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Settle a debate: who does the groom toast in his speech?

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InNeedOfDebretts · 14/06/2024 10:14

Brother getting married tomorrow. I've helped him a little with his speech. I thought - and using two UK websites with templates for what you need to cover that also said this - the Groom toasts his new Bride.
I talked to our parents this morning. They insist the Father of the Bride is the one who toasts the new wife, and the Groom toasts the Bridesmaids. Unfortunately, I then found two more UK websites that agreed with them.

Who is right?
(We don't really mind, it's not too important really is it?! - just if tradition has it one way or the other we'll go with what's expected§)

YABU: The Groom toasts the Bridesmaids, who let you loose on his speech you know nothing!
YANBU: You had it right all along of course, the Groom toasts his Wife

Thank you Mumsnetters!

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KrisAkabusi · 14/06/2024 10:23

Jeezitneverends · 14/06/2024 10:19

Traditionally the groom toasts the bridesmaids, starting off by saying “on behalf of my wife and I”, which everyone generally cheers at

Yep, this.

TeenDivided · 14/06/2024 10:21

Father of bride toasts the couple.
Groom thanks on behalf of himself and wife, toasts the bridesmaids.
Best man replies on behalf of bridesmaids.

kikisparks · 14/06/2024 10:19

I’ve always known the groom to toast the bride and the bridesmaids.

Jeezitneverends · 14/06/2024 10:19

Traditionally the groom toasts the bridesmaids, starting off by saying “on behalf of my wife and I”, which everyone generally cheers at

keylimedog · 14/06/2024 10:18

He can toast whoever he wants in his speech!

All the weddings I've been to previously the grooms speech has toasted his beautiful bride.

PiranhaPeaches · 14/06/2024 10:17

It's his speech, he can toast the caterers and his best friends dog if he likes.

Just get him to toast both and that covers all bases. My father passed away so if the groom doesn't do it I won't get a toast at my wedding!

Dramatic · 14/06/2024 10:16

I had no idea this was a thing. We got married 2 weeks ago, my dad did a toast to me and my husband, my husband and me did a joint speech and thanked our bridesmaids, parents and kids. That was it really 🤷