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To think if you can no longer afford school fees...

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 19:54

that is tough.

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Livelovebehappy · 13/06/2024 23:51

I mean, come on, who would send their child to a state school if they could afford not to? Generally, the majority are full of feral kids who haven’t been parented properly, and visit the result of lazy parenting on others around them. Wouldn’t we all give our kids the best start in life we could if we could afford it? And if you say you wouldn’t, because of your ‘principles’, then shame on you…. Disclaimer - mine went to state school, and despite the school being the pits, turned out okay. But many don’t.

cheekycheekshiyah · 13/06/2024 23:50

Aladdinzane · 13/06/2024 20:54

@Chickenuggetsticks

"There will be kids who will abruptly be taken out of schools they are happy in. Their larents panicking trying to find them a school place for September."

This most likely won't be in force by September.

"There is something about the left that is quick to be quite unkind and inhumane towards people they don’t approve of."

Oh my, the irony of this is outstanding.

Oh yay- @Aladdinzane is back in one of these threads defending the policy with the aggression of an mma fighter. Well done you

Notthatcatagain · 13/06/2024 23:46

BIWI · 13/06/2024 19:57

State schools where I live are actually very, very good. So I have no sympathy with any parent who thinks that their child is going to suffer from having to go to one.

(SEN provision is obviously a different kettle of fish)

Then you should count your blessings. When I told my children's state primary that I was moving them to an independant school, 2 of the teachers told me that they would do the same if they had kids and that most days all that they actually did was crowd control. It was an awful place

viques · 13/06/2024 23:45

Teentaxidriver · 13/06/2024 20:04

Yes, cry me a river. We’ll be saving £30k a year and the money will go on foreign holidays, saving for university costs/ future housing for the DC, tutoring, cultural enrichment, riding lessons, tennis lessons, music lessons, etc. DS moving to a leafy state grammar from his leafy prep. Best bit - you lot fund it.

We were funding it anyway. Oh, and when he was in his leafy prep, you were funding state primaries. So thanks for that. XX

HelpMeUnpickThis · 13/06/2024 23:43

BIWI · 13/06/2024 19:57

State schools where I live are actually very, very good. So I have no sympathy with any parent who thinks that their child is going to suffer from having to go to one.

(SEN provision is obviously a different kettle of fish)

Key words : “where i live” @BIWI

cheekycheekshiyah · 13/06/2024 23:41

BIWI · 13/06/2024 19:57

State schools where I live are actually very, very good. So I have no sympathy with any parent who thinks that their child is going to suffer from having to go to one.

(SEN provision is obviously a different kettle of fish)

Unfortunately in our area the best state schools are in very very expensive areas and I imagine that is only going up from here.

Lolabear38 · 13/06/2024 23:39

BIWI · 13/06/2024 19:57

State schools where I live are actually very, very good. So I have no sympathy with any parent who thinks that their child is going to suffer from having to go to one.

(SEN provision is obviously a different kettle of fish)

But as you say yourself, state schools in your area are very good. Not everyone can say that, and perhaps some of those people are the ones who choose private schools. A real case of ‘I’m alright, Jack!’ there, nice…

SomewhereInTheMIdlands · 13/06/2024 23:36

Biskitin · 13/06/2024 23:07

This won’t impact the elite, it’ll just worsen the opportunities for social mobility and widen the gap between rich and poor.

Most intelligent people recognise that.

I honestly think all hope is gone for this country. It’s time for the people who can to get out now.

Nope, those who are pushed out of private schools on account of having to pay 20% more will still be at the top of the public education system. The money not spent on schools can be put into tutors, extra curricular activities and other life encouraging activities. The UK is becoming a poorer society because the poorest have already lost their social mobility, not the better off middle classes. We had friends who instead of sending their daughter to private school which they could just about afford, they engaged her with music tuition, horse riding, girl guides and many other things that enhance a childs future.

