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Suspicious of someone's qualifications.

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YNK · 13/06/2024 18:16

A family member (not local to me) claims to have completed a masters in politics and economics (and later abandoned a PhD).
I did attend his degree ceremony many years ago.

He makes passive aggressive jokes and refuses to seriously engage in any meaningful way whenever a conversation touches on the subject.

I recently asked for some information only to be told "we didn't do the cold war".

Is it even possible to achieve a masters degree in this subject without covering the cold war?
I'm really trying to get my head around this and it's really bothering me.

This has really bugged me but I'm worried I'm I being a bitch for smelling a rat?

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YNK · 29/06/2024 13:46

Batchknb · 29/06/2024 13:36

You posted on a public forum. People gave their opinions. telling people to get a life on a post you asked for help on. Lovely.

Good luck.

It was me being told to get a life actually. You may have missed that due to your knee-jerk.

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Batchknb · 29/06/2024 13:36

You posted on a public forum. People gave their opinions. telling people to get a life on a post you asked for help on. Lovely.

Good luck.

YNK · 29/06/2024 13:32

Gosh, so many posters have obviously been triggered and continue to be upset regardless of previous posts showing my apologies for being wrong and the reasons for my discomfort.....all while I have been 'getting a life'.
Perhaps some of you should take a leaf from your own book and stop trying to create false narratives for other folk.

I made an error (not the first and no doubt not the last).
Once again, apologies to anyone who has been hurt by my mistake. Please don't let it eat you up forever, the error was rectified long ago.

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Bouledeneige · 24/06/2024 23:29

A Masters only takes a year.

Bouledeneige · 24/06/2024 23:27

I have an MA in Politics and didn't study the Cold War.

MalbecMel · 24/06/2024 23:26

It sounds to me like he's had to suffer far too many ridiculous conversations where people take the piss about him not knowing absolutely everything about global politics (or possibly simply not agreeing with their view on something) as the behaviour/response you describe suggests to me that his guard is up.

LiesDoNotBecomeUs · 24/06/2024 01:12

YNK · 13/06/2024 18:48

I'm really pleased I was being unreasonable because it made me feel very uncomfortable.

I'm not academic and limited to general knowledge but it really surprised me to hear it wasn't a topic covered on a course like this since I imagined it would have been important.

I've learned something new - thanks.

Yes - you might be unreasonable. Academic study does get deeper but also narrower.

The old joke is that you learn more and more about less and less... until you know everything about nothing :)

Pertinentowl · 24/06/2024 00:18

My dd’s history A level teacher gave her his very own notes from him masters to encourage her, it was medieval history

Greenwich123 · 22/06/2024 09:39

Please get a life. Not any of your business. Even IF he was lying maybe it’s from a place of insecurity….back off!

pollymere · 21/06/2024 10:51

I'm MLit. I managed to achieve this without having read any of Jane Austen and most of Charles Dickens. People assume I'll be a whizz at Literature in pub quizzes. Well, maybe. If it's on the five books I wrote about for my Master's thesis 😂. Even I was surprised how few books I read. It was mostly papers about books.

YDBear · 21/06/2024 01:01

I have an MA in Victorian History, another MA in the History of London and a PhD in history specialising in an incredibly obscure aspect of—you guessed it—the history of Victorian London. I never covered the Cold War either.

Heythrop84 · 20/06/2024 22:26

Some years ago I started looking at LinkedIn for potential job candidates and my then staff. What a load of tosh. One interviewee claimed he had years of database design experience ; Although he knew the words he struggled with some fairly basic questions and I terminated the interview after 20 minutes. The claims of many of my staff were pure fantasy. One got a job at a competitor on the strength of his claimed experience. He was sacked after six weeks. Sadly LinkedIn is no more reliable than Google reviews. I was once offered money to write good/bad reviews about some restaurants I had never been to. No way could I do it - my parents would have turned in their grave!

I remember a lot from my degree/post-graduate days but then I worked in the area whereas my contemporaries drifted into project and rental property management.

Mt61 · 20/06/2024 22:17

I have had a couple of close friends who have top jobs- both lied about qualifications, They told me, which I was surprised about.
it doesn’t affect my life or my friendship with them both.

iamtheblcksheep · 20/06/2024 21:11

Of course. I have an economics degree. Ask me to tell you about game theory beyond it’s something about 1s and 2s.

Batchknb · 20/06/2024 21:08

Why are you trying so hard to catch him out?

Be careful you’re not projecting something.

Jewnicorn · 20/06/2024 20:46

You’re not my mother and using ‘he’ as a cover are you? 😂
This could almost be me. PPE, masters in economics, abandoned phd, parents attended both graduation ceremonies and yet the other month when I referenced my degree she looked blankly and denied me ever doing one. She’s totally with it so I assume she got confused and thought I was referring specifically to the phd attempt.
Just to second, third, fourth what others have said - I know a lot about my specific field but there are vast areas of economics I know almost nothing about.

CurlewKate · 20/06/2024 19:48

I have a PhD in English Literature. There are a million books I haven't read!

CassandraWebb · 20/06/2024 18:42

My daughter told me she was studying volcanoes and I got all excited because I studied them as part of my degree. She looked at me expectantly waiting for some fascinating facts and then I realised that all I can remember is that they are mountains that erupt Grin

Nellodee · 20/06/2024 18:24

I remember sitting my finals and thinking that my brain was like a super busy commuter train and the knowledge was the passengers. After each stop (exam) I visualised all the passengers getting off and all the new ones getting on and refilling the train.

Once those passengers disembarked, they were gone for good!

Scorchio84 · 20/06/2024 18:14

Pookerrod · 19/06/2024 10:28

I have a chemistry degree and struggle to help my DD with her Chem gcse homework without reading the textbook and doing some research myself first. I have forgotten everything.

DD has started doubting that I even went to uni!

😂I swear it all literally goes out the ear the minute you get your piece of paper! Full disclosure I "only" have a lowly degree

Scorchio84 · 20/06/2024 18:11

MiriamMay · 13/06/2024 18:19

Why does it matter?

Oh my god this with bells on... Jesus wept! Who cares who may or may not have qualifications if it does not directly affect your life?

cremebrulait · 20/06/2024 18:10

😂 seriously why do you think the cold war must be covers in a masters in polisci and economics? Its not a masters in history.

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 20/06/2024 18:09

Is it even possible to achieve a masters degree in this subject without covering the cold war?

Of course it is. I have a masters in politics and didn't cover the Cold War.

I specialised in other area. Politics is a very wide subject.

BlueFlowers5 · 20/06/2024 17:57

I must say having worked in the political environment I am used to some people trying to provoke me into heated discussion about my areas of former campaigning. I can spot it and hopefully gently sway the conversation sideways to avoid the attempted provocation.

If I engaged every time I'd be exhausted. Maybe OP your relative utilises a similar approach.

PloddingAlong21 · 20/06/2024 11:54

I did a Law degree which was 15 years ago. I remember very random case law which has zero relevance and nothing which would be useful and beneficial in anyway - like conveyancing law for when I bought my property, as my solicitor was useless.

Maybe she got her degree and memory from the same university as me….