To ask if you had a preference for a boy or girl?

I really wanted a girl every single time I was pregnant although the 2nd and 3rd pregnancy my main concern really was that they were just healthy ( 1st DC passed away shortly after birth )

I only ever envisioned raising daughters. I did not like the idea of a son ( my whole family is women no uncles no dads no Male cousins on scene or grandad ect )

But funnily enough, since having my DS I have completely switched and would only ever want another son if I had another baby. I really regret all the time I spent worrying and not wanting a boy because he is my easiest happiest chilled child and such a joy to raise.

I wanted twins- one of each, but that wasn’t to be, thankfully 🙏🏾.
Other than that, just wanted a healthy baby. Cared so little about sex, I waited until birth to find out the sex.
My ex wanted a son, but was happy with a girl.
My mum and sisters wanted a niece so much so they named her and would call her by said name all the way through my pregnancy 🤷🏽‍♀️.

Mine passed away as well but prior to that I didn't have any contact with her for years, she wasn't a nice mother to me and I was raised by my dad so I think that's where my initial preference came from as I'd never felt like I was part of a mother/daughter "team" so to speak

Only with dc3 did I really have a preference.

Dc1 - zero preference at all. I just wanted a healthy baby after a previous mc. Had a boy.

Dc2 - no preference again. I was torn between thinking it would be lovely for ds to have a brother and it would be lovely to experience 'the other side' and have one of each. Had a boy.

Dc3 - strong preference for a boy. Dc were 8 and 6, we were living in a 2 bed house and unsure when we'd move - so a third boy would at least give us more time as we had one absolutely massively bedroom they could share. I had loads of baby boy clothes still in storage and I realised that I enjoyed the 'simplicity' of having boys...(shorts, t-shirt, full belly, a big stick to play with and they're golden IME 😂). Was nervous of how a girl might change things up. Had a boy and was very relieved.

It's weird really, my whole life I always dreamt of having a little girl, used to imagine dressing her in stylish clothes, doing her hair, playing with girls toys with her etc, and then when I found out I was pregnant, out of nowhere I felt an overwhelming urge to want a boy! Perhaps because I have an amazing relationship with my little brother who is considerably younger than me and I was always a bit like a third parent, or maybe because I'm a bit of a tomboy at heart but my feelings did a complete 180. He's here now and he is the most perfect amazing thing in my life, but I would no doubt say the same if he'd ended up being a girl haha!

I have BBGB. My daughter had gender disappointment when she found out she was having a third brother!

After 6 rounds of IVF. I just wanted a baby.

But, if someone had held a gun to my head and asked for a preference it would have been a boy. I got a boy.

We didn't know what we were having in my day until the baby was born..we bought neutral clothing.. prams etc..
Once born we were given gifts from friends and family according to what we had. ( no stupid baby showers,).
I didn't have any preference...was happy to be having them ( 2 daughters) l had PCOS and Endometriosis.
Had a miscarriage and Ectopic.
I now have four Grandsons..
Well blessed.

I was so anxious about the prospect of miscarriage, genetic abnormalities, congenital defects etc that I didn't really give it much thought prior to my 30 week scan. I was just holding my breath at the scan for a good outcome. But I have to admit, once I knew everything looked good and I found out I was having a little girl I was very pleased. Although equally I might have felt the same if it had been a boy, I'm not sure. My daughter now tells me she wants a sister and we are ttc again. I have had such a positive experience of having a little girl that I probably do have a vague preference for another girl, but I know if I turn out to have a boy I'll be so besotted with him that that will all fly out of the window in an instant.

So for me gender preferences are vague and fluid, and ultimately the baby I end up with will be the love of my life regardless of what I might have felt about theoretical boys or girls.

I didn’t have a preference, I don’t think. I was just so bloody excited to finally meet my baby, after a longgggg ttc journey. If I had to choose, I think I probably would’ve picked a boy, which we did have, but there was no part of me that would’ve been disappointed with a girl.

I didn't have a preference, although always pictured myself having boys. Was definitely surprised when my first was a girl as that's not what I imagined, but not disappointed, just shocked. Then with my second I also. didn't have a preference, but again, felt it was going to be a boy,and thought how lovely it would be to have one of each. She was another girl. Again, not disappointed, just the complete opposite of what I'd always pictured in my head. And I love having girls, they're wonderful, and I wouldn't change it for the world. Thry are best buddies and now I couldn't picture things any other way.

I really wanted girls. Did not think I would be a great parent to a boy as I thought they would be so challenging for me - active, naughty, and different to me.
Had both and SURPRISE - the boy was an utter delight - easy, happy, loving little fellow who grew up as a polite, athletic teenager who loved to talk, and reread Harry Potter.

Each child was individually gorgeous and their personality was not that much influenced by their gender. That was also surprising.

I only wanted to have boys as I have such a poor relationship with my own mother I had no idea how I would bond with a daughter.

(I have one of each and DD and I have bonded just fine :) )

They don’t in all cultures. I work in Leicester where boys are in demand!

I think women often want subconsciously a version of themselves though.

During pregnancy I split with my child’s dad (abusive). I knew from birth I was going to be a single parent, so at the time I hoped for a girl as I thought it would make it easier for me in my situation. I ended up having a boy and nothing else mattered. I think I got myself so worked up on the fact that if I had a boy I cannot do all the ‘dad’ stuff with him or silly things like teaching him to stand up and wee. But regardless of gender, you adjust to the parenting. I’m very grateful I had a healthy child.

I don't know. I often wonder this!

My son is lovely! So is my daughter. They're both great in their own unique way.

First child - wanted a girl - got a boy. Experienced gender disappointment, but got over it and of course adore my boy.

Second child - didn't mind which - got a girl.

I experienced fertility issues, need fertility treatment to get pregnant. Had miscarriages and including one which I had to deliver one at 17 weeks.

I still had gender disappointment with my first. You can't help how you feel.

So people who judge - can just fuck right off.

Why do so many people want girls in particular?

I wanted a girl. Probably more accurately I assumed I would have girls because they run so heavily in my family. ( I know, I know, it's the man's sperm but I still just assumed)

When I found out I was having a boy I was very surprised.

There was a slight concern that having a girl might have meant pink and frills and the opposite of the tomboy I was and how well I'd cope with that.

I had two boys and was happy with that. Both same sex meant more opportunities for reusing baby/toddler clothes

You can’t possibly say how you will have felt when actually pregnant though I’m afraid. You can think you know but you don’t. It’s not a conscious thing.

Before I was pregnant I genuinely didn’t care. Minute I was pregnant the baby I imagined in my head was a girl. I didn’t choose that.

I quite wanted one of each, which was what I got.

But equally I would have been happy to two boys or two girls. I mean I had zero control over it, so I didn't overthink it too much. You get what you get at the end of the day.

I actually really thought I was having a second boy when I was pregnant with DD, and I was very surprised when she popped out with a fanny!

Now I have a very wild and unreasonable daughter, who is filled with fire and BIG feelings and is very challenging to parent (or an utter joy and it can switch in the blink of an eye) and I often wonder what it would have been like to have two boys. 😆