

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