Colleague has sent me a dick pic

Don’t reply. There is nothing that you can say that is appropriate in the circumstances. Definitely don’t make light of it. Screenshot and report to your manager on your next working day. Also block him.

Do not reply with any laughing emoji’s!!!

just don’t reply. You don’t want to encourage any further interaction. Please block him.

I agree don't banter with him.

Say this is really inappropriate and block and report

No. He’d consider that flirting. He’d ask you what you meant, are you looking at that, want to see in real life etc. Block and don’t respond ever again.

I would screenshot then block. Not sure if report to HR immediately as I don’t like fuss but I would keep the evidence. Blocking sends him the message you found it gross

i wouldn’t play along with emojis / laughing / magnifying glasses. That sends the message it’s all a big laugh. Just coldly block

I'll have a think of what to do, maybe I should send a laughing emoji with a magnifying glass?

Yes, do this.

That'll really open up the bantz 🙄

Or you could just be professional and report him.

Eww. Sorry for you. I think it’s ok to block him. If in time there’s a work reason why you need contact and he’s stopped being gross, you can unblock then. If you don’t want to go to HR, then sending him the right message by just blocking him and not engaging is the best thing you can do.

I voted YABU because of "I just don't know what to do".

Yes you do.

Just do it.

He’s jeopardising his own career.

I’d report him. Creepy bastard.

Why do women have to put up with this shit?

What normal woman would welcome a dick pic??? It’s a power play. It’s absolutely disgusting.

id report to hr. Or if you don’t want to jeopardise his career (although he’s obviously not that bothered, what a stupid arse) ask your manager for advice.

i mean, wtf was he thinking you’d say?

Screenshot for proof. Block and ignore so he won’t send anything else.

Why not? He's jeopardised his own career

It's not anything you've done, it's a natural consequence

Send a dick pic to a colleague = HR get informed

The very definition of fuck around, find out.

Yeah the boundary pushing mentioned above is so disrespectful and such a marker of the man he is. He’s showing you no respect and he obviously thinks he’s above reproach, posting such a photo to his colleague! Zero fucks given to how inappropriate his actions are. What a narcissistic asshole. I hope you report him. You’re NOT jeopardising his career by reporting him! HE is!! He’s jeopardising his career by behaving like an arrogant assclown.

If you don't want to report, I agree something neutral like 'i find this inappropriate from a work colleague' and then block.

Even before I opened your thread, my answer was 'I'd forward it to HR'.

You are not jeapordising his career - he is doing that all by himself. And yes, consider the possibility that you are not his only victim. Do not protect him - involve HR.

Who else has he done it to ?

If it were me, I'd text him back something like "Unsolicited dick pics constitute sexual harrassment."

And then block him.

And keep the pic.

Keep him worrying for months and potentially years as to whether you'll tell HR or not.

Or just report him to HR.

But personally I'd do the former - him being on tenterhooks for ages wondering what action I might take would be so delicious.

If he doesn't want to jeopardise his career then perhaps he shouldn't send penis pics to his colleagues. He should know it's not appropriate, and if he doesn't at the age of 41 then HR should help him understand.

Definitely, my ex would have been off the scale if he found I'd received a dick pic and would not have believed for one second that it was unsolicited.

You need to report it to HR. Fuck his career. He's clearly got away with this for ages to have that level of confidence about doing it.

Surely you just sent a laughing emoji and block him? That laugh with damage him forever.. More than reporting him at work would do.

I would jepodise his career, he is a disrespectful man, he needs to know his behavior is wrong and will not be tolerated.
Report him so he knows not to do this to other women.

Just block him OP. He’s a dick. Literally.

I’d block immediately, but sometimes a quick “is it supposed to look like that” is fun

Why not just reply with something like 'not quite appropriate for work colleagues' and some sort of bleurgh emoji?

Sending a dick pic to a colleague is aberrant behaviour. Report him for the sake of future female colleagues, so that he doesn’t jeopardise their lives.