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I live in an awful area, there was a shooting today and can't get out!

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NoCoco · 14/06/2024 17:38

I live in S E London and it really is an awful area. I can't get out and feel trapped.
I'm in a low paid job, single mum. The house I live in is owned by a family member who very kindly let's me live here for free, they are very wealthy and the house was left to them by a family member.
I'm so grateful but I would love to move to a safer area. There was a shooting here at the end of my road today. I'm so worried about my kids and am a nervous wreck. I can't afford to privately rent, no chance of a mortgage and council lists are crazy.
I just feel so trapped. Does anyone else hate where they live?

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Grossirsansplaisir · 14/06/2024 17:42

Hang on a minute, you pay ZERO rent?? And you can't afford to save ANYTHING to get out.

The math ain't mathin hun

DanielGault · 14/06/2024 17:42

That's horrible but it can happen anywhere. Once when we moved there was a shooting and a stabbing around the corner the same week. Tbf the are was normally pretty ok, but that week I was wondering what have we done!!

Doingtheboxerbeat · 14/06/2024 17:41

You're going to get a lot of people suggesting that you save the money you are saving on rent to move elsewhere, but we don't know your specific circumstances so I won't go there.
Sorry you feel unsafe, sounds terrifying.

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NoCoco · 14/06/2024 17:41

Because I don't pay rent I get hardly any benefits which is fine but I'm in a really low paid job without regular hours.
Most people here seem to get their rent paid so I'm not much better off. By the time I pay energy bills, food etc I don't have much left

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WinterMorn · 14/06/2024 17:40

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HowDidJudithSurvive · 14/06/2024 17:40

Save what you would pay in rent and think about relocating up north, are your kids in school yet? I know that’s a massive upheaval but you can get a better quality of life somewhere cheaper. it doesn’t sound like you can afford a better area where you are.

SnackFish · 14/06/2024 17:40

Tbh I don't feel unsafe here though it's the same all over London leave London then it will be cheaper then you can afford it?

GoogleWhacking · 14/06/2024 17:40

OhHelloMiss · 14/06/2024 17:39

Why can't you save? You are living there for free so can't you save up what you would be paying in rent?

This!!

SnackFish · 14/06/2024 17:39

You live in the same area as me then

OhHelloMiss · 14/06/2024 17:39

Why can't you save? You are living there for free so can't you save up what you would be paying in rent?

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