Shhhhivegotasecret · 13/06/2024 23:34

Urgh I just hate the mean spirited crap on here it’s just horrible.
I have dc both in state and in private. The private school is an inner city school - majority of children from a variety of ethnic minority backgrounds, and extremely economically diverse. This will negatively affect a lot of parents and children and it’s sad. The difference it has made to my child is unbelievable- as a middle of the road well behaved child the teachers in her old school barely seemed to know who she was. After I attended the first parents evening for her current school I felt so relieved she was actually being noticed and they had a good grip on where she needs help.
The vat makes little difference to me but I know that is not the case for most and I hate the crowing over it

newusername2009 · 13/06/2024 23:34

Sounds like our school is going to be closing as a result of this so you can be really happy for the people who have lost their jobs also - oh what fun!

lanadelgrey · 13/06/2024 23:34

That Report above is misleading. An EHCP that names a school - hard to get a private one unless a section 47 special school - won’t attract VAT as those schools are v specific. LAs hold the funds for Send provision so obviously aren’t keen to spend more than they have to and will push hard to show that needs can be met in state mainstream with additional resources.
The idea surely is that as more middle class parents go to state schools the nature of those schools will change as parents/pupils will push for good teaching and work with schools to raise overall standards. So in the end everyone gains - which seems a basic Labour aspiration.
Fears over ‘bad’ schools are often fear of the unknown.

MyrrAgain · 13/06/2024 23:33

I don’t know why you’re so gleeful op. You know this will only serve the elite and enhance the gulf between privately educated and state even further. And why is that? Because the lower end of the private school families will pull out or not even consider it therefore leaving only the even richer and ambitious in these institutions. So long Tarquin, you wretched poor street urchin, and hullo Hugo esq!

Willyoujustbequiet · 13/06/2024 23:33

Hatfullofwillow · 13/06/2024 23:29

Think about it.

As a parent and advocate of dc with SEN and having had years within the system I stand by what I said. I have no motivation to engage given your last couple of comments. Thanks but no.

SomewhereInTheMIdlands · 13/06/2024 23:30

CoralReader · 13/06/2024 19:56

State schools are bad, that’s also tough.

Thats government policy. Tory government policy.

Hatfullofwillow · 13/06/2024 23:29

Willyoujustbequiet · 13/06/2024 23:29

Dc have complex additional needs and EHCPs so that comment makes you look rather foolish imo.

Think about it.

Willyoujustbequiet · 13/06/2024 23:29

Hatfullofwillow · 13/06/2024 23:28

No, you really aren't aware.

Dc have complex additional needs and EHCPs so that comment makes you look rather foolish imo.

Hatfullofwillow · 13/06/2024 23:28

Willyoujustbequiet · 13/06/2024 21:47

I'm aware but if their needs impact them significantly they will have.

No, you really aren't aware.

Hatfullofwillow · 13/06/2024 23:26

Iwishicouldflyhigh · 13/06/2024 22:01

Have they budgeted for that?

They don't need to, it's a fallacy to think paying off a deficit to ourselves is the most fiscally sound way run an economy trapped in downward spiral.

(Not a Labour Voter)

AlexanderArnold · 13/06/2024 23:21

As someone else said earlier, the majority of private school kids won't suffer. They will either like us just carry on as frankly an extra 20% is at least fine and budgeted for, or, they will move from a leafy prep to a leafy primary/secondary with the extra going on tutors, music, drama etc etc

The kids I feel desperately sorry for are the ones on bursaries whose parents can't pay the extra and also don't live in the catchment of an ok state school. Our private school has 70% on bursaries because we have been very invested in supporting the brightest in the community. It is such a short sighted and ill informed, politically driven policy

Hatfullofwillow · 13/06/2024 23:21

Another76543 · 13/06/2024 21:56

Finland have private schools. They are not allowed to profit from the basic element of education though, so the state funds that part. Private schools in Finland are subsidised by the state.

I know. It's nothing like it is over here, as I said.

SabrinaThwaite · 13/06/2024 23:19

NoveltyCereal · 13/06/2024 23:09

I wouldn't have an issue sending my child to a state school but in all the research I've done, I've yet to see any non-selective state school that is actually better than a private school.

Sure.

siameselife · 13/06/2024 23:14

I don't think that stating private schools are charities makes any sense.
But gloating over stressed parents and kids is pathetic and mean.

Labtastic · 13/06/2024 23:12

Aladdinzane · 13/06/2024 23:07

"Half of independent schools have fewer than 300 pupils (see Independent Schools Council"

Yes, and these tend to be primaries, with lower fees. Certainly not charging the average fee for a day secondary.

"I'm in the south east."

Super rural then?

Also yes, they are prep schools. All have fees at between (depending on age) £5-7k per term. If you were questioning the cost of losing ten pupils, my figures were accurate.

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