DD kissing all the boys…….

The adults on here are thinking, oh it's just a little girl.But when you are9 another 9 year old in as big and old as you.It is just the same as if the office sleaze was blowing kisses at you at work all the time.

Not assaulting, no, but , it is harassment and it is sexual in nature.
Would you want a boy pulling down his trousers to your dd in school?
If this happened at our school ot would definitely be recorded as a safeguarding incident and be seriously dealt with.

I explained she’s the youngest in class and doesn’t understand what she’s doing.

You were vvvvvvvv unreasonable for saying this to a random 9 year old classmate of your DD. Let alone the reputation concern. Fucking. Hell.

If this is real (and I don’t think it is because why would you believe a random child and his hyperbole ?)

Talk to dd. It would not surprise me if this happened once or your dd blew a kiss to a friend and the boys changed it to a new story of dd having crushes and blowing a kiss to all of the boys. I’m surprised that you took everything they said at face value.

Ask her if she blows kisses at school and if she understands what blowing a kiss means (Most toddlers know the answer to this so I bet your dd does) Ime It’s ok to have no kisses at school rule because your dd might end up a lesbian or bi so blowing kisses to boys or girls is equally concerning for you.

If dd is going around saying that she has crushes on all of the boys and blowing kisses to them (check if they request it rather than her offering) then her classmates may talk about it because crushes etc is a topic that will give her age group the giggles.

You need a word with dd before someone uses a phrase like pedo or sexual harassment. I know that your dd has no sinister intentions but once someone says it out loud, it can’t be unsaid and she’s going to be devastated if someone labels her behaviour like that. She’s youngest in the class is a legitimate excuse in primary but she’s quickly of an age where it doesn’t matter unless she has a disability or other impairment that prevents her from understanding. It takes one kid learning words like that for it to spread through the class.

Well she's not going to get a sexual reputation but if you want to talk to her about physical appropriate boundaries just in case, that's probably a good idea for any child anyway. Just open your mouth and talk to her like a mother

Dropped my daughter aged nearly 9 to school today
and as I was walking I was stopped by 3 boys in her class (DD was in breakfast club so didn’t hear).
One said to me “X has a crush on all the boys in the year group and kisses the boys in class”.
He said she kisses her hand and blows kisses at them, I don’t know this boy but know the other 2.

So she is youngest in Y4, about to go into Y5?
3 boys stopped you....one you don't know did all the talking?
Why don't you know him? Is he new? He is clearly very confident to approach a mother he doesn't know but I find at that age lots of boys think it's impressive to try and shock people.

Boys of similar age used to walk past my house and tell me someone was murdered there (man dad of old age) or would tell me my girls had something to tell me, or had been in trouble. It rarely had even a grain of truth...that's the joke....Daisy swore at the teacher today is funny because she is least likely in the class to do that.

I would be suspicious that he is potentially bullying or teasing your daughter tbh. Or he has a crush on her....perhaps both.

I never called you a sex offender. Just pointing out that some people do, and I have seen "interesting" thread, one was a little boy showing his new batman pants or something.

I didn't say I agree

I don't think that you should be encouraging me to go and start a reverse about an imaginary 7yo boy getting naked. I am, after all, a known sex offender. 😂

Off your heads, the pair of you.

Yeah that's not how 9yr old boys work.
If they were the target and nor liking it ....if they spoke to anyone it wouldn't be the girls mum in passing!

What they were doing (assuming thus actually happened) was trying to embarrass her.
When things like this have been said to me or other parents it typical turns out to be very wide of the mark and the kids think it's hilarious and they have played a Brilliant joke 🙄

Start a thread saying a 7yo boy is flashing his underwear to every girl in the class.

I am sure you will get some very interesting replies 😂

Are you fucking kidding me? You think I was sexually assaulting other children at 7yo? Is there something wrong with you?

Seems she is getting the reputation of being annoying. You can discuss that with her, an 8 year old is more than old enough to understand what annoying me.

Sexual harassment for blowing kisses? Oh dear. Says more about the person who thinks that than the child

A 9 year old perpetrator? Seriously? Blowing kisses.

Thank God we don't have someone like you in our year group.

That's exactly what I thought.

Don't make a big deal, just speak to your DD about boundaries. She shouldn't be hugging or kissing anyone if they don't want to but don't frame it to her that she'll get a 'reputation'.

Well bully for you! , Personally I don't care much too much about the harassers.You clearly have given no thought to how the children you subjected to this might have felt.

Tell DD that she mustn't kiss or blow kisses at anyone at school. That kisses are for at home with friends and family and only ever when the other person wants the kiss.
She won't get 'a reputation' in the usual sense of the word, but she might get labelled as silly and a nuisance and causing embarrassment to other children, so she does need to be told imo.

A 'reputation'

No words 😳

Love your post! Really made me chuckle…
“…quickly whip out my whites for them to get a good look at” 🤭

The boys have raised it with her mum mostly likely because they don't like it, it is therefore sexual harassment. It is not the perpetrators intent, it is the victims perception which is what makes it harassment.

This has got to be a wind up?

My Dd aged 7 says she has 3 boyfriends and wants to marry them all. And the cat. I am not yet concerned that she’s heading for a life of bigamy/ bestiality/ because she’s 7 and this means sod all.

3 little boys have said something about your DD and your head has spiralled. Take a breath and talk to DD today about it and see what she says. If you’re still concerned give teacher a ring.

Seems like a non issue

P.S I got “married” in the playground in year 3 to my boyfriend of 1 week so how’s that for a reputation 🤣

Ffs OP a reputation?! She’s 9! Are you for real.

Firstly, what's wrong with children blowing kisses at eachother? Maybe she does fancy them? So what. She's 9. I don't really understand what kind of 'reputation' she could be getting. She's prepubescent!
The boys might have been saying that because they've a crush on her? It's all innocent stuff.

She sounds like quite an innocent 9 year old. My DD9 deffo wouldn’t want to contemplate blowing a kiss to a boy now. However one of her friends has 5 boyfriends of which one is my younger son and he doesn’t even know. This is what kids do. They also tell tales on eachother like the boys from your daughter’s class. It doesn’t matter. You could just talk to her about boundaries though as at 9 she’s old enough to understand.