To ask if you had a preference for a boy or girl?

A preference isn’t cold but the way you flippantly said ‘well they wouldn’t be my kids so who cares’ about what would be your own flesh and blood is 😱😱

I wanted a girl and I was lucky enough to get her.

30 years ago though

Having a preference isn't cold. Most people have a preference, even though the majority of Mumsnetters seem loathe to admit it for some reason.

Having boys and saying I regretted them not being girls - now THAT would be cold.

I genuinely did not mind, and we decided not to find out via scans so didn't know until our son was born.

He's only 9 days old and absolutely the best thing I've ever seen, and I can't wait to raise a kind and respectful Man, like his Dad.

I wanted a girl
First then didn't mind, my DH wanted a balance but didn't mind which order, we had girl and boy ... of course we all want a healthy baby 😋

No, I have one of each!

And my goodness that’s cold. I’m also very happy you didn’t have boys.

@EC22 I love this! preference doesn't mean disappointment 🩷

You sound a bit defensive. Do you have boys?

Not sure why you assume I would be dissapointed with grandsons. They wouldn't be my children and I wouldn't be raising them. I'm sure my daughters will have their own preferences, just like I did.

I'm very happy to admit I'm glad I didn't have boys.

My first pregnancy I had a preference for a boy ( I think this is because i was obsessed with my little brother as he was 8 years younger than me so it started then) second pregnancy I had a preference for a girl as I had a niece by then who I adore and just wanted to see what it would be like if I had a girl (would she be like niece etc) I didn't really mind either way though and on the 20 week scan with my second they found something wrong and said they couldn't tell yet so I remember begging in my head (praying even!) "I don't mind I don't mind boy or girl just let it be okay. And she was and I have a boy and a girl 🩷

Having a preference for a boy or girl does not mean you will be disappointed if you get the wrong sex. I fell in love with my babies well before they were born. I don't think that's unusual. I couldn't feel disappointed in my own baby. It wouldn't be possible.

The odds are you will have a grandson. Will you tell your DD she got unlucky, hopefully a girl next time, and love him less? Feel sorry for her?

I had no preference either way. Didn't ask what we were having at the scan.

We had a boy - we were thrilled, but would have been equally thrilled will a girl.

He is now 10 and we didn't have anymore children, so only have a boy. No regrets - he's amazing!

I wanted two girls, and we were very lucky to have two girls.

I would only agree to a third if I could guarantee it would be another girl!

@Crunchymum

I lived with it. DD1 is disabled.

You’ll have all grandsons I reckon

@pambeesleyhalpert
One reason I wanted a boy was because I hated the girl clothes 😂😂

Yes, me.
1st baby I absolutely wanted a girl and got 1.
2nd I said I didn't have a preference and honestly thought that was true until I felt overjoyed at discovering another girl. Now, I'm happy to admit I'm glad I don't have boys

1st I wanted a boy - I got a girl
2nd I wasn't that bothered - got another girl

We put a preference for a boy the second time we adopted, we didn’t actually care either way, but we both knew that boys are less likely to be adopted.

I really really wanted a girl the first time. Then second pregnancy I was torn, I really wanted another girl to give my daughter a sister as me and my sister are so close. I would have been happy with a boy but i would have loved 2 girls. I was convinced I was having a boy second time around but had another girl and couldn't be happier. Also little boy clothes are just the worst

When pregnant with Dcda twins I wanted 2 boys or 2 girls over one of each.

When I was pg with my third I had 2 girls and thought the third would be too. Found out at the scan that it was a boy and I was gutted, the only boys I knew were real mummy’s boys who were really clingy and my girls were so independent I struggled to see myself as a mum of a clingy child. Of course as soon as he was born I loved him unconditionally and still do, he’s bloody brilliant!
I didn’t have a preference initially, it was only when I knew it was a boy that I felt crap, and looking back now it was because I had limited experience with little boys. I knew loads of little girls and also had a baby sister born when I was 15 and was so close to her. I didn’t think I’d know how to be a good mum to a son - but I am!

I always wanted girls, every pregnancy. I was never disappointed. I had 2 boys.

I wanted a girl, but if I'd had a boy I'd have been happy for DH (his preference). I do wonder if he would have checked out less with a son, or if I'd have been doing all the grunt work either way (in which case I'm glad I got my preference).
The main reason I prefered girls was because in middle school my life was made absolute hell by the boys in my class. Not all of them of course, but the ones that left a lasting impression.

With my first I really was t bothered but if they had of been a boy I’m pretty sure I would’ve wanted a girl next whereas I didn’t care that other day.

I actually know two people who cried when they found out they were having boys.