NC for this as I’ve already confided in my sister and friend. I have lost 6 stone through diet & exercise after a lifelong battle with my weight and binge eating. It was very hard work and I still need to lose about 1 stone to reach a BMI of 25. During this time I also changed my hair colour from dark brown to blonde. I look completely different and so far have maintained my weight loss for the last 10 months. This isn’t a stealth boast - I’m still a size 14, have a lot of excess skin/apron tummy and general self esteem issues after a lifetime of being obese.
After I’d lost the first few stone, obviously people commented/complimented me. This was nice and made me feel good. It included friends, colleagues and clients. I do shift work and every 2-3 weeks I’m on with 3 particular women. One comes across as sweet but can be quite catty about others behind their backs, the others 2 are nice enough. If it’s relevant, the catty one is slim and blonde. EVERY single time I walk into the office, they keep exclaiming how slim I look (I’m not, just average). Gushing compliments, comments about how light my hair is and congratulations for “keeping THE weight off.”
It’s driving me mad now. I’m dreading every shift with them and feel incredibly self conscious. It no longer feels like a compliment and is starting to feel like very subtle bullying. Like I’m basically still the fatty and they can’t believe I’ve managed to stop stuffing my face all the time. Any good responses would be much appreciated. I can speak to their manager however it’d be really awkward then. So as to avoid drip feeding, they are all in their early 60’s.