To ask if you had a preference for a boy or girl?

We had 3 girls.
If I could have picked, we would have had a son as well.

But tbh babe 3 was a close run thing and I ended up in high dependency unit.
We counted our blessings and moved on!

I wanted one of each and got two boys.
What time has taught me over twenty years on, is that for us, two of the same gender has been absolutely the best outcome.

Above all, healthy baby. I always wanted 2 children, one of each and i do have one of each. I had my son first and I genuinely had no preference with my first. I obviously wanted a girl next but if I had have gotten a boy, I wouldn't have tried again. I always said I would rather have 2 boys than 2 girls..... I would never have wanted to "keep trying" for a girl. I came from a large family of 5 other siblings.

I think it goes without saying that everyone wants a healthy baby. But beyond that I was desperate for a dd. Got her and adore her but she's SO different to me, sometimes I wonder how she can be mine!

Whereas my ds is much more similar to me.

I just wish they got on!

First baby I didn't care, got a boy, second I wanted a girl, got a boy, third I wanted a girl, got a girl, pregnant again and would like another girl as I would love my girl to have a sister and practically with all the clothes etc would be helpful, don't know what we are having yet x

Dc1 wanted a girl. Got a boy.

Dc2 loved having a boy so much wanted another. Plus I had a vision of ‘brothers’ growing up together. Got a girl.

DC3 really wanted another girl, so I could have two girls close together and reuse clothes/stuff. Got a boy.

Adore them all though!

Yes, for a girl having already had a boy. There’s a whole gender selection community on FB which you can join anonymously if you like.

I'm a bit of everything - history of MC so obviously just wanted a baby - but was raised in an all female household so did want a girl as it's what I knew (no never dreamed of dressing them in fancy dresses or playing Barbies)

Also I have a suspicion I don't carry boys - odd I know but my mum had 2 girls, 2 MC and a still birth in between me and my sister - of a boy. I had MC - Girl, MC - Girl, MC, MC,MC - girl. By number 3 I knew before I even got pg it would be a girl.

Ex sulked a bit about 'wanting a lad to take to football' until I pointed out I was an avid football fan, girls can go to football - be careful what you wish for because most of his weekends where spent ferrying about 2 teenager footy players!

With Dd1 I just felt like she was a girl from the off so didn't really think of that as a preference, with DD2 had a very slight hope for a boy but not disappointed. With Dd3 everyone thought we would now want a boy but too be honest I felt it would be more convenient to have another girl 🤣

I had a slight preference for a girl. DH wanted a boy. We had a boy. I wouldn't say I felt disappointed at all. When I imagined I had a baby I always imagined a girl so I had to change that mental image but it wasn't a bad thing. It was just different.

If we were to have a second DH would probably prefer a girl and I'd like another boy.

All of these have been slight preferences. I think it's normal and I imagine most people deep down do have a slight one.

I did stop admitting it though when people asked me while pregnant because I felt like people were acting as if I'd said "I desperately want a girl and I'll be devastated if it were a boy" which wasn't true at all.

I don't think it matters because for most people once the baby is here you can't imagine them being anything else.

I have sympathy but can't really identify with the posts about severe gender disappointment. I feel like they're often rooted in deeper childhood issues. I think that's very different to a simple preference.

I had a preference for a girl because I had a strong feeling she was a girl (she was). I had the same strong feeling about a girl with DC2 - he’s a boy 🤣 I love them both of course.

I am pregnant now with my first, I don't really have a preference as I have a name picked for each. People I know have said boys are "easier" - is this true? xx

I really wanted a girl first time round and had DD ☺️ With number 2 DP would have really liked a boy, DD really wanted a sister and I wasn't really worried either way. We had DD2 and DP is the best girl dad and says now he's glad we've got 2 girls

I had a boy first. Didn't care either way.

I had a girl second. Wasn't expecting it - no girls had been born in his family for over 100 years and there had been a lot of babies!

It was nice to have one of each but I wasn't really bothered.

I had such a strong preference that I went abroad and did gender selection. More people do it than you might think.

I really wanted a boy and I do infact have a son :) wouldn't mind either way if I had a second though

I somehow imagined I'd be having a girl - as did my DH. I had suffered two miscarriages, though, so I was over the moon to learn I was in fact having a healthy baby boy. This might sound a bit dark, but I'd gotten used to getting far worse news when having scans.

I was 22 when I had DS and I was devastated to find out I was having a boy when I desperately wanted a girl. As it happened I have loved having a boy. He's 16 now. We're probably closer than I would have been with a daughter.
It seems ridiculous, looking back, that I was so upset. I can't have any more children and a few years ago I would have given anything to have a healthy baby of any sex.

I wanted a boy because I had a very poor relationship with my own mother and was afraid of replicating it. I got a girl. So far, so good, but she's only 14 so there's still time for it all to go wrong.

I always wanted a boy first. As soon as I was pregnant I “knew” we were having a girl. I wasn’t at all disappointed though, I was just over the moon to be pregnant.

DC2 was a boy and I was pleased but I don’t think it would have been a disappointment if he’d been a girl.

so yes I had a preference but in the end I was overjoyed with what we had.

No strong preference but I’d marginally rather had a boy (twice) which is what I got both times.

Didn't have a preference, but expected to have a boy due to only having experience of brothers on each side (my parents only had brothers too)

Ended up with 2 girls. One is a tomboy - goes to cubs, plays football, friends all boys. The other is more traditionally girly - loves pink/ unicorns etc, friends all girls.

I wanted 2 of the same sex as I have a brother and don't have much in common with him now.

The women I know with the worst gender disappointment are those who have all boys and come from very female families - only sisters, close to their mums etc. I get it, it's their blueprint for family life, just like mine was having brothers.

I wanted 2 girls because that was my experience of siblings.

I got a girl first and I thought I'd have another girl. I then had a boy and, hand on heart, I love the pair of them equally.

I was scared at first when I heard the news of a boy as I " didn't know what to do" with a boy, but that's just gender stereotype rubbish.

They are their own personalities. It's great to watch them grow and develop and witness their love for each other.