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Friends lied to us

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QuirkyPearlSwan · 14/06/2024 00:57

So me and my husband made friends with another couple at school when picking up kids over ten years ago we became really goods mate. All the kids got along so everything was brilliant ( holidays, days out, nights out). We have 2 kids 1 child that has a serve heart condition which has led him to have several surgery’s in his life with still more to come in following years. as friends they knew about my child health.

Friends they went on to have another child which when baby was born they told me that she has a heart condition so we offered help and support and advise to them (I did find it strange that when they told use they didn’t seem to bothered with the news)
so today I got a shock when grandparents of child picked up other kids from school as the child was in hospital and when I asked how heart condition is they said she not got a heart condition

so now I’m confused to why they lied to use when they no what it as been like for use and all the worry we have been through and still are.

I feel angry I am glad her daughter ok but feel like how can they been friends with us with a big lie like that

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QuirkyPearlSwan · 14/06/2024 01:28

The child was in for a minor accident at a&e home few hours later and they are really close with grandparent that why I was confused. they told me after diagnosis and having checkups child now 9

they told some little lies to use before that’s why I don’t know what to believe

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McDonnellsfriend789 · 14/06/2024 01:14

Your concern and potential hurt over this is completely understandable but you need to find out more details before accusing your friends of lying.

They may not have wanted to worry the gps, or the child’s diagnosis may have changed, or their health condition may have resolved, but you need to ask them directly op.

OatFlatWhiteForMe · 14/06/2024 01:05

So the child is in hospital though?

Are you entirely sure the grandparents have the full picture? If you met my parents they would know everything regarding our DC’s health, my in laws would know about 30%.

Whatjemimadid · 14/06/2024 01:05

They might not have told the grandparents.

It could have been a suspected heart condition at birth that following investigations turned out to be ok

Our DC was born with a hole in the heart, but following medical worry and investigation, it was found to be inconsequential. I didn't tell people about the hole at all but a more sharey person might have. Especially in the midst of worry and if they thought you'd understand.

You don't know for sure they lied.