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To be angry husband forgot car seat for the 10+ time

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Dodgeballllll · 13/06/2024 16:37

I’m not really the kind of person to blow things out of proportion because life has dealt my family some tough blows and I feel like I have a balanced perspective generally on life and what to get stressed about.

HOWEVER I feel soooo angry because for what must be at least the 10th time since we had our 3.5 year old my husband has gone to work with one of the car seats in his car so when I came to leave this afternoon to go somewhere I couldn’t actually go because the car seat wasn’t in the car. It was transferred into his car last night because on a weds eve we meet at our son’s activity and he takes one car seat home with him with our other child in it. It sounds complicated but I’m so mad I can’t explain this properly!

AIBU to be enraged that he’s forgotten to transfer it back to my car this morning? I don’t understand how it’s possible to forget the same thing that many times!

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Jeannie88 · 20/06/2024 15:27

As others have suggested, one for each car avoids this situation. Xx

AliceOlive · 20/06/2024 15:23

Agree it’s best to get another car seat. This is a joint responsibility and should be figured out right after you get your child out of the car, not the next morning.

Inspireme2 · 20/06/2024 15:22

Second car seat.
Its easily forgotten.

NoThanksymm · 20/06/2024 15:19

I mean forgetting happens.

but investing in another car seat is cheaper than divorce! Lol. But seriously. Just get another car seat.

And this isn’t on you. He is the forgetting one. He should have been bringing up a solution.

Heidi75 · 20/06/2024 15:15

If you can afford it get another seat - it saves so much hassle

snowballedinhell · 20/06/2024 14:46

Yeah.. we each have a car seat - Joie 360 that is amazing

I couldn't be annoyed with swapping about, fuck that

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 20/06/2024 14:40

Dodgeballllll · 13/06/2024 16:46

Man I really thought I was right about this one! Thanks for the replies, second car seat it is. I shall humbly accept my fault in the matter and proceed to not give my husband an earful 😂

Car seats in each car are definitely the way forward. We actually have a car seat for DD2 in both mine and DH’s cars and both of my parents’ cars. She’s in them both regularly enough.

In the mean time, set a reminder on your phone to remember to sort the car seats out. Don’t leave it until the morning stress.

fieldsofbutterflies · 20/06/2024 14:34

GanninHyem · 20/06/2024 12:20

As a short arse adult I can tell you dangling legs with no where to rest them is a hell of a lot more uncomfortable than sitting crossed legged which most RF older kids do. It's downright painful. That's without the safety aspect, but keep making excuses for your poor choices, it's your kids safety at the end of the day.

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Why would their legs dangle? Confused

Reugny · 20/06/2024 14:32

TheaBrandt · 20/06/2024 06:47

Urgh feel sorry for these older kids rear facing - have always had terrible motion sickness sitting facing the wrong way would be hell! Can’t even do that on a train.

My DD only started throwing up when she was turned forward.

Reugny · 20/06/2024 14:31

My DD is taken out by a relative once or twice a month.

I just brought the relative a car seat after I had a conversation and realised that there are other little children that they go out with.

user1492757084 · 20/06/2024 14:30

Yes, you need a full set of car seats for each car.

JustMyView13 · 20/06/2024 14:27

I’d be fuming. But I’d also have bought a second car seat after the third time. I know they’re expensive but you can’t put a price on your own sanity 🫣

Roundroundthegarden · 20/06/2024 12:47

Common sense op- get 2. You could also forget at times. Why look for reasons to get angry when you can just not?

Bollindger · 20/06/2024 12:44

Don't think of this as a loss.
It is a win, you will never have car seat rage again.
The new seat will solve it for under £100.

Hinkuy · 20/06/2024 12:21

GanninHyem · 20/06/2024 12:20

As a short arse adult I can tell you dangling legs with no where to rest them is a hell of a lot more uncomfortable than sitting crossed legged which most RF older kids do. It's downright painful. That's without the safety aspect, but keep making excuses for your poor choices, it's your kids safety at the end of the day.

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They don't dangle, they have foot rests in my car. Same as when we go on a plane. Its not poor choices either, perfectly legal and safe to be forward facing at these sort of ages. You do you though hun.

GanninHyem · 20/06/2024 12:20

Hinkuy · 18/06/2024 13:57

Ignore this comment , rear facing at this age is ridiculous the poor kids look so uncomfortable (cue loads of people saying noooo my kids love it - but they don't they're just kids who don't know any better) but as everyone has said - get another car seat. I'm surprised you've lasted this long without a car seat for each car!

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As a short arse adult I can tell you dangling legs with no where to rest them is a hell of a lot more uncomfortable than sitting crossed legged which most RF older kids do. It's downright painful. That's without the safety aspect, but keep making excuses for your poor choices, it's your kids safety at the end of the day.

Tessabelle74 · 20/06/2024 12:12

YABU to not just buy another seat and save the hassle! We have a seat in both cars as you just never know when something unexpected may crop up and the other parent needs to collect from school etc

VineandIvy · 20/06/2024 09:12

You could probably just have the chat around look I was super annoyed/inconvenienced this morning. It’s probably best we get a longer term solution let’s get a second car seat. Then send him to get it with the wee ones in tow and take a bath 😂

TopBun · 20/06/2024 09:08

Is the irritation really about the car seat, or is it about you husband not thinking about anything but his own life?

TeenLifeMum · 20/06/2024 09:05

Oh well I’ve learned I’m a bitch from this thread but I made dh drive home and bring me the car seat the one time he did this. He worked an hour away. Like I said, he didn’t do it again. (Dd had a hospital appointment so not driving her wasn’t an option). She’s 16 now and he’s still with me.

MrsBlac · 20/06/2024 08:19

We used to have car seats in both cars. Just makes life easier.

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Heyhoitsme · 20/06/2024 07:22

We are grandparents yet we have a car seat in both our cars. Makes sense.

Coffeeismyfriend1 · 20/06/2024 06:59

The responsibility belongs to both of you but with kids in the morning it’s easy to forget something. I forgot my work keys yesterday! The easiest solution is two car seats. We actually need one on each car for DD as DH drops her at the childminders on his way to work and I pick both kids up from her after work. DS we could get away with one as they alway walk to school as it’s a short walk so DH doesn’t need one for him in the morning but it just easier to have two. If there is an emergency and the kids needed collecting from school/childminder it wouldn’t always be me or DH who would go; whoever answered their phone first would probably go as we both have jobs where you can’t always easily just drop everything and leave. So we both need a seat for each DC in our car.

Depending on what kind you go for at 3.5 £50-£200 to save all this hassle and the seat will last until they don’t need one anymore. We got DS’s last seat when he was 3.5 and it will last until he’s 12/doesn’t need a seat anymore. As they get older they’ll probably be more ‘well you take DC1 to football and I’ll take DC2 to gymnastics’ so in the long run it will save you lots of hassle.

Ladyj84 · 20/06/2024 06:51

All kids families I know including ourselves have car seats in all cars so no problem