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To think if you can no longer afford school fees...

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 19:54

that is tough.

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Wonkypears · 13/06/2024 21:09

ODFO. Our children are at public school (think Harrow/Winchester/Cheltenham) and none of the parents, including us, are remotely concerned. It’s a little grating but the school has a buffer cos they can now claim VAT back too & have big pockets and so do the parents who all view the school as a community.

Small schools that are at the edge and may have high SEN numbers won’t cope and they will close ….. so it’s those kids, the ones not much richer than yours (or maybe not at all if you made a decision on ethics not cost) that you are punishing…. whilst the elite becomes more elite and the gap and the level of privilege our kids have will just get larger.

Oh and I am voting Labour for the first time so bring it on and carry on feeling smug for now. Cos it won’t last…

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:08

I'm not dancing with joy over the policy. Children are resilient. Life changes. They will make new friends.

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Willyoujustbequiet · 13/06/2024 21:06

ThisExistence · 13/06/2024 20:07

There’s a big difference between not wanting to pay more and not being able to pay more. What intelligent person would actually put their child into private education knowing it was leaving them with no financial buffer whatsoever ? The problem is I would bet anything in the majority of cases that parents of privately educated children are just irritated by this rather than the increase would mean them going without necessities (and if that was the case then it was poor financial planning to opt for a private school and they need to cut their cloth accordingly).

This with bells on.

They're indignant and that's why they can't let it go.

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:06

haply?

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Bunnyasmyname · 13/06/2024 21:06

Screamingabdabz · 13/06/2024 21:02

Yes that’s the hypocrisy isn’t? ‘Op you are sooo nasty and unkiiiind and horrible to those poor children who will have their WHOLE lives ruiiiineed wah wah…’. But ignore the massive immorality and ‘unkindness’ of buying privilege for their children in the first place.

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Yeah again that's not what I said if you actually read it.

You are all jumping up and down and attacking parents who have decided that private education is best for their child and haply when they can't afford it anymore.

Why do some people seem to excel in the misery of others so much?

Poyulyi · 13/06/2024 21:06

Can you quote posts op please, replying with no context makes a thread impossible follow, as no idea what your replies are to.

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:06

My local council sold 10 homes for 100k brand-new as noone wanted to live so far out.

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Aladdinzane · 13/06/2024 21:05

@Snuffkincamehome

"It's blatant envy"

It really isn't, if you've followed these threads at all PE parents have really not made their cases well, nor have the garnered sympathy with the statements they've made.

But just keep telling yourself it's envy.

SabrinaThwaite · 13/06/2024 21:05

Snuffkincamehome · 13/06/2024 21:04

It's blatant envy.

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Oh, so close!

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 21:05

TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:04

Until recently, we had social housing to spare.

Other counties have sent their homeless her and last 2 years no stock. Very few left.

You read the daily mail, don't you?

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 13/06/2024 21:05

TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:04

Until recently, we had social housing to spare.

Other counties have sent their homeless her and last 2 years no stock. Very few left.

What are you classing as recently?

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:05

here even

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:04

Until recently, we had social housing to spare.

Other counties have sent their homeless her and last 2 years no stock. Very few left.

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mamaison · 13/06/2024 21:04

Moving schools can be a massive deal for children with SEN.

Snuffkincamehome · 13/06/2024 21:04

EweCee · 13/06/2024 20:56

I’ve said it before at the beginning of these types of threads and I’ll say it again: the vitriol is only going one way on these threads and despite what state school parents think and say, it’s not come from the private school parents…..

yes, ps parents are questioning the policy and worrying about finances - but they are not pouring the scorn, judgement, vitriol and downright nastiness at state school parents and children which is being levied against them that I’m reading on here again and again.

it’s sad - but exactly what the politicians want, pitting people against each other whilst the actual policy benefits no-one but them.

It's blatant envy.

Againname · 13/06/2024 21:03

TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:00

Yes, but there's so few children here. There's spaces. Average house price 400k

@TiredMumE is there good availability of social housing where you are? Because £400K homes are out of reach for a lot of families.

One of the best ways to address inequality (educational and in general) is through provision of social housing, that's evenly spread out across every area to ensure genuinely mixed communities and schools.

Blarneytalk · 13/06/2024 21:03

TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:02

Doesn't every parent want the best for their child?

Decent people don't wish ill on other children.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 13/06/2024 21:03

It is a luxury to be able to buy a premium education, so of course it should be taxed. The current situation has many middle class voters electing governments that have repeatedly slashed state education funding because their kids don’t go to state schools. Now we will all be in it together and will hopefully vote for a government that will properly fund public services like state schools, the NHS, social housing, disability benefits and so on.

It’s a long term win to have the majority of parents all with skin in the game.

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:02

Doesn't every parent want the best for their child?

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Shiremum40 · 13/06/2024 21:02

insidenumber9 · 13/06/2024 20:55

It’s 20%. My service charge rose by that this year. It is indeed, as the op puts it, tough! Build a bridge and get over it!

How much is your service charge?

Is it £40,000?

Screamingabdabz · 13/06/2024 21:02

Allfur · 13/06/2024 20:50

Are you suggesting state parents don't want the best for their children

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Yes that’s the hypocrisy isn’t? ‘Op you are sooo nasty and unkiiiind and horrible to those poor children who will have their WHOLE lives ruiiiineed wah wah…’. But ignore the massive immorality and ‘unkindness’ of buying privilege for their children in the first place.

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:02

My school sent 2 a year to Oxford. Working till 03.00 was such fun.

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Willyoujustbequiet · 13/06/2024 21:01

CoralReader · 13/06/2024 19:56

State schools are bad, that’s also tough.

Some are.

Some are excellent and better than private.

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:01

It wouldn't overwhelm anything. PAN is still set to 30,

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Aladdinzane · 13/06/2024 21:01

@EweCee

"it’s not come from the private school parents"

I think this may be a case of confirmation bias.

There have been veiled threats, snide remarks about how much they care more about their children's education, even one or two threads where PE parents were conspiring to try to overwhelm state school applications services with unneeded applications.

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