To ask if you had a preference for a boy or girl?

I forgot to add - strangers, mainly from the older generation seem to be very upset that I was expecting a second boy. At a miniature railway an elderly volunteer replied “oh dear another boy. You’ll have to come back when you’ve got your girl.” 🤣

It took nearly 5 years to have my first due to infertility so I didn’t mind but if I had to choose I would have preferred a boy as I have always had a tricky relationship with my mother and felt that I’d find it difficult and a lot of pressure having a daughter - it is quite hard to explain. I didn’t find out and when he was born my husband told me he was a boy. With my second, I suffered 5 miscarriages previously. I did prefer a boy again and found out that he was a boy. I do understand the preference over gender though as it would have taken me a while to get used to having a girl had my second been one just family dynamics and also what you thought your family would look like.

I wanted a boy and got a girl. However she’s not very girly so in some ways I got both 😂

But we found the gender out around the time there was a high profile rape and murder in the news and I have to say, it made me realise how having a girl wouldn't have been easier at all.

It’s interesting you say that - the Harvey Weinstein scandal broke while I was pregnant, and it made me want a girl even more. I figured I’d rather have a child who was victimized by some Harvey Weinstein type than a child who was some Harvey Weinstein type! I kept thinking how his mother must have thought he was such a wonderful son for naming Miramax after her and his father.

I didn’t care- very much in the you get what you’re given camp.

It was only when i announced at work that i was having a boy I realised it was a thing that some ppl get disappointed in. I had ppl asking if i was okay and regaling stories of how upset they were at first.

i remember calling family and friends to ask if they knew about this bizarre phenomenon.

I wanted girls, because I was planning to be a SAHM and a lot of the things I hoped to spend my time sharing with my kids are things girls tend to like more than boys. I had two girls and now we’re done - and they do in fact like a lot of the things I like, so that worked out.

I wouldn’t have not wanted a boy, but I don’t have brothers and I wasn’t close with little boys growing up. I don’t know much about little boys, but I feel sorry for them sometimes because while girls have a whole feminist movement telling them they can do anything, boys still have to put up with a lot of pressure to like “boy things.”

Why?

Wanted a girl but would have been more than happy with a boy

I had a preference both times. I wanted a boy with my first pregnancy and had a boy. Wanted a girl with my second and had a girl! I didn't care with my other 2 pregnancies but had another boy then girl so I feel very blessed!

I think it's natural to picture your life one way or another and be disappointed if you don't have the life you envisioned. I think in most cases, once the baby is born then thst feeling dissappear over time!

I would've been happy with either, but if honest I had a preference for a girl. DH was the same. I lost my mum young so I think I wanted a DD to have that relationship. Second time, again I was happy with either but was pleased to have a second DD. I am sure if she was a boy I would've been equally as happy. I didn't find out either time until they were born.

Only ever wanted a healthy baby. I got two girls and a boy.

YABU
Honestly didn't mind either time

I had a bit of a preference for a girl the first time and a boy the second. Now that my children are older i know that their gender has very little to do with who they are. My little girl (now moody teenager) hasn’t worn a dress for over ten years, has a brilliantly dark sense of humour, is tough as old boots. My little boy is the least rough and tough person ever created, loves reading, hates spiders and never stops talking.

I did have a slight preference for a girl first time, and got a boy. I remember being a little disappointed after the scan. Of course, he was the Best thing to ever happen to me.

Second pregnancy I didn't have a preference either way and she was a girl.

I've had a pregnancy loss in the past, but this didn't affect how I felt. It really is an unconscious preference.

Every child is unique but there are obvious differences to raising boys and girls whether people like to admit it or not. Small things like the baby clothes and toys you buy/are gifted, and much bigger things like likely hobbies and future relationships; both your mother/child and other.

I genuinely had no preference for baby no.1. Baby no. 2 I secretly wanted another boy. And that’s what I got. I wouldn’t have been upset to have had a girl but I did want another boy. My DH openly wanted a girl for baby no. 2 but he wasn’t devastated or anything !

I have three children. Two boys first and I absolutely was over the moon. I love my boys so much and even had a 'mum of boys' jumper after ds2 was born! Convinced I'd be a mum of boys forever. Fell pg for a third time. Couldn't ever have imagined it but at 20 week scan was told we were having a girl. My DH was so shocked he checked four times 😂 not because we didn't want a girl but because we just somehow didn't imagine it. Even when she was born we had to check that the docs were right! She will be 2 later this year and my god she's a force. She follows her brothers to the end of the world, tough as nails, utterly fearless. I wouldn't give up any of my kids for anything. Is their a difference between my boys and girl? Yeah, probably! But that doesn't change the difference between my two boys either. My eldest is meticulous, a wannabe engineer that analyses everything, into everything and wants to go and take on the world. My youngest son is a koala bear, cuddles me at every opportunity and tells me I'm a special mummy, just because, massive softy, his favourite thing is the pink power ranger ATM! They're all different, and absolutely magical. Their "sex" of "gender" is irrelevant. I'm absolutely blessed, wouldn't change a thing.

I had no preference with first, we were young and didn't really think about it. Then a huge gap with losses inbetween so no preference with the second. I have one of each.
I think I would have wanted two of the same sex though if they were close in age. So they could be little mates 😳

YANBU

I wanted a boy first so bad, unfortunately my first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage which changed my mindset to a healthy baby.

However when I did get the news my second pregnancy was a boy, I can't lie I felt sooo happy!

I had no preference with 1st.
But after 1st was a girl, I preferred a girl for 2nd. The thrifty/environmental conscious part of me wanted to be able to re use first daughters things for 2nd. And I had always wanted a sister growing up.

I was absolutely desperate to have girls, and happily got them. Being the youngest in my family the older siblings would leave me to look after their boys, completely put me off. I do have a grandson now and adore the cheeky little mite, makes me realize that it doesn't really matter what gender they are, you will love them anyway.

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I desperately, desperately wanted our baby to be a boy. We decided not to find out until the birth, but I couldn’t conceive of it being a girl & “knew” it was a boy. And it was. My heart did a somersault when I held him in my arms that first time.
He is our one and only. I try to tell myself I would have loved the baby just as much if it had been a girl. But I’m not so sure …

First time I had a feeling I was having a girl right up until almost the end. Had a beautiful boy who was very sick and only survived a few weeks. Second time I only wanted a baby who would live. Had another boy and have always been perfectly happy with that and never felt the need to try for a girl. I find it hard to relate to gender disappointment as a result and feel people should be happy with what they get as long as the baby is healthy. I realise my experience has coloured my view.

When I was pregnant with my first, I wanted a girl. I found out I was having a boy at my 20 week scan and was immediately delighted. All my thoughts of wanting a girl completely disappeared. When I got pregnant again, I wanted another boy, partly because I loved my son so much and wanted another one and partly because I thought they would be company for each other. They're not😬🤣

First baby I just wanted a healthy one. Second baby quite keen on a girl (first one was a boy, and I had two stepsons). She's sitting next to me right now!