Colleague has sent me a dick pic

What the hell is wrong with men like that? 🙄

If you don’t want to report him, reply with ‘grow up and never do this again unless you want it reported to HR’.😡

You totally have to report him to HR.

If not nipped in tne bud there's no telling what he'll do.

As for ruining his career, he's done that for himself.

Think of ot this way; if you don't complain he'll take it as a green flag to turn up on person to either you or someone else. Do you want that on your conscience?

Block and inform HR. Why don't you want to jeopardise his career? He's playing fast and loose with yours by putting t you in this difficult and vulnerable position. Fucking idiot. Deserves what's coming.

block, make a formal complaint to HR

It's sexual harassment.

What would be your response if he'd drawn your attention to him having an erection under his trousers while you two were chatting in person in the office kitchen or rec. room?

Because that's what he's done, but just via a phone.

I hope you take strength from all the responses on this thread advising you to report him.

No don't send emojis. If anything text him that you find it inappropriate and don't engage further. I agree with others that you should report him.

Personally I'd reply with a very terse 'how inappropriate' block him and speak to HR.

Don't ignore it, he'll do it to someone else

You have to report him. Someone once sent me an actual dick pic and I reported it to the police. They took it seriously and asked if he knew where I lived, so it is obviously seen as something that can escalate.

Your situation sounds a bit different to mine but nevertheless I would report it to HR.

I would ignore it and block him. He will feel very stupid

HR Report. No excuses.

Sorry when I say worrying about their I mean the photo sender.

I would do nothing at the moment. I wouldn't block or respond. Then I would go to HR first thing on Monday morning and report this picture and any other picture/message he sends over the weekend. Sadly in my experience we woman tend to worry about their careers/family etc and eventually the behaviour escalates.

To hell with his career, if he wants a career then HE should not send pictures like this to colleagues. Report him immediately. This would be gross misconduct where I work.

Some really stupid suggestions like emailing it to all and pulling him aside privately to speak to him. Are the people saying this actually adults with careers?

There’s a lot of good advice but also some very poor advice on here. Sexual harassment is unwelcome sexual behaviour that could make a person feel offended, humiliated or intimidated. To be sexual harassment, it has to be reasonable to expect that there is a possibility that the person being harassed would be offended, humiliated or intimidated by the behaviour. This means that whether behaviour is sexual harassment depends on how a reasonable person would interpret the behaviour in that situation.

A close up picture of an erection would quite clearly make an average person in a workplace feel intimidated or humiliated. It’s irrelevant whether he intended it to be sexual harassment or just a photo of him in shorts. That wasn’t what was achieved.

It also doesn’t need to occur in the workplace for it to be workplace harassment. If it happened during work hours then this would be sufficient in many court cases. I would expect HR would be very interested in knowing that he did this to a colleague regardless of when or where though.

Please don’t respond with laughing emojis. This may provide implicit approval which would embolden him and may stop similar behaviour from him toward you from being sexual harassment. Please also don’t forward the image to colleagues. If he’s sexually harassing you by sending the photo then you’re doing the same by sending it on (even if that wasn’t your intention). Others could easily be offended by the photo. He may also claim workplace bullying if responses to the photo were to be humorous. You don’t want to take the risk of also doing something wrong.

the best answer is to report him. His career should be changed because he is clearly not an appropriate person for a senior role with his current behaviour. HR need to know this. It’s also important to protect other women in the workplace. Don’t be concerned for his future. He certainly wasn’t worried when he sent the photo. If you don’t feel you can report then reply stating that you found the image to be offensive and highly inappropriate and then block. Don’t banter and be very clear about how inappropriate the image was.

good luck

Exactly.

It could also start him sabotaging the op.

He could spread fake gossip about her.

She needs to have it recorded etc before he does anything.

Our company has an anonymous Hr suggestions box. It's maniky used by people to whinge about minor things such as the cost of coffee capsules but it has been used to tell hr about some racist comments that were overheard and some bullying behaviour. Do you have anything like that you can use?

Do you have an “all@“ email address at work ?

Well, send it there.

No, do not do this!

It would be seen as a threat or blackmail.

And any conversations on this matter need to be strictly on record. No private conversations that could be denied or misrepresented.

The only sensible thing to do is report him to HR asap, OP, and avoid any further communication with this pervert.

He has done this before, I guarantee it, and he is laughing at you.

He has already jeopardised his own career, and my guess is since he didn't send a naked picture he's done this before, got reprimanded, and is playing safe this time. He also tried buttering you up with texts as a means of discrediting any future report you make.

Report him before he gets promoted and you find yourself dealing with him as your manager.

If you don't report, any future harassment or unwanted physical approach will not be as credible as it should be.

To those who are saying it's not a dick pic, would you be happy with a 13 year old daughter being sent a picture of a hard on under fabric?

Pull him aside, tell him it's inappropriate and he is not to talk to you again unless it is essential or at work, otherwise you'll send it to HR.