To be done with this forum..

And now I wish I’d not said particularly twice. There will be people judging my vocabulary 😂

Yeah, it’s weird. I’d never post here if I was particularly emotional and looking for reassurance. Some people are kind and measured but there are people who delight in being contrary and mean spirited. I guess they’re not particularly happy themselves.

I can understand what you mean. There's some particular threads especially ones surrounding SAHM/working mums that bring out all sorts of nasty comments from both sides with some people completely unable to understand the circumstances that make people make the choices they want to.

I also see it as well on threads about older mums and horrible agesim on there. People being called selfish and all sorts of manner of things. For people like me who are considering a 2nd baby at 37, can be really hard to read!

Back in 2005 I found it light hearted and less aggressive, definitely.
These days I seem to visit less and less. Hard had at the ready and all that.
It's a weird place is MN. I enjoyed this forum much more 20 years ago but I could say that about other aspects of my life too!

I think there is a difference between getting advice that you don’t agree with and deliberately nasty posts. I can see that there are some posters now that just want to bully the OP or pick fights. I guess that they are very unhappy in their lives and that is why they do it so I haven’t responded when it has happened to me, I can see from other threads that they do it to provoke a reaction. But if it stops a women in need of getting help and good advice, then that is a real shame as that is was this site was set up for and good at years ago.

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Yes I really did that! Because Im a positive upbeat person & I love sharing it 😊 I love to hear what little things brighten peoples day, I myself notice the little things even when life feels dark. There’s enough negativity in the world and half of it’s on mumsnet I reckon, so I was happy to read the responses 😃

Is it because you only focus on the negative comments though? Because I notice some people get some great advice as well as a bit of bad. But only comment on the bad ones I stead of thanking g the good ones. Some peoples glass is always half empty.

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Hm.
Sorry, OP.
I got ear-bashed for not having kids and a husband who is three decades older.
Nasty, careless gold digger (for 20 years).
Oh well, do you really need to be done with MN, though?
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Plenty of posters these days have nuts.

Over the net, this site is known as “mumnuts” because of some of the posts.

I wouldn’t post here for serious advice. 🤷‍♀️

The posts I absolutely hate are the ones where people write about what snacks they are eating. It’s the most mindless drivel. If there were boys they should go after those threads. The interesting ones are always taken down.

You really did that?! 🤣

Thank you for explaining this to me

I was saying only that I laugh it off. And I will laugh this comment off too.I hope all the support op has gotten on this thread helps her if she stays on mumsnet or not.

I was a member of another forum that had a thread about mumsnet it kicked off big style with people from both sites going on the other. It was quite amusing and light hearted. This was years ago though before everyone forgot what a sense of humour was or became really nasty.

It almost seems like gaslighting.

and yours is......

This thread is just a variation on the regular "everyone's become so mean" threads that appear on here most weeks and have been for at least 10 years. It's the internet, anyone who doesn't like it here is free to go elsewhere, plenty of other parent/Mum forums. I like this place.

This is a really insightful comment. I do think that the Scottish Indyref, Brexit, the 2019 GE and the lockdown damaged the national psyche - we lost the ability to remember how to be respectful to people with different opinions.

And I also think the 'call out' culture of social media means that people are now conditioned by the big tech platforms to actively look for a reason to criticise or put the boot in.

Im not immune to this; no one is.

On MN, as other PPs have pointed out, the tone of the first few comments has a massive influence. Humans are herd animals and we tend to fall in with the direction the wind's blowing.

Yes- I have noticed this too, so many times!!

Eg whenever someone says they only have a joint account everyone says it's making them vulnerable and "he'll leave you and take all your money", "you're being very foolish" etc. When people say they have separate finances they get 'well thats not a real marriage is it?" and "thats awful you dont trust your partner" blah blah You cant win.

I feel like whatever stance the OP takes, people seem to like taking the opposite view. Its so bizarre this need to be contrary.

Most other sections are dead - not all, but I have looked at some that have not been posted on for months.

I do think any OP needs to spend a bit of time familiarising themselves with the site and finding the most relevant area to post on. Just putting anything and everything in AIBU or Chat is not going to get the most useful and reasonable responses. Not that I'm saying you've done that OP but it definitely happens

Really mature and constructive post. 🙄