To be done with this forum..

You could hide AIBU, OP. The rest of the place is different.

I think you can't win on here, no matter what you post, often the replies take the opposite view. If you posted a thread on the same topic with the opposite view on the OP, you would get responses which would agree with you/have sympathy on your original view. It's like devil's advocate every time. No matter what you say, there will be a queue of people to say that you are wrong!

I still laugh when I remember the dudebro who came on here to tell us we were all old, fat and mumsy and would never get a sexy catch like him, until someone asked him why, if he was such catnip and we were such hags, he was hanging around with us alone at 10pm on a Saturday night.

Excellent post and a perfect summation.

…it’s called “Mum”snet. Things don’t get much stranger than that!

That's a shame, OP. I'm sorry you didn't get the support you were after.

I don't come on much and don't recall any of your posts, but I do know what you mean.

I often wish pps would just answer the OP's questions instead of finding things to pick on within their post. The number of times you get people having a go because of a word/expression someone has used, or people reading far too much between the lines and trying to psychoanalyse them (when that wasn't what was requested!!).

Just answer the OP's question in good faith, and if you can't - then walk on by.

I know of 2 websites that infiltrated mumsnet years ago, they were underground music forums, some of the men who did this still brag about it & haven’t covered their tracks very well. I reckon a lot of them still come on here, they are certainly obsessed with this place, you know with women supporting each other & having rights.

My last submission was a light-hearted post that was meant to induce humour, but I mostly received an influx of negativity.

@Hardknocks I sympathise with you. A lot of very mean /nasty comments and 'kicking of the OP' while they are down. It's not just the Original Posts which get nasty replies. A lot of the replies do too, because someone disagrees with the reply and decides to have a go at the person replying in a nasty way too

It’s why I’d never post asking for advice, that and the fact I might see my post posted on the mumsnet Facebook page of which I don’t follow but still sometimes see a post from this site lifted and posted on there.

I wouldn't have believed you, until I followed one thread with a very click bait title... Something like 'AIBU, I hate my 8 year old daughter' which described behaviour which could have been driven by undiagnosed SEN or perhaps just unruly. The post then made the Sun, word for word, title and all, quoting 3 brief responses which satisfied the reading criteria for the Sun. The Op's brief appearances on the thread did not strike me as at all realistic and I am convinced it was either a spectacularly lazy journalist with very poor morality or AI. The value of the article was nil, just words & click bait. Yet empathetic posters, I'm sure with much better uses for their time, kept the thread going long after AI or the journalist checked out.

The sheer number of threads about VAT on private schools also makes me wonder... Although I can't work out the ultimate agenda, beyond division.

I’ve been on MN for over 11 years. I think for the last 1” years it’s been getting slowly worse and more aggressive.

When I had my second child 9 years ago I posted asking if the time we had waited in hospital for him to be given important medication was acceptable or if I should say something. Some of the replies were horrendous, calling me a bad mum, a bad person, ignorant and even an abuser for letting my son down. i had only just had my son and was still very fragile. It was awful. And I still think about those comments I got.

I wonder how many on this thread have been the ones to say something nasty on other threads.

I agree. Overall it is cruel, judgemental and not a healthy place for those seeking help.

No, you missed my point. I think there's a lot of bot activity on social media generally, and the point of them is to polarise debate and toxify public discourse, which creates fertile ground for other kinds of social division. Ordinary people being obnoxious to each other is fallout from that.

It's not exactly an original observation and the fact that people are already mocking it kind of proves my point.

The other sort of pile on I'm not a fan of is where the OP is in a disagreement of some sort but with nuance or shades of grey that's worth discussing but then get a load of "OMG your MIL is such a bitch" or "OMG your DH is such a twat".

I hate the ones that focus on something not pertinent to the situation & go off eg OP says “DH was late for dinner again”. Cue lots of “we say supper”, blah blah blah.

Haha one appeared last night about how to have a happier day. I'll try and dig it out if it wasnt deleted LOL

Here you go
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5096461-little-things-you-do-daily-that-makes-you-happy?reply=136005900

I do think that that's made the average poster a bit snarkier. Almost a why bother with a good thoughtful reply when it's going to be deleted anyway?

I recently started a thread of positivity called pure joy to try and counter all the negativity but it had about 3 responses 😂🤣🤣 I guess people are drawn to the bad stuff more & love a good argument!

The gestapo are always deleting threads, you don't get that on any other boards. You can type reams of advice then the OP decides they shouldnt have asked it or someone takes offence and it goes. Just what's the point!!

It’s fast becoming a site for arguments & hate, not women supporting women. It’s becoming extremely unpleasant. Like others say, you post something to make a suggestion or give advice to help someone and you get ripped apart and ridiculed. It’s awful.

Better get my tin foil hat on 😅

@Hardknocks

Yes talking to the HV or GP is a good place to start and if her speech and language is delayed ask for a referral to a a speech & language therapist. From what I hear and read, the waiting lists are horrendously long at the moment.

You really think it’s bots?

I doubt any of the people who were writing nasty things to me in response to my post were from anywhere other than the UK.

They all ganged up on me and told me my partner would leave me when I was pregnant.