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School Father’s Day sale

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Nimbus1999 · 13/06/2024 07:03

My kids school does a Father’s Day sale every year. I am separated from my ex and we 50/50 parent although our relationship is terrible and we only have the bare minimum communication.

I knew about the sale and asked him to give the 3 kids some cash. He hasn’t. I’m broke so begrudge having to spend cash I’ve put aside for other things for his Father’s Day present. Also have no cash in the house so would have to try to get to a bank before school. But on the other hand, all the kids will be buying their Dad’s a present and my kids enjoy it.

Incidentally, FD has never been a big deal to him. Although court said he can see kids every FD, he said he doesn’t want to.

YABU - Just give the kids some money so they can buy him presents.

YANBU - He should have given them some cash so it’s ok not to pay for his presents.

If it makes a difference, Mother’s Day was always a non event in our house and since splitting, I’ve always given the kids money for my own school gifts.

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Morph22010 · 13/06/2024 07:18

Seashor · 13/06/2024 07:08

I don’t believe for one minute that the school does this sale.

We used to do similar when my son was in mainstream and I helped in the pta. It was a fundraiser, basically we’d go to the pound shop or b&m and buy loads of cheap tat, things like best dad in the world trophy, whatever we could get thst was cheap and suitable, then the kids would pay I think £2.50 or £3 to choose a present and have it gift wrapped. Same also happened at Mother’s Day and Christmas, big fund raiser for the school

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Nimbus1999 · 13/06/2024 07:17

Like I said, I don’t have any cash in the house (not even £1!) so would have to drive to the bank and then presumably withdrawn £30 as different classes / school.

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Nimbus1999 · 13/06/2024 07:15

Seashor · 13/06/2024 07:08

I don’t believe for one minute that the school does this sale.

I’m not quite sure why you are accusing me of being a liar? The parents association organise it during school time and have done for years. I would normally give £5 each.

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Choice4567 · 13/06/2024 07:15

@Seashor why don’t you believe it? Our school does

Sirzy · 13/06/2024 07:15

If you can give them £1 each.

our school does it for Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, less than half the kids bring money in so they won’t be the only ones who don’t

purpleme12 · 13/06/2024 07:13

With fathers day, the way I see it is it's about my child really. That IS why I spend money on father's Day. Because of her. Because she wants to.

Abitorangelooking · 13/06/2024 07:12

Seashor · 13/06/2024 07:08

I don’t believe for one minute that the school does this sale.

Ours does this at Christmas and Easter. Fleecing parents puts the fun into fundraising. So I supply materials then the dc make stuff and we buy it. It’s brutal for the dc whose stuff doesn’t get bought

StormingNorman · 13/06/2024 07:11

I’d give them a few quid to get something small.

FWIW I think you should give the kids money for the FD gift and ex should do the same for MD.

It’s about the kids having something to give to you.

EmberAsh · 13/06/2024 07:09

Its a bit late if the sale is today but I would have queried this with the school when it was announced. You won't be the only family this affects and presumably they have an alternative activity for children who don't have a father in their life at all.
I would suggest contacting the school asking that these events cease going forwards and for today, explain to your children that you're making cards at home after school (if you have the resources to do that).

EmberAsh · 13/06/2024 07:09

Its a bit late if the sale is today but I would have queried this with the school when it was announced. You won't be the only family this affects and presumably they have an alternative activity for children who don't have a father in their life at all.
I would suggest contacting the school asking that these events cease going forwards and for today, explain to your children that you're making cards at home after school (if you have the resources to do that).

Seashor · 13/06/2024 07:08

I don’t believe for one minute that the school does this sale.

Spirallingdownwards · 13/06/2024 07:06

If you told them you don't have money for this would your kids really be that bothered?

When is the sale? in school hours or after because if after then don't go. If during don't send any money in.

If they ask tell them Dad says not to bother.

Beamur · 13/06/2024 07:06

I can see why he's an ex..
If you don't have any cash in the house, I'm not sure I would be willing to go to the bank for some before school.
Get the kids to make something at the weekend.
It's really really tactless of schools to do this.