To be angry husband forgot car seat for the 10+ time

I’m with you OP. If you are the main user and the default is setting is seat in your car then if he takes the car seat out of your car he puts it back that night.
If he can’t be trusted then get another seat.

Annoying yes but you are also capable of doing it yourself or reminding him the night before instead of him pissing about first thing before work taking it out

Well, you possibly are right but it's not worth the aggro.

Definitely second car seat. We have 2 kids…4 car seats at a time!!

It’s easily done when you are in a rush for work. After the 3rd time I’d of bought a new one. You are not being unreasonable for being annoyed but you are for being only annoyed at him. It’s your responsibility too.

^^ This!

Hang on back up why are you wrong? You are doing the equivalent of 5 full time jobs if you do t work so why do you need to remember the car seat why can’t he be responsible for one thing ??

If you needed it the next day you should have taken it out yourself the night before.

Why on earth don't you just both have a car seat 😂🤷🏼‍♀️. Surely that would solve this?

It's not wrong to forward face, it's just less safe than rear facing. And a harness is safer than a seat belt. And so on.

Stop it. Such bad advice. There is nothing wrong with forward facing a near 4 year old!

Great advice. A hbb is really not good enough for 3/4 year old.

Very concerning at the amount of people recommending high back boosters for a 3 year old! Very unsafe, they should be rearfacing in a harnessed seat still, the research is easy to find.

I bought a very expensive car seat for my car when my first grandchild was born - she’s now 9. Since then four more have been born, the youngest is now 2 1/2 and uses it still on the odd occasions it’s needed. I also bought another one suitable for when the eldest grandchild ‘gave up’ the first seat for her younger brother, as I’ve looked after the two of them since they were babies, doing school and pre-school runs, as my younger daughter and her husband both work. I now have 3 car seats for my car, so there’s no need for swapping seats between cars as it’s such a faffing about otherwise.

Ignore this comment , rear facing at this age is ridiculous the poor kids look so uncomfortable (cue loads of people saying noooo my kids love it - but they don't they're just kids who don't know any better) but as everyone has said - get another car seat. I'm surprised you've lasted this long without a car seat for each car!

Not unreasonable to be annoyed - just get another seat for the second car. Will make everyone’s life much easier!!

Op an alternative way of operating is to have one family car, and the other adult car.
So the child only ever in the family car. Either of you going with the child you take the family car.

I'm here to take your side OP. While it's obvious to suggest an extra car seat, that's not the way your household currently works.

Your DH has de-facto ownership of returning the car seat to the right car, and he should be competent enough to do that consistently. But he's only human and he's bound to miss it sometimes.

My DH has taken both sets of car/house keys multiple times over the years leaving me locked into the house with no transport. Extremely frustrating. He had to leave work a couple of times to bring them back when I needed to be somewhere. We now make sure we have easily accessible spare keys. But of course it hasn't happened again since then 🙄

My dad bought his own child car seats as soon as he had grandchildren as swapping car seats it's such an inevitable faff.

Op definitely 2 cars seats. I'm amazed you've lasted as long with just one seat.

We only had one baby seat, until DH went to work one day with it.
I didn't know until I went to do the school run with my oldest, having missed the school bus.
We went for a stage 0 /1

At the age of your LO is think I'd be tempted to by an Advansifix or some other stage 123 type seat.

@Goinggreymammy so I am in good company 😂

Lol. At one time I had 6 seats for 2 children... (2 cars and I got seats for my childminder also to make life simpler and safer). Even now my children are 10, 9, 6 and we still have boosters in both cars.

So I voted YABU because this problem can be easily solved if you can afford a second seat.

He’s selfish and should have remembered. It didn’t impact him so he didn’t bother to deal with it. However, one click on Amazon and tomorrow you’ll have a second car seat. It’s just not worth the hassle any more. Also good for emergencies etc. Always had car seats in each car here.

I think you need to buy another car seat

Well you’re not wrong to have been a bit annoyed but this is so easily done. The seat is in the back, you get in the front and pay zero attention to the back seat. People have actually managed to forget about live children in the back seat in similar circumstances.
It is also partly up to you to remember…
It is also an easy fix - get another car seat.