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Do parents actually teach their children manners anymore?

28 replies

PleaseBePacific · 13/06/2024 07:12

I get the bus to and from work each day and every day without fail young people push to the front of the bus queue, this is everything from school kids in uniform to early 20s going to work. I go at a variety of times and stops so not the same people every day.

I have always taught my DC to wait their turn, AIBU to say most parents don't seem to bother these days?

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CelesteCunningham · 13/06/2024 08:32

It's a long time since I've been on the bus regularly, but IME at some stops there is a queue with people lining up directly from the stop. And at others (usually the busier stops with lots of routes), it's a free for all when the bus arrives. Are you sure you have the unspoken etiquette of your route right?

Beezknees · 13/06/2024 08:30

I don't drive so get the bus regularly and can't say this is something I've experienced.

redtomatoes · 13/06/2024 08:27

I could be that they’re being taught but then don’t practice the manners when out of sight of their parents - in the case of kids, anyway. I feel the same way as you and am sometimes surprised by good manners from a teen, which is a sad thing to say. I can’t excuse adults’ rude behaviour and it makes my blood boil - just yesterday I [lightly] elbowed a young woman and loudly said “Excuse me!” because she was completely pushing in front of me in a short queue for the bus. Just… why? It’s not going to leave without you, love.

I’m certainly teaching my 3-year-old and so far he’s quite polite with his ‘pleases’ and ‘thank yous’, and he’s obsessed with putting his rubbish in the bin (sometimes we pick up other people’s 😂). Hopefully I can maintain it…