To ask if you had a preference for a boy or girl?

I wanted DS, DD, DS. I got DS, DS, DD. Wasnt disappointed though and love the bond my DS's have.

Aw lovely, Congrats! 🥰

Yanbu OP, it's extremely common but sometimes not openly admitted. There are swaying groups on FB where the majority are swaying the odds to get the opposite of what they already have. If their sway is successful they are over the moon but obviously not everyone's sway is successful and there is a lot of gender disappointed also when they find out. Others can say it's ridiculous or unfair on the baby but I suppose you can't change how you feel, can you?
Did you get the gender you wanted with the second?

I think often the preference for girls is, as a PP said, thinking of the long term/adult relationship.

I know on MN apparently there is no difference between boys and girls but ime men take far less initiative to have a close relationship with family once they've left home.

I have 2 boys and of course they are wonderful, and there is currently no difference between them and if I'd had girls, but I do worry for the long term relationship we will have. I am so close to my mum, and I fear I won't have that with my own children (even on MN, women being close to daughters is fine but men being close to mothers are negatively seen as 'mummy's boys')

I wanted a girl, and I now realise it was because I wanted to give her the childhood I'd never had.

But I knew from almost the start that I was carrying a boy (just instinct, didn't want to know the scan results), so a girl wouldn't have felt like 'my' baby by the end.

He still got the childhood I'd never had. If I'd have had a second I'd have preferred a boy because I kind of knew what to expect.

I didn't really think too much about what I wanted my baby's sex to be. The second time around I did think about how the sibling dynamic with my firstborn may be affected by the sex of my second child. I grew up with only sisters and I'm very close to them so I felt a little aprehensive about mixed sex siblings. I have a boy and a girl. I'm pleased to have 'one of each' and hold out hope that they'll still get on well.

My mum was definitely hoping for a boy and openly told us what our boy name would have been. She wanted to go shopping with us and for us to be miniature versions of her and it didn't really work out that way at all.

I always " knew" I'd have boys as I just couldn't picture myself with a girl
My eldest is 30, so before they would tell you the sex He was a boy and so were my other two
I did know with DS3 as I had an early scan, due to medication I was on.
He was a very welcome surprise!

I didn't care but I have 6 nieces and nephews so used to both and know they're all so individual.

Forgot To add: I had a wee boy and he's the light of my life. For a second either would be nice. I think more about what age gap I'd want

I really, really wanted a boy first time round. I didn't know until he arrived as hospital policy was not to disclose at the scan, but I was absolutely sure I was having a girl. Immediately after the birth I was so out of it I thought the midwife was lying to me when she told me I had a son.

I genuinely didn't mind with babies 2 and 3, I probably had a very slight preference for a boy both times and that's what I had.

Of course I'd have loved a girl if I'd had one, but I always felt more comfortable with the thought of being a mother of boys. I would say I minded more about not having a boy than I did about not having a girl.

I didn’t really care when I was pregnant with my first and I had a boy.

wasnt too bothered with my second pregnancy but if you pressed me then I’d probably have said boy so my elder DS had a pal (I know it doesn’t always work like that!)

anyway I have two boys and they’re pals with each others and very brotherly

I wanted a girl with both of my pregnancies. I wound up with two boys.

I love them dearly and wouldn't change them. Would I still like to have a daughter? Yes, but it's not in the cards. My boys are enough.

And I must admit I cringe when the “boy mums” slag off girls. Strikes me as a bit “methinks the lady doth protest too much”. My boys are fab, but I have lots of nieces who are all wonderful girls and I love to bits. There’s no need to slag off the opposite sex. Be grateful for what you have. :)

I was the same, still wound up with 2 boys!

Hmm not really, first time I slightly wanted a boy more and second time slightly wanted a girl more, wasn’t bothered really though. I have 2 boys

I knew I wanted at least one daughter, and I didn't mind if I never had a boy - but I wasn't overinvested first time around, and if she had been a boy, I wouldn't have been disappointed. I also was pretty convinced it was going to be a girl and she was.

Second time around I was equally convinced it was going to be a boy and he was! I think by then I had thought another girl would be nice, but I had mine when we didn't get scans to tell us beforehand, so I was hoping for another girl, in spite of the feeling that he was a boy. My heart sank for about 2 seconds when they said I had a son and then I got to hold him and disappointment vanished.

I'm now very glad I have one of each

I so desperately wanted boys. I always thought I'd never wanted girls- I always thought I'd never be a good girl mum.

Lo and behold, my first was a girl, and then twin boy and girl. So I've been blessed with two girls and I am so lucky and blessed to have them. ❤️

I wanted a boy. I have PCOS and it really affects me, my health and my self-esteem. I didn't want to pass that down to a girl. (I know it can go through the male line, but the chances are smaller). I know I would have loved a little girl just as much, but I would have felt so guilty if she had the same struggles.

First time around I didn't really have a preference. Second time I really wanted a boy but think it was because that's what I was used to and couldn't imagine having a girl.

Biased but boys are the best 🤩😀

Also, contrary to what they will have you believe on here, it's a normal feeling and you don't have to pretend just because some people can't have kids 🙄

I wanted a girl. My DGM who passed a couple of years before she was born, had told me she always dreamed of me having a little girl. Additionally my husband already had a son and I was somewhat jealous that although he'd never been married before, he'd already had the experience of parenting. I thought that although I wasn't going to give him his first baby, I hoped I'd give him his first daughter.
I had a daughter, and although I love her to death, I do think that a lot of those feelings were purely hormonal and that I would have had just as much love for and joy from a son.

Oh, and everyone who guessed the sex guessed girl, so it really got in my head that he was a girl, so I was surprised against my will.

MIL was briefly disappointed he was a girl, but got over it to lay a billion and one stereotypes on him. GMIL tells me that MIL was exactly like the 'little boy behaviours' that MIL is always banging on about!

I only wanted a healthy and clever baby. I cared more about that than gender, because I want my child to have the advantages of being smart enough to use the skills I hope to give them to live a good life.

I had a weird antipathy to having a blond baby (which would 100% come from me - husband has dark hair). All my friends' blond babies look like children from Village of the Damned, freaks me out.

DS is dark blond, and I really love his hair.

He's also bloody gorgeous, which is a nice bonus.

Before having children I always wanted one of each, older boy followed by a little girl.

After getting pregnant I really felt strongly that I wanted a little girl, I was 39 so assumed this was my one chance of a baby. I was initially a little disappointed to be told baby was a boy but it was a fleeting moment, he is absolutely the love of my life, The most perfect, beautiful, happy smiley little baby who is now a gorgeous 6yr old boy.
I got pregnant again at 42 and had no strong preference. Maybe even wanted a little boy more this time round after the experience of having DH. DD arrived and she's amazing, total opposite to DS....she's so dry, funny, serious but with a heart of gold like him.

I felt more confident of my ability to parent a girl, and for that reason I didn't find out in advance. I knew that when the baby (result of years of treatment) arrived I would be utterly delighted and wouldn't care, so I decided to wait for the arrival.