To be done with this forum..

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Hardknocks · 13/06/2024 20:51

I don’t know what’s in the water at the moment but I’ve posted a few times on here in the last few months seeking advice and have received nothing but awful, nasty comments that have really upset me, and I am not a sensitive person. I don’t have a close circle of mum friends, I’m not close to my mum either so this is the only place I can come and voice these concerns or feelings.

Nothing I’ve said has been outrageous or contentious, I mainly ask questions about whether particular aspects of my toddlers behaviour is normal, but I’ve been called a bad mum, entitled, lazy and stupid amongst other worse ones. I know (or thought) I wasn’t any of those things, just a mum to a 2 year old navigating this all for the first time.

This forum has really changed in the last few years and I’m not sure why, but it’s not a very nice place to be anymore. If anyone has any suggestions for other forums please let me know… I could really do with the support.

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sooostressed · 13/06/2024 21:15

It’s been particularly nasty the last couple of weeks. YANBU. Sorry people were crappy to you. I think some people love hiding behind a screen and using it as an excuse to be nasty, it’s them not you.

Surprisedmystified · 13/06/2024 21:13

I don't know what your threads were OP but I do know I often read threads on here which are quite frankly upsetting because of the way a lot of posters jump in to mock and pour scorn on the worries and concerns of the OP. The impression is some posters actually enjoy making other people unhappy rather than having any empathy and offering supportive advice or comments.

LionBarPlease · 13/06/2024 21:13

There are some callous, contrary, cruel and just plain thick people on here and a lot more recently. The good parts are still very good but I can understand why it might just be too much to deal with the rest.

EsmeSusanOgg · 13/06/2024 21:13

There have been some very mean spirited comments on some threads lately. I think some people get a kick out of being cruel or contrarian.

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Hardknocks · 13/06/2024 21:11

Yes @AutumnFroglets I name changed recently due to someone I know using this forum. One of my posts was about suspected ASD, and safe to say it ended with me in tears feeling like I had completely failed my child. I just stupidly think every time I post it’ll be different, but it never is.

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OperationSquid · 13/06/2024 21:10

it is a mix at times, i miss the mums net royalty

buma · 13/06/2024 21:10

Totally agree.
Several times

AutumnFroglets · 13/06/2024 21:08

I could only find your Relationship one but I'm assuming if you are having difficulty with a toddler then it might be because of the horrible atmosphere at home. Toddlers are not immune to tensions between their parents, if anything I think they are more sensitive to it.

If it's not that (eg you think they have ASD or something ) then ignore my comment.

Connected1 · 13/06/2024 21:06

Ohhh, I feel your pain! Just recently there was a thread from a woman worried why she'd been asked certain questions, by a nurse who was taking her bloods.
The amount of posters who said “Why didn't you ask her?" Thus ignoring the fact that it's usually only after we leave a situation that we have space to think about it.
It's like everyone should have the perfect response in every situation

If she HAD asked, there wouldn't need to be be a thread about it, would there? So what's the point of saying "why didn't you ask?" 🤣

Hatchpink · 13/06/2024 20:57

I think I know your other thread and whilst name is uncalled for, I do think you could have done better. Every parent is a first time parent at one point, and there is a world of resource out there to help you navigate. It’s a learning curve

catsandkittensandcats · 13/06/2024 20:52

MN is a bit odd about toddlers. I’ve learned not to ask anything as you do tend to get absolutely bonkers advice to be honest.

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