Colleague has sent me a dick pic

Personally - and I’m not suggesting this is what you would do - you should do what you are comfortable with - I would probably tell him it was inappropriate and that in future he is only to speak to me about work matters.

IF he then backed off I wouldn’t go to HR. Any more fuckery and I would. I’d also screenshot/save the conversation.

Agree with pp
Firstly don't forward it to anyone
Secondly do not respond to him other than perhaps to say " inappropriate "
Thirdly : report to Hr . This is harassment and you don't need to tolerate this in the workplace

You have done nothing wrong, he is a creep and deserves whatever action the company I see fit to take

Presumably you have an HR department if there was a team building exercise?

Report this to HR if so.

Take it to your manager if no HR dept.

Ewww grim, 41yr old creeping on young women.

I would message him to say, 'the image you sent is inappropriate, I am blocking you. Please keep any communication with me related to work only'. I would flag this to HR/your manager and say that your belief is that it is sexual harassment. It's helpful for them to have a record of it even if you don't take it forward as he may be pestering others.

Report this soon to be ex colleague and you don't have a problem.

It's one thing to maybe flirt or ask you on a date.

It's a MASSIVE overstep to send you a dick pic.

If anyone asks tell them the truth what's happened.

This is so not ok it's untrue.

You are not the one jeaporising his career by reporting this. He is the one jeaporising his career by sensing inappropriate and unasked for pictures of his erection to you.

I wouldn't reply and would report to HR. If it affects his career that is as a result of his extremely poor and creepy decision making.

It's incredibly unlikely this is the first time he's done this. Please don't worry about his career. He's obviously not thinking about that, is he? If he was, he wouldn't be sending photos like that.

Report it to HR. Say you would have dealt with it yourself, but you are doing it in case others have reported it too. Don't respond at all to the photo. Don't discuss it with him and if you can, don't mention it to others there as if they hear you're considering reporting it, it'll get back to him.

Ah excellent, creepy middle aged man trying to groom younger women in his workplace.

100% he has done this before and is working through his boundary-eroding routine with you.

He will likely turn nasty if you stand up to him so keep the evidence and consider being the one to report to HR before he has a chance to start.

We had one in one of my workplaces, he used the same lines, targeted younger women he perceived to be more vulnerable or who had less work power than him and turned very nasty and made their lives hell at work if they didn't go along with his sexual grooming.

so if you don’t won’t to raise a complaint just deal directly message to say your offend and to avoid any future incidents your blocked

I'd ask him what you're looking at, as it could be explained as shorts from what you're saying. Let him explain in his own words then go to HR.

This! He's relying on you not doing anything, OP. And if you don't want to do anything other than block him that is absolutely fine.

Men like him know exactly what they are doing. Disgusting pig.

In a way I’d be tempted to say “presume that was sent in error”, but then that just gives him an out. Maybe there is a way of wording it more clearly. “I can’t believe you meant to send that to me. Ugh.”

Even more reason to report this!

This is how men like that operate. Rely on women feeling 'awkward' and not wanting to cause a fuss then even having sympathy for them at the thought of repercussions. It's fucking bullshit.

It's important that you do raise this in work. Don't worry about his career, that's for him to deal with. And he will be dealt with. Mysogeny, sexual harassment, inappropriate behaviour, disrespectful and also a reputational risk to the business. He's a risk full stop.

He's made you feel uncomfortable, anxious and worried about working with him. Don't you worry for one minute about the consequences of his actions. He made his choice here.

Do you send unsolicited pictures of yourself in a flimsy top with erect nipples? No! Because you know it’s completely inappropriate. Report him, he’ll do it again. What is it in some men’s brains that makes them think women want to be sent this sort of crap!! The only way they will stop is if it’s raised officially. He has created this situation, not you.

Blokes not bloats!

What the actual fuck. I work for such nice bloats I can't imagine any of them behaving like this. Ive forgotten how vile man can be.
He's 41 for fucks sake. Not that that makes it any better if he was younger but it's near to flashing an actual person you know ina professional space. You 100% must tell HR. Men need to be called out on this sort of shite or else it escalates.

I'm going to start by saying there are absolutely no circumstances where I think being sent an unsolicited dick pic is OK. If someone requests one, fine (WHY?!?!??!)

However, you said you would have been open to a date which does suggest that you had been flirting or at least making your interest known. Which for me makes if feel like not an HR issue. Others disagree, and fair enough if you want to go down that route. But you said he is asking about his tan. So is there a group chat you could share it on and asks others 'what do you think about Bob's tan?'

2 wrongs don't make a right and all that, but I bet it would stop him doing stupid shit like that again! And he can't really complain to HR when he sent it to you in the first place!

I'd say "You've gone too far with that. I don't want to talk to you any more" Then if he persists you will have shown you were clear that it was unwanted if you need to take it further.

Yes

That's immature

report and block him. There's no other sensible response.